how to get spouse aroused if not interested?

Question

I have made dr appt.s for him but he want go

Answer 1

I had the same problem. Everything was fine at first but then it just stopped. So I gave him a taste of his own medicane. I started going out with the girls. I would dress up in this hot outfit and get all sexed up in front of him. About 4 or 5 times of doing that he thought I was seeing someone else and that scared him. He thought that I was going to leave him. If he really loves you he will come to his senses and try anything to make you happy. Try some toys or lotions. Maybe even try some porn. Don't be afraid to try new things. Men love adventurous women. It worked for me. Just don't get a toy that is bigger than him, don't crush his ego. GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

Dr appts because he doesnt get aroused ? I am assuming everything was fine at the beginning ? I am stabbing in the dark here, but something must have changed since then. Can you put your finger on it ?? Maybe you need to have a talk and figure what it is...

You almost need some more information on this one...

Answer 3

Give him respect "stroke his ego" Men need respect like we need love. Here are some examples. Don't argue or nag, let him feel in charge, Compliment him, And write him a letter of all the things you respect about him. Lift him up sometimes men are just as self-conscious as we are and once you raise his self-esteem he will have more of a desire to make love and will also be more affectionate towards you. loveandrespect.com

Answer 4

You can't.
It has to be his choice. You can't help someone who doesn't want help.
This might sound mean, but it could be he doesn't want to go to the Dr because he still does have sexual desire, just not for you.
If he wont have sex, wont snuggle wont be intimate than you need to decide if this is a relationship you can be in for the rest of your life. Because it certainly won't be easy.

Answer 5

I agree with kitkat. You can also go to a Barnes & Noble bookstore, look in the Erotic section for how-to books on everything sexual. My GF was married to a guy for 20 years and he wouldn't let her perform oral on him. She got the books and uses what she reads all the time with me. MMMMMMMMMM

Answer 6

First, you have to know why he's not interested. Second step is thinking of ways to arouse him.

However, you can try wearing sexy tempting clothes and flirting with him. Perhaps you can try changing your hairstyle. If this doesn't work maybe you should spend sometime away from him if he'll miss you and then when you get back he might miss you and get aroused

Answer 7

Self improvement is the best answer. If you keep yourself in high esteem, he will think of you in that manner. Rather than worrying about him, look in the mirror and see what you can do to make yourself better. The only thing you can control is your own mind. So use it to make yourself better. When you do that, you will feel better about yourself and will be happier. When you are happy, you are confident and it will show. I personally find confident women attractive.

Answer 8

Dr. appointments? What else have you tried? Get some books on sexual play and positions, set up some "fun times" to play stripper or watch porn together. Use your imagination.

Answer 9

Then perhaps it is time for a divorce, plain and simple. If he won't go to get counciling then the problem is deeper than just ntimacy. Lose that loser.

Answer 10

Talk to him and find out what is going on.

Take a night when you can relax together. Take a bath or shower together, give him a massage and take it slowly from there.

Good luck!!!