why is it that when my husband is gone , on fat bissness trips dose he not call or care to talk to me. iam a good wife, i let him do what he wants, all i am asking for is a few calls a day when hes gone...i just feel like its out of sight out of mind. why do men do this...very upset that he cant grow up!
2007-08-28 04:44:33 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hes in the marines, gone alots , staying in fat hotels partying ect...he has kinda done it lots but he knows i get pissed , just dosent care to change i guess...getting sick of this for sure...i guess he just dosent care.
2007-08-28 04:52:36 · update #1
i really feel tho that with him its out of sight out of mind, like iam only needed when needed, other wise , hey iam always here, we have four kids, and he has had passed things that have really messed with out marriage ...so maybe iam feeling down on myself, and its really just me.
2007-08-28 04:59:32 · update #2
If you went away and didn't call what would he do? My hubby calls a lot when he is gone. I would be worried if it was my hubby. He needs to understand that is wrong of him.
2007-08-28 04:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Gina
I'm sorry he does that to you. I was a marine, away for many weeks at a time, and I called every day, at least once. It did not stop her from cheating, but I stuck to my values in the end.
Just because you feel he doesn't care, does not mean it is really so. OK, so he is a macho marine..good for him! Now, the macho marine has to be informed to call his wife once a day while he's away. I'm sure it won't kill him.
NO! Men are NOT like that. All this stereotyping makes me mad. Some men, like some women, don't call. In your case, I'd be concerned, as it is rather irresponsible for a husband to leave his wife and make her feel like she could be dead and dying, and he would not call.
What he needs is a wake up call. A good wife would not want her husband to forget about her, else she won't remain his good wife for long.
Figure it out, and give him a wakeup call....something like.. going away for the weekend, and not telling him. If he asks, then all you could say is that you were waiting for him to call, but seeing as he forgot about you, you decided to get some space out of the lonely house.
2007-08-28 05:02:57 · answer #2 · answered by justaguy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think every husband is this way, I know mine isn't. He calls me about three times a day from work and sometimes an email or two on top of it. My feelings would be hurt if he went away and didn't call me. He even calls me from golf tournaments he is playing in to tell me funny things. We have a great time together and laughter is a big part of our marriage. Sounds like neither of you are having fun in yours. Laughter really is the best medicine....maybe figure out how to do this with him and it will be better. I am sorry for you, that sounds really lonely.
2007-08-28 04:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been as he is a marine doesn't matter when it comes to his family. HE shoudl always keep in touch with you and make sure you and the kids are all right. All I see him doing is going out to parties and everywhere else without you and that's not good. Maybe he already has found another one. But you and him need to sit down and ahve a serious talk with him and figure out a way to compromise where everyone needs to be. And explain to him once you file for divorce and he gets sued for child support all his partying is going to stop because he won't be able to afford it. But since your a nice wife and wait on him hand and foot he will keep on doing it, SO set your foot down and get it done.
2007-08-28 13:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure why he acts that way. When my hubby is gone he calls me a few times a day to let me know how he is doing and to see how things are here at home and to check on the kids.
My last husband was like yours is now, never called, never checked in... then again he was out using meth also and cheating on me.. so no wonder he didn't call.
2007-08-28 06:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. The best thing you can do is to open the lines of communication.
When I first got with my husband (12 years ago) - he had this issue with calling me when he was out of town or even out ON the town with friends. When I asked, he told me that previous women had tried to control his movements - and he didnt' want to have to deal with telling me where he was all the time. I explained that I didn't care what he was doing, I just wanted to make sure he was safe. Once we cleared that up - he changed.
He might have a reason for behaving the way he does. Ask.
2007-08-28 04:52:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 05:06:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well welcome to the club, when my husband go away to or stay after work, do I get a phone call no. I ask him why he does it, he said I was so busy didn't have the time to call. I wonder do he even think about me. I told him as me being his wife, he should show some love to me just a phone call say hi, I always call him when I am away. Some man just aren't mature haven't grown up yet.
2007-08-28 05:01:39 · answer #8 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I always call my wife when I'm not home! Especially when I'm gone for a few days! A phone call takes only a few minutes and then you can party and have fun! I think you should be asking him who else is in his life, because if he can't take or make time for loved ones then who is getting his time??
"Love should have made your @ss call last night"
2007-08-28 04:57:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men are like that. Why I don't know. My hubby is the same. I just text him every now and then that I love him and miss him. This way he is not bound to calling me or feeling pressured at all. I do know that it always makes him feel good and he is thinking about me.
2007-08-28 04:51:18 · answer #10 · answered by marianne d 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋