how to lose a once 'best friend'??

Question

we've been best friends for 4years but now i feel like we're different and i dont wanna do the whole best friend thing no more ,and just keep it at friends. its not working for me no more. im at a place in my life where i need a change of crowd cos im serious about life and i feel like she's not.

How do i let it go?Do i tel her how i feel/HOW,without hurting her feelings???...help

Answer 1

U just have to b honest, same thing happend 2 me.. I talked 2 her, n told her that somethings aren't right anymore, n just let the whole trueth out... It wasn't anythin bad or mean, believe me, it's always better 2 b honest n let out d trueth rather than keepin 2 urself. n look on d bright side, u'll be fair 2 her by doin so, at least u won't be some fake *** hypocrite.. gurl, do ur thing, i know how ur feelin.. u don't av 2 get worried bout it as it might make a big issue out of nothin..

Answer 2

First dont do it in an email or IM that is so hurtful and childish. Tell him or her in a phone call what they are doing or what they did to make you feel the way you feel and let them know what you want and dont want as a friendship goes. Be truth full with this person and be an sdult. If you do it amy other way its going to be even more hurtful than it sounds like its going to be. And understand it if they get hurt and cry or say thing to you about how mean you are, its all the pain coming out and in the end its not how they feel its just the hurt talking.
YES its going to hurt someones feelings but thats life and we all have to deal with hurt once in awhile. Things will be okay after awhile. Good luck.

Answer 3

Approach her with everything you just said (you need a change of croud, etc.), and make sure you express that you would still like to be friends, but would not like to be so attached.

I would advise carefully thinking over the matter (even if I'm a bit confused by how far "friend status" is from "best friend status" when teens are concerned). Four years is a long time, and just saying the wrong thing could blow off years of friendship. But, if you are sure you want to open up the best friend rank again, carefully explain to her what you're feeling, and there shouldn't be a problem.

Answer 4

You may not have to hurt her feelings. Just try going to different places with different people and if she doesn't want to go along b/c it's not her thing, then she'll stop being with you all the time. You can put some distance between the both of you that way and you wont have to hurt her feelings.
Sooner or later you'll drift apart.

Answer 5

Friends grow out of shared intersts. It might start as something as simple as living nearby, to something as complicated as being part of a mixed up family. However, as we grow and change our interests we all develop new friends and companions. It's really hard to tell someone you care about that while you enjoy their company, you need to expand your world somewhat. Probably the kindest way is to start talking about something you share with other people, but that your friend doesn't understand. Maybe you've become interested in scuba diving, and your friend thinks your nuts. So, you go scuba diving without your friend, and she/he will find something else to do. Make sure that you base your desire to hang with more people on the interests you share with them. That way your 'best' friend will be less likely to be as hurt, because you're not dumping a friendship, you're expanding your interests.

Answer 6

why do u wanna loose her......it must be really good to be best friends for 4 years she must know such a lot about u......such friends r really hard to find......ok she may not be too serious about life but u shouldn't have similar people in ur life all the time.........haven't u heard that variety is the spice of life.....so don't try to totally jusdge her now........u've been her best friend for 4 years i m sure u must have seen something unique in her and liked all her qualitites then so y drift away now........a friendship must stand the test of time.........but if all this dosen't make sense to u then just let time be the best healer.as u say u n her r in different phases of life.......u will c that both of u will soon drift apart anywaz.....she may not be thinking like u at the moment so u may end up hurting her feelings so just take it slow.......don't cut off contct she deserves better than that....but just give it time.........

Answer 7

You dont need to tell her we're not best friends that will hurt her and make her feel worhtless just become freinds its no big deal just tell her hey why dont we hang around new people today or im going to go to that crowd and see what their like if she desnt like it she'll soon find ariend more suitable for her dont worry take time and dont forget think how you would like to be treated =)

Answer 8

I don't see what the big deal is about "best friends" or "friends". Do you mean you don't want to see her as often? If so, just cut back the time you spend with her. If you want to move on, you probably need to sit her down and explain to her what you explained to us. There's no way around it- it probably will hurt her feelings. But if you're ready to move on, she has a right to know.

Answer 9

you always have to be honest. the person should be grown and try to handle it. it is part of being an adult. not always things work out in the same direction. obviously you have change yours and life goes on. at least you want to still be friends. you have to take control of your life. and make the right decisions for you. nothing wrong with that!

Answer 10

You should say it like this : I'm really sorry I have to say this. But I just feel that we should just stay as friends now. Because(You'r reason) I'm sorry. I'm not encouraging you to do this. But if you really want it this way, it's all up to you. Good Luck. Hope it helps.