Do you thinks it's appropriate for a married man to have lunch with a female coworker?

Answer 1

It's not appropriate for them to go out somewhere. At least it wouldn't be for my husband!

A good rule of thumb for couples is to avoid doing anything alone with a member of the opposite sex. It's just asking for trouble.

Some will say you are being paranoid, I say better safe than sorry. You'd be surprised what can happen when two people spend time alone together. And that rule goes for you too!

It's not about jealousy, it's just good common sense.

Answer 2

No, for the 3198757th time.

You are allowing the potential of giving a questionable appearance. Just think if someone who knows you saw you alone with another woman from a distance.

You by all means, need to avoid placing yourself in situation that could call your trust and faithfullness into question.

Legistically, you haven't done anything, but if you are married, it's more than just about "you". It's about your marriage and relationship.

You need to respect your relationship and your spouse enough to not give a reason to doubt you and cause mistrust to take place. It's not about jealousy, it's not about "right/wrong", it's about your love and respect for your wife / husband and the marriage relationship.

As well, get too close to the fire, you WILL be burned. Don't lead or allow yourself into temptation.

This is good, common sense.

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Answer 3

If it's strictly an A and B conversation relating work, I think it's fine. If it's just for the heck of it, I would say play it safe by inviting a third or even fourth person. I have already had someone leave me for a co-worker who he "hung out with and had lunch with" all the time. So if you don't keep your eyes open, something unsuspected may happen even though the initial bad intentions may not be there from the start . No one's ever really looking out for you, so it's your responsibility to look out for yourself. It's not a matter of trust or insecurities. It's about respecting each other. Where there is true love, there is also respect.

Answer 4

No, it is never okay for a married man to take a single female coworker to lunch. If you even want to consider doing it, it should be discussed before you do, out of respect for your spouse. My husband did that with a former coworker,. And he is in deep trouble with me. His former coworker krystal B, is a young woman with no morals , and no respect for anyone elses wife. She has a boyfriend , I deeply pity the poor guy or any other man who gets with this s**t.

Answer 5

I have a really awesome guy friend that I love hanging out with. We are both married, and happily so. He has been married for 11 yrs and has 4 children. He loves his wife deeply and is a wonderful daddy. That is why I like him so much. Our relationship did make his wife jealous at first. To help with this, I always talked to her when I called. Most of the time I talked through her, "Ask Jeff about...." If she wanted to hand him the phone she did. I was sure to make sure that she and my husband were aware of everything we did, and I made the effort for all of us to hang out. It is possible that the relationship is perfectly innocent. But, if she is a friend of your husband's maybe you should meet her. Now, I am friends with my friends wife as well. My husband thinks the world of the both of them also. He did admitt later that he was just a tiny bit jealous at first. Which I think is adorable!

Answer 6

I am married and go with my male co-workers to lunch often. My husband is aware, while he has never met them, I have talked about them with my hubby and he knows that there is nothing "sneaky" going on. It all depends on the situation. Did this "coworker" magically appear? Have you met or seen this woman at all. You should be able to trust your man, but if he is known for lying and whoring, then you can pretty much ans. your own question!

Answer 7

I see nothing wrong with it, however, it can lead to other things (or stem from other things)

I am married and a couple of the ladies I work with, I have had lunch with (separately and together) but we only had lunch.

However, when I was younger (and single), I did have "lunch" with married co-worker and we werent having food --- that was 15-20 years ago, when I was 20-22ish and foolish.

Answer 8

It depends. If they both just like the same place, wanted to go there on the same day, and just decided to "tag along" with each other, that's cool. Or if it's just once in a great while. However, if it's an "I'm attracted to this person" lunch or all the time, that's a little unnecessary.

Answer 9

Its not a problem if the environment does not allow him to leave the office and the female worker willingly calls to her colleague to share the lunch, its not a big deal. However it should be avoided instead to create any problem among others. Such consistency attracts some other things, a misunderstanding even among female workers, so better to avoid.

Answer 10

Yes, for the 3198756th time. It's just lunch. If the spouse is going to cheat, he/she will find anyone to cheat with anywhere. If you don't trust him, then say that, but don't allow something like this to eat away at you. Always wondering; always insecure;never trusting. There's bigger issues here.