Is it ok to flirt if you are married?

Question

honest opinions please...isnt that cheating? What is to be gained really?

Answer 1

I don't think that it is right to flirt when your married.

Answer 2

Flirting is only cheating when the intent of the flirt is to entice sexual
responses/relations. It's not the flirt that adulterous; it's the flirter.
People flirt to have fun and to spice up dull conversations.
And all one gains is a fanciful escape from a reality of immediate
boredom until they can get home to their spouse and embrace the real thing. It's sort of like role-playing without the physical contact. Just teasing and making time pass.

Answer 3

I am not married but no, not ok to flirt if u r married because in that way u dont really love ur spouse and cheating. I have heard problem like this before and they end up divorce.

Answer 4

I don't think of it as cheating if both people know where to draw the line. There is the fun flirting that just makes you feel like you still have what it takes to draw that attention and you just like the attention so you play on it.

All depends on how you and your spouse view it. Some people are secure with their relationship and know harmless fun flirting when presented with it. Then there are those who get jealous so you just need to know each others views.

When I flirt with my BF it is a different flirting than when I am with male friends.......

oh and if you go to dictionary.com the meaning of flirting is :

1.To make playfully romantic or sexual overtures.
2.To deal playfully, triflingly, or superficially with: flirt with danger.
3.To move abruptly or jerkily.

So there are different versions of flirting .......

Answer 5

Flirting means different things to different people, firstly, so this is a loaded question and will be met with a lot of conflicting views.

I think when you are secure in your marriage and friends know you, that you can be yourself, "flirt" or what have you, and it's all innocent when you are happy and content and amongst lifelong friends.

I think this is why you get a variety of responses and it's difficult to answer a question like this.

If you are unsure of your ground, your mate's flirting or your own insecurity of someone else flirting with your mate is bound to raise a lot of anxiety.

But you should not let someone else's actions affect YOUR relationship, and if your partner's actions bother you, you should tell them they do and why they do.

I like to give new people we meet the benefit of the doubt when it comes to innocent banter, because I don't mind that someone finds my husband attractive. I find other people attractive, but that doesn't mean I want to jump into bed with them either, it just is a way of breaking the ice sometimes and cutting down to feeling at ease with someone.

I think the older you get and more mature you get the more responsible you are for your actions. There comes a time you have to trust your partner and trust that when you made this commitment (if you are married) it is for life, but that doesn't mean you have to stop living and hide under a veil...I mean to each their own, but that is how I see it.

I find it ridiculous that anyone would think I was trying to steal thier mate or anything, and I know my husband well enough after 18 years to give him some slack too.

I dont intentionally flirt with danger either...if I sense someone is "hot" for me I will avoid them like the plague. But if we meet a nice couple and they are great fun, and we're having a lot of laughs, I don't mind that my husband has a laugh with her and I have a laugh with him, because in exploring people while in a "safe" zone it kind of allows us to grow to and discover new things within ourselves. I don't know how else to put that.

You need to retain a little bit of who you are otherwise you will lose yourself become dull and depressed and ask "what went wrong"....well you play a role in keeping yourself alive and well too you know, and I don't need to OWN my husband 100 percent you know? I think you end up killing the essence of who your mate is when you reign them in and keep them locked up, figuratively speaking of course. One must always grow and to be happy there must be trust and respect.

We would not have made a vow if we didn't intend on keeping it. But that's us and can't say it means the same thing to all people.

Answer 6

of course not, it is not ok to flirt if you are married. it definitely is cheating. most definitely.....nothing is to be gained but some guys just do it for the hell of it. others because they want to find someone easy that they can get with only for pleasure. like a one night stand. someone they can use then just throw away like a piece of used paper towel.....get the idea

Answer 7

just don't touch...flirting is innocent...but your partner might take it the wrong way. You can flirt, but don't go home with him.

Some women/and or men feel that just because they are married, that they don't have the same fire that they used to have before they were married so they feel like they need some attention from someone else to make sure they still have their game or that their looks are still great.

Answer 8

The harmless verbal flirting I use or other friends on here use , is not going to hurt anyone. It's just to acknowledge someone you like in a kinda fun exciting way.

Answer 9

NO it is not ok to flirt when your married you made a commitment to that person that you would stay true to them. Even though flirting can be harmless that out person wont see it like that.

Answer 10

It surely not , when you got married you made a promise in front of people and in the sight of god , god ordained marriage and he hated adultery that is what you would be doing you made also a promise to your wife and to your husband that you are going to be faithful until death do you part and miost of all it is a very bad sin agenst god and you will punished by god for that sin.

Answer 11

Honestly? No, it's not okay. If you wanted to flirt, why get married in the first place?