Did you have a big do on your wedding day?

Question

I didn't. In the sixties as many of you must know it was a bad girl who had a baby before she was married. Yes I admit it! I was that bad girl. Our son was nearly 4 by the time we decided to tie the knot. So we crept away one day and just got married.Because we wanted to, not because people thought we should.
We had so little money at the time, hubby sold his beloved trumpet to pay for my wedding ring and our marriage licence.
He still hasn't replaced his trumpet and I hope he never feels the need to replace me either cos it's coming up to 35 years now ,since that ring was placed on my finger and I've never taken it off.
So my q is tell me about your wedding?

Now I can go and do my chores while you answer me.
(hopefully) lol x

Answer 1

Yes Sylvia d old girl , my wedding day was turned into a family brawl ending in a real muck savage knock down drag out fight between my family and her scruffy lot of layabouts, we eventually set fire to a couple of their caravans ,then our Fred went missing and has never been seen since ,and as if that wasn't enough ,when we finally got to bed I realized that she was so fat that I had to roll her in flour and look for the wet patch . What was your question ,ah yes! "did I have a big do " you bet I did.

Answer 2

Here's a recent real life wedding . . This Bride and Groom could have had any type of wedding they wanted but they choose to have something "short and simple." They rented a gazebo in a community park for one half day ($40) in May (just as the trees were blossoming). Over 150 people were invited to the Saturday morning wedding. The Bride did not wear a gown and the Groom did not wear a tuxedo. There were no bridesmaids or groomsmen. When the fifteen minute ceremony was over (there was no reception) the Bride and Groom got into their car and drove away. By 8PM that evening they were sipping tropical drinks at their honeymoon destination. This couple felt that spending ten grand and glorious days together at a beach front resort was much more important than mailing out engraved wedding invitations . . selecting bridesmaids' dresses . . and hiring a band. Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant

Answer 3

We were going to have a big wedding, but the problem was that my husbands family stay in the south east of England and all my family are up here in central Scotland. There is also the fact that not everybody on each family gets on, we tried to arrange a seating plan but this started to rival the most difficult suduko puzzle, costs started to mount and mothers wanted to run the show!

We ended up cancelling the lot and zooming off to Jamaica for 3 weeks, where we got married on the beach on our own in the sushine! We sent DVD's of the ceremony and some pictures to our families! It was very stress free and the weather was perfect.

We had our evening meal and a cake on the resort and took a romantic walk along the beach afterwards!

Would do it all again!! The only thing I realy regret was not having my father walk me down the aisle.

My husband wore a lightweight kilt and and as a result we had our pictures taken by a lot of tourists, we were also congratulated and waved at by well wishing strangers which was really quite nice, I felt almost famous!

Answer 4

First was fairly big and traditional. I was young and naive, and believed in the fairy tale of everlasting love. Wedding to J. was so much different. We had been living together with all the boys for two years when it finally became possible to marry. The night before I went to all the neighbors and asked if they could come to our house the following night around 7pm for a very special celebration, but not saying what. Late the next afternoon, we piled the five boys in the car and went to the home of the local JP, with our witnesses meeting us there. And without any hoopla, we had a very small and special wedding ceremony....just us, the boys and the couple that stood up for us. The celebration that night was such fun as most of the neighbors that we had invited over had never even realized that we weren't married all along! Lots of laughs and many treasured memories.

Answer 5

Same situation as you Sylvia except we got married in January and baby was born in August.
I wore a pale pink suit and the most awful hat. We had a 'bash' for 14 (a sit down dinner upstairs in a pub) then had a weekends honeymoon at the Strand Palace hotel in London. I can remember feeding the pigeons from our bedroom window sill. I didn't go much on continental breakfasts at 19.
We had 3 children and 8 grandchldren. We had 28 years together before he plucked up the courage to tell me that I was no longer fun. He announced this on my eldest daughters wedding day. We had a good 28 years though.
10 years ago I met my current partner. No wedding yet, but I'll let you know

Answer 6

My mom planned my first wedding. It was on a Friday night at a church. I don't go to church, so she picked one for us. I had seven bridesmaids. The reception was in the meeting hall of the church. There was no liquor, only fruit punch. My Russian grandma brought a flask with Vodka in it. We had nuts and punch. A receiving line and a so..long. No dancing or socializing.

When I got married at 50, we did it ourselves. We chose a wedding place outside by a river. I my future husband and I chose a dress together. It was $155, polyester lace, two pieces, ivory. It was even machine washable and can be worn separately to other places. I ordered dried flowers for my bouquet and corsages. I made my own veil, too... it didn't cover my face. I had two bridesmaids (cousins) and a strolling singer (another cousin). My cousins daughters were flower girls and wore the same dresses they wore at my other cousins wedding a month previous. My husbands two sons stood up for him. My son gave me away.

We supplied beer and wine, but had a bar for hard liquor that the guests had to pay for. We had a nice dinner. My girlfriend made a cake that was lopsided but delicious. We put bride and groom candles on top that were almost bigger than the cake. I make our invitations.

It was a beautiful and fun wedding. We hired a DJ and paid $200 for an armature photographer. And the best part is that all this including the dress, tuxes and part of our honeymoon only cost us $5000!

Answer 7

You sweetie. I remember those years. The only sex education I got from my mom was, "if you ever have to get married, you'll not have a wedding reception."

You seem to have a blessed union. The trumpet story is the best!!

My husband to be had to take a "sick" day leave to attend our wedding in 1965. We've laughed over that. We did have a big wedding. It was in a small town and many people came to give us their blessing. We were so busy receiving guests that when we went to get some refreshments, they were nearly all gone. But we had the wedding my mom didn't have because she and dad married during the war. I think it was more for her than anything, but it was fun. I carried poinsettias as a bouquet, my husband looks so funny in those skinny legged pants popular then, and we laugh now at how young we looked.

Answer 8

No, our wedding day was not a big event. We got married in the 60's too. I was 18 and my husband had just celebrated his 19th birthday. In our state he wasn't of legal age to marry so his mother had to sign a permission thing so we could get the marriage license! (She wasn't too happy about that either.) Our wedding was on our spring break from college. Very small, mostly family. We decided to get married one week before the "big" event. Church wedding with maybe 20 people there. A cake & punch reception afterwards at my parents house. The marriage has lasted 38 years. I still wear the same $30 wedding band. We still love each other very much.

Answer 9

Married 2/69. My wife's immediate family, my best man and his wife and one other sailor friend of mine. Very low key.
I believe if people put as much energy and care into the MARRIAGE as they do the WEDDING, then marriages would last. Been married over 38 years.
As far as your hubby replacing his trumpet...there's a web site that folks GIVE things away..and LOOK for things. I had a Bundy clarinet from the time I was in 7th grade (1959)until I left for the Middle East in '87. Someone broke into the storage room in our apt. complex and stole it. Two years ago, someone was OFFERING a clarinet. I got it...and STILL have a blast playing it. Try this website and post that you're looking for a trumpet...for hubby...and if someone has one to offer (FREE...EVERYTHING is free), surprise him!
Good luck!

Answer 10

Wow! 35 years. Congratulations! I hope my own will last a long time too.

My husband and I met in our 30s and after dating for 3 years, we got married, to the relieve of our families who thought we were never going to find anyone, much less, marry. He's English and I'm a Malaysian of Chinese & Indian parentage.

In Dec'06, we registered our marriage in the UK attended by 50 of our families and friends living in the UK, most of which could not make it to our wedding ceremony in Malaysia. We had lunch & drinks later at a local curry house.

In Mar'07, our wedding ceremony was held in the same church that my parents married in and where I was baptised. It was followed by a tea ceremony (according to my chinese heritage) and luncheon in a chinese restaurant. Then a dinner reception that resembled a New Year's Eve party in a 5 star restaurant attended by family, aunts, uncles, cousins and friends from all over the world. We were blessed with about 380 guests including ourselves.

The whole thing (both the UK and M'sia) cost us about GBP10K. As almost all our guests gave us money in red packets for presents (chinese customs), we were lucky to recover 1/3 of our expenses.

We considered ourselves married in Mar'07 and will celebrate our anniversary then. We had a fun and memorable day by mixing 3 different cultures together (English/Chinese/Indian). Our family and friends are still talking about our special day today. :-)