Recentley my ex fiancee and I broke up. Under OKLAHOMA law am I required to give it back? He said I could keep it.. then quickly changed his mind and decided he wanted it back. Can anyone find the law for Oklahoma that answers my question??
2007-08-28 05:44:35 · 15 answers · asked by Bell 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
The ring is paid off.. he broke up with me.. and was already with someone else. and I need the money.
2007-08-28 05:55:47 · update #1
Since HE broke up with You, I say you should keep it. F*** what everyone else says.
2007-08-28 07:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by COLTSfansince1994 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
The moral thing to do is return it regardless of who broke it off. It was given to you with a promise between you two that you would marry ~ the marriage did not take place, he paid for it, it is his. Period.
You need money, get it in some honorable way or sell some things you have at home that you don't need any longer.
And if he decides to take you to court, you may end up having to pay court costs and lose the ring, too, so that would be an added expense for you to pay.
Honor seems to be a thing of the past, too, just like common sense :(
2007-08-28 13:01:28 · answer #2 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Add to sarge's list that Illinois requires you to give back the ring for the same reason as smedrik listed: it's a promise that was not fulfilled and thus should be returned. There is case law regarding this, and if Oklahoma does not have a law regarding this, they may defer to states who do.
2007-08-28 13:16:26 · answer #3 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't speak for Oklahoma, but in every other state I have lived in (Alabama, California, Colorado, Georgia, Michigan, Ohio, and Texas) the groom is entitled to get the ring back and can take you to court for it. Question for you: Why would you not give it back? I would think it would be a painful reminder of a relationship gone bad unless you sell it or trade it in. If you do that you're going to appear self-serving, which means you'll NEVER have a chance to get back together with your ex and any guy who finds out about it is going to disappear from your life instantly. It's not worth the trouble. Give it back.
2007-08-28 13:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what state you live in, and what kind of lawyer you get. Sometimes the courts take into account who did the breaking-up, sometimes not.
Really, you should give it back---if for no other reason than it was a very, very expensive present that he bought. Even though you had to go through heartache during this breakup, you didn't lay out the money. If you'd bought him a car, and asked him to marry you, you'd expect the damn car back, no? Same deal. You may "need" the money, but that's not a good enough reason. You'll waste the value of it in court if he decides to fight you on this.
2007-08-28 13:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by majenkies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's any LAW concerning engagement rings.. However, why would you want to keep a ring that someone else bought you to enter into marriage? The right thing to do would be to give it back.. He earned the money to buy the ring and he has the right to do with it as he pleases... My sister has an engagement ring collection 5 or 6 rings.. Which is my next point what do you say to the "potential" suiter that sees that collection.. "these are from my ex's!"... I don't think that's right.... Good luck
2007-08-28 12:55:22 · answer #6 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He gave you the ring and you accepted it because you planned to be married. If you are now no longer accepting his proposal of marriage you should give the ring back.
In most states (all I know of) the courts will view this the same way. They will award him with the ring if he wants to take you to court for it.
if you do the right thing by giving it back, even if he says you can keep it,. you can avoid these problems.
Why would you want it? Why would you take it other than to sell it and get money; taking advantage of your x.
2007-08-28 13:01:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doubt you will find a law concerning it. The general "rule of thumb" (and conscience) is if the female broke the engagement, she gives it back. If he broke it off, she keeps it.
2007-08-28 12:51:52 · answer #8 · answered by sensible_man 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
An engagement ring is a gift given upon the condition of marriage. Generally, since the contract of marriage has not been fulfilled the ring must be returned.
2007-08-28 12:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by smedrik 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Pawn the sucker! LOL. Good luck!
Wow! There are a lot of grumpy people on here today! My answer was all in fun. Y'all answered the morally correct answers I normally would have posted, so I thought I'd be silly. Oh, well.
2007-08-28 13:05:26 · answer #10 · answered by Tink 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋