I'm recovering from an eating disorder. but by myself. I don't want to tell anyone in my family, they would get angry, or start judging me. This may sound stupid, but I know I have a problem, and I am willing to change that, but I really don't want to share it with anyone. None of my friends would understand, they would be worried all the time, and look at me anxiously whenever I had food. I was wondering if anyone knew a website, or something like that, that i could use for support. If anyone here is recovering from an eating disorder, do they have any advice?
2007-08-28 04:42:39 · 11 answers · asked by violet h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The forums and chats on the net are excellent forms of communication with people. Especially if you are not interested in once a week therapy. You can form some really good friendships with people via email. For some reason it is so much easier to truly be honest this way. One girl has already oferred her friendship. Email her.
Also, get out and do something you are proud of. It will build your self-confidence. Doing something builds your confidence in yourself. The more you do to accomplish something the more you will build your confidence. Good lord, start small ... Try to do something nice for a member of your family that will make them feel better or take the stress off of them. That feeling of helping someone is a great motivator and a great feeling. Sometimes I think we get so caught up with ourselves that we fall into a hole and have trouble getting ourselves back out.
Best of luck to you.
2007-08-28 04:57:15 · answer #1 · answered by Lori G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
violet, Hi there. I think it was very brave of you to ask for help on this forum, and it is a great start. I can understand why you feel as though you can not tell your friends or family, it is a "common reaction" when experiencing an ED. You are not alone, so please do not feel ashamed or embarrassed.Can I be totally honest? If you are not seeking some professional help, it is something you seriously need to consider. A good therapist can help you explore your present behavior and help you understand the correlation to your past. It is also much easier to talk openly with a stranger(therapist) who will not pass judgment on you and that in itself will help eliminate a great deal of your anxiety and stress level.An expert can help you work through the underlying issues, and teach you how to cope and heal. Also, if you look in your local phone book, you can find resources under " Guide to Human Services". You can start making phone calls, using it to steer you towards finding the proper help that you need to move forward. I am proud that you took a huge first step, and wish you a full and complete successful outcome. E-mail me if you would like
2007-08-28 12:31:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi...I have a friend that died from an eating disorder...she didnt tell anyone...not me her family or anyone...it makes me feel so bad...i mean i would never have judged her...i would help her get all the help that she could have gotten...it makes me feel like she didnt trust me enough to open up to me...i miss her so much. I mean i noticed the her apperance started changing but I just thought that we were growing up and that is what happens to your body...please dont be like my best friend Julia...tell someone and let them help you...you never now..you might have a melt down and no one will be there to help you through it...please get better!!!!!!
2007-08-28 12:03:55 · answer #3 · answered by Kel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be strong but you can't face all that all alone...
If you don't want to tell your family and friends fine...but think...who do you have in the world if you don't tell them? It's you only and being alone is very, very difficult..
The way friends and family react is just because they're worried, because you have a problem and they love you. It's normal. They may react the wrong way but hey, they make mistakes like you, like me, like everybody. Trust them. They'll trust you. And be honest. With yourself and with them.
Also you need a good therapist, someone who's not involved but is able to help.
I wish you a healthy life and lots of happiness! :)
2007-08-28 11:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My cousin suffered from anorexia for many years and she told me the whole story, starting from the beginning. I wish I knew her better when she started having problems. It was a short visit and a long car ride together that got us talking. Now that we are close, she copes very well now. *sniff*
If you are not ready to contact professional help for fear of your family finding out, perhaps a chat room would be good so you can chat with your peers who know what's it like to go through hell. My cousin tried to hide the fact for many years from everybody. If she had met someone to talk to she would have gotten help earlier.
Here's a chat room: Something Fishy http://www.something-fishy.org/online/chatenter.php
Hugs!
2007-08-28 12:05:51 · answer #5 · answered by Sissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hon...
perhaps you could consider a therapist? they are trained to listen and help us cope with our issues, offer direction and suggestions... take what you want and leave the rest!
sometimes it does help to have someone to talk with.
i also know there are a lot of eating disorders forums out there on the internet... do a yahoo search for EATING DISORDERS FORUMS, EATING DISORDERS SELF-HELP and you might even want to try EATING DISORDERS CHAT.
i'm sure you will come up with a lot of good, solid information.
take care ok?
2007-08-28 11:47:24 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your health is your health and it shouldn't matter how anyone looks at you. if your friends are your friends then they will support you no matter what. yes, the attention is brought on us when we chose to share with others our problems. remember to always be thinking of your interself and truly believe you will be ok. there is book you should read and it is "free inside and out" by marlin meberg and luci swindoll, this seems to be a comforting expierence for my self
take care and may God bless.
tauna
2007-08-28 13:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by kimberly w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a counselor whom you can talk with. They will help you all the way to recovery and be there for you all the time. They will not judge you either and everything is confidential.
2007-08-28 11:47:57 · answer #8 · answered by marianne d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. well i have no one to talk to either. maybe we can talk. i'm not overcoming an eating disorder, but i just got caught emailing as somebody elseto my best friend. it's a long story and she won't talk to me. so i need omebody too. as long as your not some 50 year old stalker
2007-08-28 11:47:26 · answer #9 · answered by uberconfused2much 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have is a mental problem there are different groups that you could or should join also check your web site for help and support.
2007-08-28 11:56:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋