so a while back i bought my fiance and i a 12 pack box of condoms. my fiance HATES condoms, but we had to use them because i was switching birth control and wanted to be sure we wouldn't get pregnant.
anyway, we only used about 3 or 4. i looked in the box this morning and there's only 4 left.
i keep telling myself that he hasn't cheated on me....he's not that type of guy and he would NEVER do that to me. he's very big on trust. but what else could it be?? how else could those condoms have gone??
p.s. i AM going to talk to him about it today whenever i get a chance. it's just kinda driving me crazy. there has to be some other explanation, but i can't think of any.
2007-08-28 06:55:22 · 14 answers · asked by Kristabella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh, and we live together and have no other roommates. there haven't really been any other signs or cheating...he pretty much always answers my calls, he still wants sex with me pretty often (we haven't used the condoms in months cuz i got an IUD)...i'm just having a hard time thinking of other reasons the condoms could have disappeared, because i do trust him and i really don't think he cheated.
2007-08-28 07:58:16 · update #1
I would try to calm down and stop worrying until you talk to him but do it as soon as possible before you drive yourself crazy.When you do talk to him you want to be calm and make sure you are just asking what happened to them rather than accusing him of cheating. He may have given them to a friend or done something perfectly innocent with them. If he is really big into trust then he wouldn't be a hypocrite and betray yours. The rush to assume the worst thing possible is a easy one, I have done it myself. Good luck
2007-08-28 07:08:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you and your fiance? Do you have any kids already? If you do and they are older, that might be an option.
Other than that, maybe your fiance has a few in his wallet or car.
I'm sure he'll have a logical reason when you talk to him today... I would hope that if he were stupid enough to cheat on you, he'd be smart enough to get condoms somewhere else so you wouldn't find out this way.... Unless of course, he wanted you to find out.
In my opinion, I don't think he's cheating. If he's acting the same as he always has, you have NOTHING to worry about. If he's not lying, ignoring your phone calls and coming home late from work every night, I think things are ok. Try not to jump to conclusions and worry yourself to death until you talk to him.
2007-08-28 14:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could he have given some to his friends knowing you guys wouldn't need all of them? I don't know, I trust my husband but if I were in that situation I would be suspicious. You know your man more than we do, so go with what you know, just make sure you're not to be too naive. The fact is that men cheat all the time and even if you dont' think he would, he just might.
2007-08-28 14:13:05 · answer #3 · answered by Violet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's something only he can answer. But if he was cheating surely he's not dumb enough to use the condoms that you guys bought knowing that there would be less in the box!
2007-08-28 14:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where is the box stored? if in his sock/underwear drawer or night stand did you check to see if they fell out and are in the bottom of the drawer?
Also you think you used 3 or 4???? With that low of a number you SHOULD know if you used 3 or if it was 4! ! !
Also does he live alone? If not could have his roommate used/taken some?
2007-08-28 14:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes using those condoms to cheat he has to be the biggest idiot on the face of this planet....theres a friggen drug store on every corner now...
2007-08-28 14:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by Mergler 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My guess the rest are in the car or his wallet or under the bed they fell out of the box.
2007-08-28 14:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he just has them in his wallet or his car in case you guys get freaky somewhere other than the bedroom. Just a suggestion though...if it's not that then you may have a problem.
2007-08-28 14:01:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have cheated. But maybe he just jerked off with them on.
2007-08-28 14:06:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesnt need them, or like them. He could have given them to buddies, he could have thrown them in the garbage, made water balloons out of them.....lots of other options.
2007-08-28 14:01:49 · answer #10 · answered by Cebsme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋