So you are a beautiful woman. You have just finished your child bearing years bringing in 3 beautiful babies. You are ack to the gym and looking good. Do you like being checked out by other men? Do you purposely look around to see if other men are checking you out? If the answer is yes, does it turn you on? Is it just pure inocense? You love your husband very much, but do you also like being looked at by other men?
2007-08-28 02:04:52 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Happily married women that is
2007-08-28 02:07:10 · update #1
Well, she is HOT. I am pretty studly as well.
2007-08-28 02:21:18 · update #2
If she was really happy she wouldn't feel that need to be looked at. NO it is not good for that need of hers it only spells trouble and there is no innocence there. I would go to counseling to find out what her needs are. But no one knows how it makes the other person till it is done to them. I had a friend who did that all the time. I would tell her that she shouldn't' do that and she would tell me that it made her feel good to be looked at. I told her what if your husband did that and she would say he doesn't mind but that he understood her need. I told her your not going to like it when he does it. Well one day he had it and started doing just what she was doing and all of a sudden she hated it, she found out that the woman that her husband was looking at were responding and almost lost her husband. I told her that her dumb need almost caused her, her husband. They don't do that anymore and i am so happy to see them happy. BTW It is okay to be looked at but not okay to even look around to see who is checking her out. There is something wrong even though her body is great as you say, but her state of mind may be telling her she needs men to make her feel good. If she loved you very much and felt loved her need wouldn't be so great.
2007-08-28 03:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's nice to be checked out. No it's not a turn on it's just a real confidence boost, we know that you (the husbands) find us attractive and we do believe it when you tell us, but there is that little doubt that you might just be saying it, or that you are just so used to saying it. So in the gym and a nice guy is checking you out it just confirms what you have been saying all along!! And i don't know about your wife, but it puts me in the mood for love, and after a session at the gym i can't wait to get home to my hubby.
2007-08-28 09:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by Mum&wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course we do. I like being checked out and I'll occasionally glance around the room to see if anyone notices me. It is somewhat of a turn on- it's flattering to know that after children and several years of marriage I am still attractive to men. It is innocent- I think- because I would never allow it to go any further than being "checked out"- it is just a boost of confidence and sometimes everyone needs one of those!
I also kind of like to see my husband getting checked out because I know he's attractive but it's reassuring to know that others think so as well.
2007-08-28 09:15:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its just human nature to want to be noticed, it makes you feel like you're still someone, not just a mother, not just a wife. I think for most, especially if you're happily married, that its innocent. Its nice to know, even if you have no intentions of acting on it, that someone else other than your husband finds you attractive and may want you. I think it gives you that boost of confidence that we all seem to lose once in a while. And a confident woman will bring that back to her loving husband. Sounds like she has a lot to be proud of herself about, let her show it off.
2007-08-28 11:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by Crzybtch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. When men check me out I love it. It is not a turn on, but a selfesteem boost. I just had a baby and at the mall some guy tried to talk to me. I kept walking and he was checking out my butt. I told my hubby and he laughed. I was surprised someone checked me out. He thought it was funny because he knows I am beautiful.
2007-08-28 09:50:58 · answer #5 · answered by hotmomma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I really don't enjoy being checked out and I am happily married, 2 years now. 4 years together so far. No kids.
2007-08-28 09:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep,I can honestly say I like being checked out by a good looking guy! All married women like that,even if only part of them are willing too admit it. And most husbands feel proud knowing guys think their wife is "Hot", because he's thinking.."eat your heart out guys,she's all mine" !
It doesn't turn me on, just makes me feel good. and yes, most of us would purposely look around too see just WHO is checking us out..lol
2007-08-28 10:01:53 · answer #7 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work as a personal trainer. Belive it or not, most women I work with are interested in looking good for THEMSELVES and finding their own personal best.
A little appreciation of those efforts by others is just a bonus, but not the goal.
2007-08-28 09:35:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop trying to find out if your wife will cheat on you,i have read all your questions and only you know if she will cheat or not.yeah you are insecure but as ive said in another post...
a secure man only starts accusing his wife if he has done something himself.its a way to alleviate the guilt,you realise how easy it is to get "distracted"and are panicking that she will do the same.
chances are she is still the same faithful wife she has always been,its just you that has been "distracted" not her.
2007-08-29 10:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather get the thrill from the glances of my husband checking me out. I mean its always nice to be looked at, especially after having kids. All in all, I would love the bugged eyed look of damn... thats my wife.
2007-08-28 09:11:06 · answer #10 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋