I am new to this board. This one I fell really hard for, he says he has feelings for me but with everything going on in his life, he just can't give me the relationship that I deserve or should have. Wants me to still be his friend and still see each other, and talk on the phone. What he doesn't realize is that everytime I see it just about kills me. What do I do should I just chalk it up to lession learned, or should I give time and space to get his life straight (going through a divorce with two small children) and be patient. I am so confused. He says he doesn't want me out of his life just can't give me 100% right now.
2007-08-28 06:34:19 · 12 answers · asked by alwaysbroken 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have strong feelings for him and you know in your gut that you want to be with him, then remain his friend, continue to do what you've been doing. Seeing as he has his divorce and children to take care of at this time, he can really use the friendship and support. Show him that you are there for him in his time of need and that you support him. He has already expressed to you that he has mutual feelings but that he just has so much going on that he needs some time. Once he has cleared some space on that loaded down plate of his, things will fall into place. Just be the best friend and companion that you can be and be patient. Be thankful that you are still able to be in his life and spend time with him.
Good luck.
2007-08-28 07:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only put into a relationship what you expect to get in return. If he can't give you 100% then you shouldn't either. You have to cut your losses now and go on with your life. If later on he comes back to you with his situation straightened out then you can look at giving him a shot, but I bet you by then you will have moved on. What is the worst that could happen? You actually find someone for you that makes you happy? Anything else that happens is just life and you have to take it in stride.
2007-08-28 13:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard but hang in there, give him his space.
If it hurts too much just talk on the phone occationally, if he's just getting divorced, he's in no condition to settle down with someone.
I reccommend that you take 3 months off from contact and then hang out.
2007-08-28 13:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by Beagle_Boy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course he doesn't want you out of his life, your his booty call girl!
They are all going through a divorce huh
I have a friend who is 45 and still waiting for her man friend to go through his divorce after 15 years. She has wasted her life on this loser. Please don't be like her
2007-08-28 13:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by Hi its me again 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ok......i went thru almost the same with my BF........I gave him space, taked to him, and dated. I acted patient but i wasnt and after he knew i was kinda moving on he woke up. Now we have been together for 2 yrs. Try that and I hope it works for you. Good luck@!
2007-08-28 13:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jen S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think hes playing with you, hes still hopeing for his wife to come back to him, your wasting your time, dump him & move on
even if he gets his divorce he not going give you what you want
& a friend of mine is going throw the same thing, & its been 2 yrs his divorce is not done yet that what he says & whenever me & my friend try to talk to him, he says i'm doing this for my kids & i'm waiting for her (his ex) bcoz of the kids & he don't want to leave my friend either lol
2007-08-28 13:44:37 · answer #6 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants you when HE wants you, nothing more. The "can't give you what you deserve" is the oldest line in the book... Go find someone else, get very involved with them, and then, make sure this LOSER see's you happy with someone else...
He's sooooooooo taking advantage of you, and its sad that you can't see it.
2007-08-28 13:55:56 · answer #7 · answered by sunflowergal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wanted to be with you, he would make time for you. That's the bottom line. So start filling up your life with hobbies, classes, work, friends, family whatever...Let him figure himself out. It sounds like he won't be ready for awhile.
2007-08-28 13:46:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him space at least hes being honest with you.
2007-08-28 13:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by redsky_too_nite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's being honest with you he needs his space also.
2007-08-28 13:47:39 · answer #10 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋