Have you ever started dating a guy when he had a lot of irons in the fire, and you were kinda put on the back burner to a point where you thought that it could even be someone else, but you stuck it out anyway. If so tell me what happened, and how did you feel, and what were the end results for sticking it out, and are there any women who wish they would have stuck it out, but didn't, and are there any women who are glad they did not stick it out?
2007-08-28 08:06:48 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've dated a guy like that. I am in my 40's and realize that with a job, a house to keep up, errands to run, kids to take care of, etc. that I should not and did not expect to always be number one on his list of priorities. I did however expect to be in the top five, depending on the day and the circumstances. I stuck it out for awhile and we even discussed it. Things changed for only a matter of weeks before we were back to square one. Time for this girl to head on out the door.
2007-08-28 13:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me, I'm sticking it out...but only for my daughter. For some reason I don't think he'll ever NOT have too many irons in the fire and forsake us for whatever else needs to be done. And I use the term "Needs" loosely. We aren't priority, I'm damn near certain...but I'm hopeful for my daughters sake that things will change. I was about to do my usual turn tale and run, I called to "schedule" some time with him. I didn't want to say goodbye via email or over the phone. Plus I wanted my house key back. He put me off for days. Oddly during that time I had a dr. appt for something else and found out I was PG. I almost didn't tell him...but everyone said that wasn't right. So I told him, but gave him the free and clear option to move on and never look back. He chose to stick around, but after days of not hearing from him....I want so bad to take her and run just so she'll never know the hurt of a father who puts his child last.
2007-08-28 15:40:49 · answer #2 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stuck it out and now I wished I hadn't. I kept hoping, eventually I would be the most important thing/person in his life. Because I wasn't, and I wanted to be I kept making up excuses to friends and family. Flowers, gifts, etc. are all nice but tell a women you need her and love her. If you are not willing to make time and make her feel important why enter a relationship? It takes work. Pull one of your irons out of the fire and put that time, energy, focus, etc. on her!!!!
2007-08-28 15:26:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I feel like I'm on someone's "back burner", I move on naturally. If one person doesn't make an effort to "impress" me, there will always be someone else who does.
2007-08-28 15:22:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't stick around and glad I didn't. Why stay with someone that has you on the bottom on the list of his priorities?
2007-08-28 15:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋