I was in a relationship with someone for over 2 years including a tour of duty in iraq & lots if distance. He was the most perfect match for me. When he came home from overseas he was sent off on another assign. that he couldn't share with me so I thought he had abandoned our relationship. I moved on a few months later after no contact & have been with the new bf a year now. We are having serious problems now with our relationship he is not working I am handling everything and feel as if the relationship is 1 sided & I found out he has cheated. I do love him and want 2 try 2 work things out but... my ex just emailed me to say he is going 2 be in the states this month & wants 2 see me. I do want 2 see him & still have feelings 4 him. Now that I know why he left as he did, I am not angry anymore and do want 2 see him. I feel if I go things may happen that probably shouldn't...I have missed him terribly tho' I have never chated on new bf I don't know what to do...should I go or tell ex no
2007-08-28 07:57:59 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Not that I want to hook back up with the ex that is not the issue here. There is just alot of undisclosed issues with what happened & feel as if I could get some answers or closure it would maybe help put some feelings to rest. We had a really good friendship first and foremost & I harbor alot of feelings of abandonment 2 so I think it would do me good to be able to put it to rest. I do know what could happen but I also know that it is controllable, we all as adults know that. Going doesnt mean cheating.
2007-08-28 08:31:43 · update #1
Some of us women loose all perspective when we begin to care emotionally for someone.
Here's a perspective for you: you're single, not married. Given your current bf's and ex's histories . . . GO GO GO !!!
Don't feel guilty, you can sort it all out after consulting Mr. Wonderful. Tell him all the facts about your current situation.
Best wishes, yippee!
2007-08-28 08:07:32 · answer #1 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, if this most recent boyfriend cheated on you, kick his sorry *** to the curb. You don't deserve that at all. If you want to see this ex, then do it. I was broken up with mine for 2 months, then I moved back in and we were married a week later. It's weird how things work out. Maybe they'll figure out how to work out for you as well. Good luck.
2007-08-28 15:11:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should absolutely, without a doubt resolve the problems with your current boyfriend before you even consider starting a new relationship with your old guy. How did it feel when your current guy cheated? you don't want to be a cheater. think about how hurt you were..you are above cheating, and you can choose to handle the situation with dignity and grace, or be no better than every other cheating, lying person out there.
2007-08-28 15:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by dfh932 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not about your ex or your current bf.....this is about you......what's best for you and what you want. Your current bf hasn't earned your respect nor your trust, and apparently he's no good for you right now. I think you should give your ex a chance to explain things......and who knows......... If I were you and I said no...I would regret it for the rest of my life for not knowing what would have happened.
2007-08-28 15:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go if you can't restrain yourself. That is not fair to do to your current bf, even if you are having problems.
After all, how would you like it if he did that to you?
2007-08-28 15:03:54 · answer #5 · answered by BK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go Totally!! The new guy sounds like he isn't worth having so what do ya have to lose? GO GIRL....
2007-08-28 15:03:32 · answer #6 · answered by LilSunbeam 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say go see him
2007-08-28 15:06:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋