What exactly is the reason why my husband is reluctant to listen to reason, says he's always right and also perfect (generally) over the 14 yrs. Arguments happen, often in relation to my activities and they way I do things. e.g. I decide (after some discussion with him) to have some friends over for lunch while he plays tennis. He gets furious because I'm fussing over getting the house in order (reasonable order like vacuuming, sweeping the yard, preparing food and outdoor table. He never helps except for mowing the lawn and occasionally sweeping the leaves. He seems to resent any attention I give to others and I never feel free to enjoy the simple pleasure of entertaining in my style. He says thinks like "They are lucky to come here and if they are not happy with the way things are (ordinary, untidy and with only a little simple food etc.) then they can stay home!" He seems to really resent everyone I give attention to - even a particular TV show or personality and criticises.
2007-08-28 02:19:42 · 7 answers · asked by Marceau 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
seeing as you are the fussy one then if you want to have friends over then you should either time it according to when he routinely does the yard work or do it yourself.. it would be like he is gonna go joy riding with 3 of his best buddies and wants you to polish the car for him..
if he resents you watching t.v. i would think it means he cannot reasonably deal with his emotions....may help to get counseling..
if he says your friends are lucky to come to your home then they are. it also means he holds you in high regard..
this may seem off the track but i read a book called " how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk " by elaine mazlish & ?? i read this book some years ago and leared to communicate with my adult children and my hubby..
.good luck.
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2007-08-28 02:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by pbear i 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a control freak moron who likes to keep you on edge so he can manipulate you and make you feel insecure about yourself when in fact he is the one insecure.
why you put up with it for 14 years is beyond me. maybe you are as insecure as him. it takes 2. you let him do this to you also. maybe u werent insecure before but became insecure because u let him do this to you. birds of a feather.
i would NEVER let anyone talk over me, be it a friend, lover, hubby, and i would never talk over anyone.
seems like he has no respect for himself because he married someone he has no respect for and vice versa.
2007-08-28 02:29:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is selfish and needs a reality check! Who does he think he is? And why are you waisting your time with this man? Unconditional love is about letting your partner BE who they are without making them feel bad about themselves... even if you dont agree... Be your own Hero and dump the Zero!
2007-08-28 02:29:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And this is your choice to live with a CONTROL freak. I am also a control freak but there is nothing I want more than to know that my wife is secure with who she is. Nothing I want more than to support her in whatever it is that she does. Wether I like it or not.
2007-08-28 02:27:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a jerk divorce him, but you knew he was like this before you married him, so you get what you wish for.
2007-08-28 02:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun ive been there it aint gunna work!
2007-08-28 03:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need a special friend
2007-08-28 02:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by Bruce Aurora 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋