Bullied Friend?

Question

I have a friend that goes to a different school than me. He gets bullied terribly! People call him names, and tease him. One girl on his bus hit him with a glass pop bottle. She has also put makeup on him, kicked him, and punched him. Others have punched him and kicked him. Other than call him names. He WILL NOT tell anyone or fight back. He sits up front on the bus, but it doesn't help. He is a BIG kid. Not some shrimpy little boy. He is about 6 foot tall, and is big. He has told his mom, but she won't do anything. He won't either. What can he do??? Or what can I do to help?

Answer 1

He needs to talk to someone on the school... thats completely unacceptable, people shouldnt be treated like that. I know it's hard to tell on people because of the potential repercussions, but something needs to be done before it goes too far.

Answer 2

The best thing to do when bullied is to react immediately. Meet the punch with a punch, meet the kick with a kick.

I remember this big chubby boy once in sixth grade who was huge but very wimpy. People will pick on him because he never does anything. One time he just decided enough was enough. The next guy that hit him got lifted off the floor by his neck and thrown across the classroom. The bully female was given a nice hard slap. Both ended up sobbing like babies. After that he just sat on his chair on the same position like nothing happened. Didn't even say a word. From then on nobody F'd with him.

It would be better for him to smack back immediately. Bottling it up could only create another Columbine.

Answer 3

I had the same problem on my bus last year you just have to laugh it off or fight back it sucks you feel like everyone's against you and there's nothing you can do but maybe find an ally they don't have to be cool they just have to be nice and accepting if you play you cards right they'll stick up for you if not find someone else and try again. I'm probably wrong but maybe you should tell your Friend he needs to stick up for himself or he's just asking for it, you can't let people walk all over you and if they're throwing glass bottles and hitting /kicking him he needs to do something cause that's serious and out of line.

Answer 4

Unfortunately, you cannot help people who do not want help. Your friend doesn't feel the need to do anything about it. This probably results from some kind of prior treatment in the home, at other schools, in other groups he's involved in, etc. The only thing you can do for a friend who doesn't want to stand up for himself is to support him. Let him know that you think he's grand and tell him how much YOU value him. If it's esteem he lacks, this will help him gather gumption to right his situation. Perhaps he just doesn't care. It's possible he sees these people who bully him for what they really are: pathetic juveniles with nothing to show for themselves except a tenacity to degrade others for pleasure.

If it bothers you enough, talk to other adults who might be able to intervene: parents, teachers, the bus driver, etc. The bullies need to learn that there are consequences or they'll continue to badger your friend and other people in perpetuity. However, keep in mind that this isn't your battle to fight in case your friend harbors resentment later for you "meddling" in his affairs.

Answer 5

He shouldn't fight back. Normally, bullies bully because they uncomfortable with who they are, or out of jealousy. He needs to tell another adult he can trust, and if he can't tell them, it's your responsibility to. If you're afraid he'll get angry, just remember if he does, he'll thank you later for this. On the bus, the bus driver should also be controlling the kids. As for the names, he should ignore them. The kids will probably eventually get bored. He also should join after-school sports or activities to get him to meet more kids. If they're in a team, it'll be harder to bully them all. Also, if it gets worse, it's time for him to confront the bullies. If it doesn't help, there's not much else he can do. Bullies are bullies and not a lot stop being bullies for a while.

Answer 6

Why is this question only for Christians? Bullying hurts regardless of your race, age, or religious choice. As for bullying to get back at someone for bullying....that holds the same logic as "They lit my house on fire. Well, I better go burn their homes in retaliation!" What you should do is stand up for your friend when she needs it. You can't be there for her to help her if you get expelled for fighting.

Answer 7

That's terrible that his mother won't help him. You may want to talk to your friend's mother - maybe hearing it from someone else will make her understand how serious a problem this is, esp. getting hit with a glass bottle which could lead to an assault charge.

I admire your friend for not using his size to crush the other kids.

Answer 8

Being his friend, you should have a talk with him about telling others about what is happening to him. If his mom wont do anything try going to his teachers or other adults in his life. Every kid gets bullied, but it sounds like he is getting abused. Try going to a professor or a consuelor. And tell him not to be afraid to tell someone, no one should be treated like that.

Answer 9

that is sad... many times the bigger kids do get picked on.

talk to your school principal and counselor if you want to help... and does he have a dad? maybe you could tell him about how his son suffers at the hands of other kids, since his mother doesn't seem to "care".... if you do, perhaps make it at a time the son doesn't know... call?

you are a caring and compassionate person... i don't understand why others have to be so cruel, either....

Answer 10

Teach him how to defend himself. Maybe have him take karate classes. Or enroll in a boxing class. Sometimes, when you're back is against the wall, you have to fight fire with fire.