I have evrything i want great husband, a great son, great family and great friends.?

Question

but i feel sad sometimes like i'm missing something. i get jealous when other people go out to party's. we're only 24 and we don't get to do that that much because of our wonderful son. but i envy everyone. most of the time i don't care i like being home with my family instead but when i look at pics o myspace i envy those people that get to do it :( is that normal.

Answer 1

Completely normal sweetie. I was single til I was 40 somethin, then got married and had a little girl. (who's 3 now) and I still envy folks living that other life. But then, my baby girl does something that floors me or makes my heart flutter, and I know that the life I have is many many times better. What I'm trying to say is, yea, going out is fun, but a loving family.....you can't get any better.

Answer 2

A happy parent makes a great parent, kids are like a sponge and can sense when there paren'ts arent happy and most kids will blame them selves, really, no matter what age. Even a baby in its first five years will learn more and adapt to its environment quicker than any time in his life.

So , you have a life, and you should have a separate life from your family. Never lose who you are, remember you are like your son, your still growing.

Take the time to plan your months, 12 months equal 24 times out alone with your husband and 12 times out with your friends at a minimum.

Get a sitter, a family member, or friend. Some people even rent out a rooms to a university student or nursing student or a teacher who is paying back student loans. (exchange students are the best , there here on a visa and will not do anything wrong) . Free rent for exchange of babysitting at nights. most students study hard and stay in most nights.

Theres always a way, but the main thing is for you to be happy, all the time , you are a role model in a very important little persons eyes. If he grows up seeing you happy and having fun and being around Friends, chances are he will be the same way when he grows up.

Good Luck, Live once, live well.

Answer 3

I think it is normal for young parents to feel this way. I am a 27 year old stay at home mom of a 5 year old and 11 month old. I have been with my husband for 12 years, I sometimes get jealous that my husband gets to leave the house all day while I am home with the kids, but this is what we decided was best for our children until they are both in school. Most of our friends are without kids and party alot and I do envy them, that they have the freedom to do that without worrying about kids at home, but then when I see my babies sleeping and playing and learning new things everyday and especially when those little arms go around my neck with the sweetest hugs and kisses, it makes it all worth missing. I would not trade all of this for one day of partying.
Try going over to other couples homes that have children and make playdates, I know it doesnt sound as fun as going to a party, but it will get you out and about.

Answer 4

It is normal. You are young and sometimes you get jealous of your peers that haven't settled down with a family yet. Lots of people feel the same way. I started my family when I was 18yrs. old. I can remember feeling the same way. You should try to do some of these things. Have at least a once a month date night for you and your husband and do things that you feel your missing out on. Maybe your son's grandparents (his or yours) would be willing to have your son spend the night with them, so you guys can get a little crazy once in awhile. But remember the crazy scene isn't all its cracked up to be and there are many of your peers that are searching for the wonderful life that you have. You will also be able to enjoy these things when your son is older while your peers are just settling down.

Answer 5

You know what...I am going through the exact same things as you. I see my friends pictures of keg parties and their friends pictures of trips they've taken. I get a little blue because I know I was once like that 3 years ago. Now, I'm engaged and we have a 2 year old daughter. We can get a babysitter once in a blue moon and last Saturday was the blue moon and we went out to a club but it wasn't the same...we argued for the most of it! We can't just get up and say "hey, lets go to a bar, let's go to the beach for the weekend..." I have excepted that I have a family now and my party years are over. I did a lot of partying so I'm not too sad that they're over but anyways, when I think of those girls that are out at party's and stuff I just remember that when I did that I also woke up with horrible hangovers, was playing stupid games with guys just trying to find a decent guy, I was blowing my money on everything but apporpriate things, and I wasn't paying attention to my life that was passing me by so quickly. I guess we all just gotta grow up and realize it! You and I are both holding on to the good times of our past when we need to realize that good times are happening as we speak. I have also come to the conclusion that I get blue about the past because I was always busy and something new was always happening and now I do the same things every single day. So I have figured out that I need to plan a week in advance of different things we can do as a family and also come up with a hobby I can do. I've thought about taking a dance class or joining classes at the local gym. I hope my advice works for you.

Answer 6

Get a sitter and go out once in awhile.Marriage is the most wonderful thing in the world,but I see so many fall through the cracks because so many forget how to enjoy each other without the children.I am a old man in many peoples eyes "sixty-one" and believe you I lived the life when I was younger.Now my wife and I have been together for twenty-six years and we make a point in going out almost every week-end now that the children are raised,but during the raising them we still had to have our time together.We enjoy most of our lives together,I look at every day as it might be the last here on earth so I still enjoy it.The thing is don't get caught up in a boring life style it will drag you down in the mud,Live it to the fullest.We are just common working people and have no money for large things in life,but on my tombstone they can put "He wasn't boring." Please sit down with your husband and explain to him what you want,I'm sure he will understand.GOOD-LUCK hope this helps.

Answer 7

You married young, so I understand how you would think you are missing something.

I wouldn't base things just on what people say on MySpace. There are pitfalls in every situation.

Instead of wishing for what you don't have, focus on what you do have. You can make your situation change. Set up a night each month to go out with your friends and a night to just go out with your husband. I'm sure you can find a sitter for that . Invite people over and have your own party.

Life is what you make it and it's too short to keep looking over the fence.

Answer 8

You have "parent remorse". this is a lot like "buyers remorse" in that you have the hubby you have the kid, but now you are thinking... I should have waited.. I should have gotten that "other life".

Thats not to say you don't love hubby and son. You do. You just have second thoughts is all.

Is it "normal"?... mostly. BUT.. you have to watch out. Because you are having these thoughts.. its important to realize that they are there and you may need to talk to a professional about them (not that you are crazy.. but they can help you work through them better than us here at "Answers"). If they go unchecked.. then resentment can build and then eventually your family will be torn apart (seen in happen at LEAST 5 times with friends).

My suggestions:

1 - dump the MySpace - until your kids start using it. You have "new life" now and its not the one that is on MySpace.

2 - find a new set of friends - ones that have children as well. You will find yourself plenty busy with those activities instead of partying

3 - let your hubby know how you feel. If you don't/can't then thats a whole.. different story. He can help you as well to work through this.

good luck!

Answer 9

Its very normal. I am a young mother also (21). I feel the same way you do. And it's OK the best thing is to get your husband to watch the little one and go out and have some fun and you do the same your your husband and plan a day/night out together get the grandparents or a family member to watch the baby and get out of the house there is nothing wrong with wanting to go out and have fun. As long as its not every night/ weekend and do not over drink b/c you still have the little one at home waithing to see you in the morning.
have some fun go out.

Answer 10

Believe it or not, many of those people would envy you.

Listen, just because you don't do some things now doesn't mean you never will again unless you are missing being single. many of these feelings are natural and part of the "grass is always greener" mentality.

You said yourself that you have a wonderful life and believe it or not there are things you can do to recapture a little piece of what you are missing without disrupting the way things are. Sit down and discuss it with your husband and try to figure out a schedule that will allow you to have a little more personal time to yourself.

Answer 11

It sounds like you were a little too young to get married and have a baby. I got married at 27, my husband was 35 at the time. We were done with the party phase. We also don't even want to have kids.

This is probably something you should've discussed beforehand. As for now, why not get someone in the family to babysit for you one day each weekend and take your husband out for a date night - you guys can hit a club if you want and get some of that feeling back.