OH no what should I do?

Question

I am married ... a few months ago I was at a family party. My moms boss kissed me and I kissed him back.... My hubby does not know. Since the kids are going back to school I needed a job and hubby suggested that I work where mom worked because they would give me the best hours and money. I couldn't say no cause i'd have to tell him what happened. I am happily married mind you. It was just a kiss and not a long one at that.
I start this job on tuesday and I don't know what to do. I am attracted to the boss but I am married. How do I not recreate the kiss? I did not come on to him, i swear!
There were a bunch of us playing a game, no just me and him till we seemed to leave at the same time. Hubby had already took the kids home. He came up to my truck and leaned in and kissed me. I kissed back and left. HELP

Answer 1

well just don't do anything with him, shouldn't be too hard, willpower you know, it won't be worth all the shlt it could cause

Answer 2

First of all i commend u on ur honest take of the situation . Dont put your marriage on the line of fire for such a temptation . If i were in ur place i would search for another suitable job. Im sure with a little effort u would land another one just as good. Why tempt ur marriage for such a thing ? when u admit u are attracted to the boss. But if u must take the job just make sure on day 1 to etch out the boundaries so that he doesnt get any ideas . And bluff to the boss that u did make ur husband aware of the kiss so he doesnt compromise n cajole u in any way.

Answer 3

If you are happily married, it is important you tell your husband. If he is to find out later the trust he has with you is gone. He maybe upset, but inside he will be greatful you came to him instead of it coming out later. You need to also tell him before you start your job. You need to give him the facts so he does not become irrationaly later if he finds out from someone else and you have already started your job working with this guy. Honesty really is the best policy in this case. GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 4

So not work there no matter what. It is easy to feel attracted to someone who's socks you don't have to pick up. Tell hubby Mom's boss flirted with you and made you feel uncomfortable, and you just don't want to work with him. Talk to a councilor about having strong feelings for someone not your hubby. Married people shouldn't kiss others, and if you are that tempted, you need to get help. I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 5

Why are you attracted to another man if you are"happily married"? Lady, that is not fair to your husband and in sense I feel that you cheated on your husband. Sharing any type of intimate moment with another person outside of your marriage is cheating and should be forbidden. Just because someone leaned in and kissed you does not mean you should kiss them back. You are 100% to blame in this situation. I am not trying to be mean to you but I just hate it when people cheat in their relationships because it makes the person that has been cheated on feel like an object instead of a person because you have shown that person that they mean nothing to you and that you are okay with walking all over them. Tell your husband what you did. It's the only way to clear your conscious and show your remorse for what you did.

Answer 6

It is very wrong to kiss someone else outside of marriage and you are describing the kiss was. It was not an innocent kiss. Now you are talking about being attracted to him. I wouldn't work next to him or anything otherwise next thing you know you will be full blown cheating on him. You need to question how much you love your family before you start making mistakes that you can't take back.

Answer 7

If he says anything then you need to tell him you are married and it was a mistake to kiss him. Tell him you are sorry but it wont happen again. You are playing with fire and will get burned. I wouldn't let it get out of hand and I wouldn't tell hubby and cause trouble.

Answer 8

well since you are married you are wrong for kissing your boss. you should try to keep things between your boss on a professional level. you should not be alone with him in a office or room and just talk to him when you have to so that this wont happen again. As for your husband think about how you might feel he would to kiss his boss. you would probably feel horrible maybe that wont help you to do it again!

Answer 9

I see a affair in your near future, lets be honest you let him kiss you and you kissed him back and that's not what a happily married person would do becareful and not get caught, wow you're going to have fun at your new job.

Answer 10

tell the boss that you are happily married and leave you alone. you can still work together without it being weird if you just blow it off and forget about it. don't tell you husband that would just cause and argument and you really don't want that with the kids involved.

Answer 11

uh oh.just don't keep thinking about it.find something else to distract your mind cause if you keep thinking about the kiss it's going to affect everything you do.Also make SURE that you are NEVER in a situation like this ever again.never be alone with him.You're going to come accross alot of attractive men in your life.Just remember that you love youir husband and you wouldn't deliberatly do anything to hurt him or your kids.Oh....and i HIGHLY reccomend you watch Bridges of Madison County,with Clint Eastwood.The main character was caught in a similar situation and i think it'd make you feel better.Good luck and god bless!