I am 12 years old and everyone i hang out ias always a few years older basically 14 and i have a boyfriend who is 14 and they have all kissed and i have never kissed anyone before. and we were in front of my boyfriend friends and he goes to kiss me i just turn aroind he gets reallreal mad. And i have heard rumors that he likes to have sex and if i cant kiss then im real scared about the sex thing! I am just so scared. I do want to kiss him but im scared that i might do something wrong. And all my friends tease me about not having a first kiss!
2007-08-28 03:21:40 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok, Plz stop calling me huney sweetheart and baby! That is SO weird i dont even respond when my mom calls me that!
I am almost 13!
And i do really like this guy so i AM NOT LEAVING HIM! And i do want to kiss him im just scared i might like do something wrong!
And he thinks of sex so much cuz his last girlfirend lost her virginity at the age of 12!Yea! She is a big ******* Slut~
I know and the worst part is she was telling me how there still friends and shes gonna go to his house to..Yoiu know visit and i am NOT ok with that and i told her that and she said guess your gonna have to get over it!!
And thats really gonna worry me! And i am gonna talk to him about it so for advice dont tell me to talk to him about it! Thank you for your conveice!
2007-08-30 02:57:50 · update #1
You are right to not do anything you're not comfortable with. First of all, why would you want to "put on a show" for his friends? Kissing is something intimate and private and if he's trying to force something on you that you're not ready for, he's not a very good boyfriend.
Many kids your age do things they are not ready for just because their friends are doing it. Don't be a follower. Be your own person. YOU get to decide when you're ready to kiss your boyfriend, not your friends.
Stay strong and when you're ready you will know it!
2007-08-28 03:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by LB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT!!! Honestly, wait. You have your entire life to experience kissing and sex and 12 is not the time to start. Look at it this way - my niece is 14 and is a mother all ready. My daughter is 16, beautiful, popular, has the whole world ahead of her and doesn't want to get wrapped up in guys and all that drama until she's out of college and has seen the world and experienced life, on her own, in her own terms. My niece has a baby, my daughter has diamonds for being 'Sweet sixteen and never been kissed" - which one do you really want to be? Save yourself and quit worrying about what your friends think, they obviously aren't mature enough to see the big picture and are trying too hard and too fast to pretend to be adults and do adult things - once your an adult - you can NEVER turn back, so take your time enjoying what you have now and that is your innocence and youth....
2007-08-28 10:30:00 · answer #2 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My God girl, you are only 12 years old. Do not rush yourself into things just because that is what your 'friends' are doing. Save that 'first kiss' thought and when it happens, make it the most wonderful kiss you will ever have. Do not worry about it, the time will come and you do not have to be frightened about kissing wrong, if it is the right person and the right thing to do at the right time, it will be wonderful. But please, do not think about sex at that time, there are so many bad things about sex, you do not need it at so young an age, it just is like anything else, those 'first times' need to be special times not just because your friends are doing it or you see others doing it.
2007-09-03 00:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your not comfortable with dissing him then dont. It shows your not ready yet. Dont be in such a rush to satisfy a guy it leads to a bad pattern in life. Look at your own comments his ex was a hoochie huh? Well if you give in to him as well what does that mean about you and how will these supposed friend think then. It need to be about you not him. dont do anyting till you know for certain that it is what you want. just a work of advice too. Some guys just like to take your virginity and then be done with you. it may sound cleashay but your virginity is a gift to someone you love and who is special in your heat and life. just be sure you make a decision you wont regret.
2007-09-05 09:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by mamaathome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
12?
Look, I'ma be a bit harsh about some things.
But seriously, if that kid thinks he wants sex, leave him. Stay away from him. Your only a kid, don't bother with sex and boyfriends at such an early age. If I was you, I'd stay away from people like that. Your friends for example, yeah sure they have boyfriends yeah sure it's cool.
But, just wait it out. Give yourself a few years to grow and mold into shape. And it's not a bad thing that you haven't kissed a guy before. It just means your waiting for the right guy. Your boyfriend has only one thing in mind, sex. He's 14 and he isn't even mature. Leave him. Seriously.
2007-08-28 10:38:48 · answer #5 · answered by G I Z M O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOOD FOR YOU. do not feel pressured into doing anything especially when it comes to that. If you are worried about kissing then don't. And if he wants to have sex with you at 12 years old then he is not a good guy. You are not emotionally ready to have sex. I am not saying anything about your maturity. But honestly your hormones are not fully developed. Make sure you are comfortable with yourself before you start having any kind of sexual activity. There are so many bad things that can happen from having sex before you are ready. Don't get me wrong once you find someone you love and you are a little older sex is fun. But please please please wait. Most people regret having sex so early. If they are that good of friends they wouldn't make fun of you for not being a hooch. Find some new friends sweetheart.
2007-08-28 10:53:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a bad thing if you have not kissed a boy yet. You are 12 years old..do it when you are ready to. It is easier to kiss a boy for the first time then have sex. And don't worry about what other people say or do around you. Do what makes you happy and do what you feel is right. If you are ready to kiss him then do it. if you are not ready to have then DON'T!!
2007-08-28 10:28:40 · answer #7 · answered by Heather S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing! Especially with his reputation. You don't need these problems at this time in your life. Start hanging around with kids your own age. You really aren't missing out on anything. Forget him. Enjoy being a 12 year old. You have plenty of time to grow up on your own. I was never kissed at your age like a lot of my friends.
2007-08-28 10:32:37 · answer #8 · answered by Bree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens...my first kiss wasn't until I was your age...don't lte your friends tease you that you've never been kissed before...its ok...everybody's time will come when they are ready.
Asfor the sex part, he's too young I think to be thinking of having sex with you, especially that you are only 12 years old...wait till you are ready and if you aren't ready, then he needs to understand that...if he doesn't then there will be other guys around!! Good luck
2007-08-28 10:29:13 · answer #9 · answered by Erica F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
geez. i had my first kiss at age 15. and i havent had sex yet- nor do i wish to till i KNOW i'm ready and only with the right person. i say if he really really wont respect your wishes and is trying to psh you to do things...you honestly are better off w/o him. i know that's not what you want to hear- but it's true. also..you shouldnt care what anyone else is saying- your time will come. just maybe a little later than others. thats all. there is nothingg wrong with not having had your first kiss yet- esp at age 12!
2007-09-04 19:05:36 · answer #10 · answered by coffeeshopsoundtrack91 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋