i haven't had a relationship or sex in over 6 years & could really care less if i ever do . i'm only 37 & i use to have a healthy sex life
2007-08-28 07:21:37 · 41 answers · asked by flossymae 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
could it have anything to do with me having a partical hysterectomy12 years ago
2007-08-28 07:24:40 · update #1
people.... i'm a girl , the hysterectomy didn't tip you off?
2007-08-28 07:32:11 · update #2
It's not at all. Sex, to many people, especially the youth crowd, think if you don't have it you must be some extra-terrestrial. I think sex is something sacred and I'm even thinking of holding it until I get married. Sex is one of the most special things in the world that people take for granted.
So not wanting sex isn't a bad thing, it's actually a good thing. But if you actually horny, masturbate. Hey it's sex with someone you love.
2007-08-28 07:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by Austrian Theorist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there isn't anything wrong with that.
It could be the hystorectomy. Women that have a hystorectomy experience menopause (which includes a lower sex drive) an average of 15 years before women that haven't had a hystorectomy.
Hey, it could be worse. I'm married and my sex drive is gone the last year or so. I also had a hystorectomy and am now 39. My husband is quite a bit older than me and has no problem if he make love or don't.
Kids think sex is the end-all-be-all, but that won't sustain a relationship and I've found out that it isn't even close to being one of the more important parts as long as you are both satisfied with the way things are.
2007-08-28 07:31:06 · answer #2 · answered by nite_angelica 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a couple of questions for you.
When you say "no sex" are you including masturbation?
Do you feel un-fullfilled?
And yes, the partial "hysterectomy" may have a good deal to do with the balance of hormones, which creates the sex drive.
Are you happy? You say you are content....if this is the case then who cares?
Personally, and I am about 4 years into menopause, I can't for the life of me remember what all the fuss was about. I can't believe how much time I spent on trying to have sex. Lack of estrogen is a real time saver.
If you are happy and HEALTHY, then why even question the matter. If you are not then perhaps a visit to your gyn would be in order.
Good luck to you.
Peace.
2007-08-28 07:33:11 · answer #3 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be lots of things: some people just have low sex drives, so you could just naturally be the kind of person who doesn't want/need a lot of sex. It could also be that you were so badly hurt (emotionally, physically, or otherwise) in your last relationship that you have convinced yourself that you don't need love or sex anymore. It could very well be the partial hysterectomy, as that will significantly lower a sex drive unless you take hormone supplements. If it is bothering you, see your doctor. If you are fine with it, though, then fine- you can just be a celibate adult woman. There are lots of people who are celibate by choice. Good luck!
2007-08-28 07:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could very well have a lot to do with the partial hysterectomy. If you are OK with not having sex then there is nothing wrong with it. You may want to talk to a doctor and see exactly what is causing this lack of enthusiasm and find out what can be done about it for future reference.
2007-08-28 07:29:18 · answer #5 · answered by The Oracle of Delphi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 38. I've been incurably single since my divorce in 2001. My last relationship was two years ago. I don't think not wanting sex is bad. Maybe sex represents something very negative for you. If you have no drive you can't really fake it for someone else's sake now can you.
When it's time for you to want it again, you'll want it. Until then don't let passing of time or some well meaning person in your life cause you to doubt what is in your own soul.
2007-08-28 07:33:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if I wasnt married and married to a man with "needs" I wouldnt have sex either!
Yes sometimes a hysterctomy can cause a lack of sex drive- BUT NOT for 12 years! LOL (laugh out loud!)
Seems like there is more to the story here! Any abuse issues in the past? What happened to change your sex drive?
When the time is right, it will happen.
You dont have to have sex to be a happy person, but if you have a partner and not sharing a sex life that can be very difficult if he has a sex drive and you dont have one.
2007-08-28 07:31:13 · answer #7 · answered by tpettee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sex drive is just extremely low. IT's really not a big deal if you don't care about it. But I would think if you were in a relationship that it would cause some issues with your other half. But if you don't seem to mind it, then I wouldn't worry about it! If you end up with someone and still have the problem, I would probably see a doctor or specialist about it!
2007-08-28 07:25:37 · answer #8 · answered by nuniestar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not bad, it's your choice. But I guess if you're asking about it, it is bothering you. Did you enjoy sex in the six years after your hysterectomy? If not, I guess that may have something to do with it. But really, if you do want to have sex, find someone you like and seduce them. If you don't, then don't.
2007-08-28 07:29:02 · answer #9 · answered by expie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess if you are happy with that, then it's not "bad".
I would question "why" you are no longer interested in sex or having a relationship. To go from some one who had a healthy sex life to one who has had no desire in years, does seem a bit strange though.
2007-08-28 07:26:23 · answer #10 · answered by candy'sroom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋