I just started dating this guy a couple months ago. When we met there was this instant spark.He has called me everyday since(we live in different provinces)and we talk on the phone for hours each night.I am going to visit him in a week, but the distance thing is starting to take a toll on the relationship. We are starting to mildly argue about petty little things. He said last night that he really wants this to work and the only way to make it work is if he moves here.He kept telling me that he wants me to know hes thinking about the moving thing, but b/c of the fact that he has to make a decision quickly (b/c of school) he feels bombarded. He said hes 99% sure he wants to move here, he just wants to make sure its the right decision. I got kinda angry with him last week b/c hes didnt call me until 2:00am(petty Sh*t) and i felt bad so i apologized. He said thats the only thing that worries him, that if he moves out here we'll argue about stupid sh*t. What do u think about this??HELP!
2007-08-28 04:58:15 · 9 answers · asked by kimmy_717 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You guys are just suffering from seperation anxiety. You miss each other a whole lot and are on edge when other things happen. If he really likes you, things will work out.
2007-08-28 05:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by Dana J 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Of course you will argue. Long distance relationships only advantage is that when you talk or see each other you put on your best face. People tend to argue less because they have contact with each other less.
If he moves here then it's a whole new relationship with whole new experiences. You will learn things about him you didn't know. You will find things about him you don't like. You argue more. He will be a different person to you. You do not know the whole him. That's just the way it is.
The fact that the two of you are talking about him moving is unbelievably bad. Three months in not enough time to really know someone who lives next door to you.
It's amazing how much emphasis people put on this "instant connection". It fades. In the long term it's meaningless. It's a beginning and not the answer to all your questions. It certainly is nothing to base a long term relationship on.
Slow down. Take your time.
2007-08-28 05:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three months is not enough time to really know a person and that is if you have been dating. Make sure he does not move in with you until you have dated him for at least 6 mos. If he is upset by that decision then tell him to stay where he is and go to college there. Getting married while he is in college is not a good idea unless he has less than 6 months left of college.
2007-08-28 05:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by Aliz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you seem to be apprehensive about it. Though the relationship is worth trying, think twice before you make final decision, as it involves his moving from one place to another. There is yet another way to try it out; invite him during his vacation and see how it works out and then take the big decision !
2007-08-28 05:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by SudoKo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this relationship is the equivalent of an emotional affair and isn't "dating".... i suppose the only way to get to know this person is to spend real time with them.
you will know after 1 to 1-1/2 years... it takes that long to get to know someone.... believe me, i know this to be true...
becoming angry over petty things is insane... count to 10 or 20 in your mind before you "react" to things.... stupid little arguments and rude comments in a relationship really ruin everything.
take care.
2007-08-28 05:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, you did say that the long-distance was what was making you argue about "Petty Sh*t", so if he moves to where you are it should be okay.
2007-08-28 05:04:15 · answer #6 · answered by James Bond Chickz 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think that if its worth the move then little arguements wont affect u 2 every couple argues dont worry about it the only thing u can do is give it a go :)
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2016-10-17 05:06:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In every relationship it is normal to argue.. SO that is inevable everything will work out. Good luck
2007-08-28 05:02:06 · answer #9 · answered by xoxocrystalxoxo2003 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋