I am someone who can listen to people and give good advice as well, but when it comes to me, i cant seem to solve my own problem... How do i put aside these unwanted problem, especially when i need to concentrate on my studies since im in streaming this year?
2007-08-28 02:51:45 · 13 answers · asked by Eslaena G. 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Close and lock up your 'free advice center' with a notice in BOLD letters.Tell people that you have been advised by so and so,to do this.
2007-08-28 02:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look up books on codependency.
If you're taking care of others before yourself, you may be codependent. If this is the case, it's hard to see that you may have a problem, because we tend to see it as unselfishness.
Depending on the people you are listening to, I would do one of two things:
1) Like brksh... said, just close up shop. No explanations- just say no and distance yourself from those people asking for advice.
2) Explain to your friends what affect it would have on you if you continued to be so supportive at the expense of your own welfare. If they are the type of friends who will understand, maybe they can even give you advice!
2007-08-28 10:13:00 · answer #2 · answered by Phantom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen to the teacher, give good answers, but learn to solve maths problems too. that way, u'll do well for studies. throw everything else out of the window, keep ur mind spot-clean and dont think dirty thoughts.
2007-08-28 10:07:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey its just great that you are willingly listening to other people and helping them to solve problems. but the catch is are you helping yourself as much as you help others? we humans cannot solve all our problems all alone and that is our nature. If you could just talk to somebody about your problems, you will feel much better. trust me on that! even world's greatest counselors need counseling sometimes...and you should never feel reluctant to 'ask for help'. Good luck!
2007-09-05 00:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by Miss M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Experience teaches. It is good to share what you've learned. Listen to yourself. You can probably make good use of your own advice. You only have to fix one thing at a time. Give yourself the space to do that. Best. C. :)!!
2007-09-04 15:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u kno wat ..i gess i'm also jus lyk dat ..no 'was'....i help ppl in der probs n listen 2 dem n 1s,, i ws thinkin ,y i cudn't solve ma probs or needed sum1 else 4 it .....its actlly d way u take each case or prob ..it may acttlyy nt b a prob at all ..its all abt prioritizin ...u c dat d probs come up cuz of sum priorities or lines u set up ...u change dem ...ur problems don exist ...
......if u really want help , or its botherin u too much u r always welcum ...
bt its always best 2 b able 2 solve it urself ....if u cant ,dont think urself as weak...u haf 2 approach 4 help .....
2007-08-28 10:09:00 · answer #6 · answered by friendly gal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear hua i understand your problem as i'm facing the same but if you are really capable to handle the problem u need not to think much about it else if u want to avoid these then simply face it and try to solve it .ok.good luck. bye
2007-09-05 09:44:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the quickest way to solve your own problems is ask some to do it gor you. It is called delegation.
2007-09-04 23:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you are getting enough sleep. Release your stress. Pray and ask for guidance and give your problems to God. Then trust Him to help you.
2007-08-28 09:58:23 · answer #9 · answered by ruthie 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
share your proablem with some friends and visit religious place to release tension and super power will show u the way
2007-08-28 10:14:22 · answer #10 · answered by kanwal jammu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋