how do I be an optimist?? I 've tried meditation etc but it doesn't help. I am 15 year old student.?

Question

I need a practical solution to what to do about the constant negative ( and hopeless) thoughts i hav while studying.(not something like 'talk to people, 'listen to music' etc) but a quick method to dispel my fears from my mind and help me concentrate on studies.

Answer 1

Mindfulness Meditation, learned properly erradicates anxieties and fears, providing a calm, relaxed peaceful mind to effectively concentrate and recall information. Learned Mindfulness Meditation at 16 yrs of age and have been daily practicing Mindfulness Meditation for 19 years now.
Mindfulness Meditation is very effective, however the meditator should be gentle and patient with his mind and with his rate of progress.

Below is an Excellent Book to effectively Learn Mindfulness Meditation:

"Mindfulness In Plain English"
By: Ven. Henepola Gunaratana
http://www.budsas.org/ebud/mfneng/mind0.htm

- With Metta.

Answer 2

It is easy to doubt yourself when doing a piece of work and if you cannot engage that in itself will make you nervous and less able, it's a viscious circle.

My advice would be to prepare yourself, make a plan, first a basic one and then add detail - breaking the work into managable easier to digest 'chunks' will be less stressful and then you can relax in between stages - this is useful for coursework and revision. It is shown that people who study in this way are more effective than 'crammers'

Also setting yourself targets of study for so long, break for so long makes you more efficient and less stressed

If you take a book/other piece of reading around with you, say on a bus journey, you may feel you are not getting much from it but this bit of bonus study can come back when you least expect it.

Dont be too hard on yourself either - do what you can, and do your best but dont beat yourself up over it - aim to do as well as you can, and compare your performance on how much you know compared to the day before, not by comparing yourself to others.

Lastly, but not least stay physically well - drink plenty of water, get good rest/sleep and eat as well as you can - having certain foods can make your blood sugar levels plummet so set aside time in your breaks to eat a good meal.

Answer 3

Start with small things like memorizing a para or answers to 3-4 questions and take your own test.Since you have prepared for it ,you shall do well.Congratulate and reward yourself for the achievement and say that you are an achiever .Increase the content and scope of your tests.Slowly but surely your self confidence shall grow and there shall be no looking back.It's a tried and tested method.You may try a variation of the method to suit your own requirement.Good luck.

Answer 4

u r an optimistic person...
that's why u wanted to look foraward to our answers through yahoo answers...
u r very optimistic that u will get answers that really motivates u,aren't u?
while meditating u need to concentrate well..
whatever u want to do in life u need good concentration in that,isn't it?
there is no shortcut for certain things in life...for concentarion u need concentation,for experience u need experience.there is no substitute 4 that..
u start developing a new hobby if u haven't any..
go for combine study with friends....when your mind gets distracted they will know..
belive in yourself and always think that u can do with the help of god..
if u ask god 4 help u will definitely get it..there is no doubt..
spend sometime with your mother everyday ..help her in her household works...do u know how much happiness this will bring to her?keep your mind always engaged in good things like this...keep away from evil thoughts.
success is yours.

Answer 5

do whatever you want to do dont think too much about your future after some time you will be able to concentrate to study.always think that there is some thing special in.u. u can see history all great man didnot get success in their first attempt. amitabh bacchan could not get a job in air only becoz of his voice. addison took a long time to invent bulb this time y r young boy and u have a lot time.

Answer 6

hi dear friend...
let me give u an advice . "one who is right does not care for the opinion of others" . just concentrate on your studies . it will take some time but slowly and gradually all will be right. if u look on something in a pessimist style of feel the darker side just try 2 look on the brighter side .God does what is good for u. just trust on urGod . hope it will help u. just have control on ur mind.. think as if whole world is spinning round u...

by ur pal spiderman......... the world is his who enjoys it.********bye

Answer 7

Don't keep worrying about it. We all know that human mind is like a monkey.It keeps wandering.But i would say,dude,practice is what makes a man perfect..Don't lose your patience.Keeping quiet and just allowing your thoughts to flow for a month would surely calm down your mind.If you try to control it,your mind will start going behind it.So,let it flow freely but don't go behind it. You will see that your thoughts get reduced..Remember.Silence is power.Good luck.

Answer 8

Prayer is good. Start your studying with a prayer that you will have the focus and strength to learn. (Meditation can actually increase your distractability, btw.) Ask the Lord to open your eyes and your mind, and help you see.

Every time you get a distraction, lift it up to the Lord, ask for forgiveness (sounds odd, but it works), and again repeat your prayer for focus. You'll do that a few times, but recognizing the distractions for what they are and setting them aside as sinful strengthens you.

He does support and raise up those who place their trust in Him. Doing everything, as Paul recommended, as though you were doing it FOR Him both keeps you from sin and helps you do your absolute best. The Lord's very generous that way.

God bless you in your studies!

(Please keep in mind that I'm not intending to condemn ordinary mind-wanderings as sins. I'm only suggesting that you might view them as such. For my own purposes in daily life, I do.)

Answer 9

this are all old methods. they dont work now. try mugging, studying for fun. it's fun and helps to relax the mind.
otherwise, u can go online to some computer game and start killing people in first person shooters, keeps u happy.

Answer 10

try motivating yourself. like for eg, if you do well in an exam, you treat yourself with something rewarding. having a reward and achieving it is one way of motivation. if that doesnt work, keep reminding yourself of all the positive traits of yourself. why the negativity? self motivation is the way:D good luck.

btw, listening to mozart helps u to concentrate more.