Can anyone give me advice about letting go?

Question

well, I live in the philippines. My family decided that within 6 months, we will be living in canada... And me, I'm anti for this plan. Because we have arrangements with my friends to go to college together. me and my friends were together since 3 years and we shared so much happiness to each other.

because of that, I cant seem to leave the philippines and going to canada is like start all over again; from routines to new friends..

I know some of you think that its a great idea but leaving my friends if very hard for me. And my family wants all of us to go and live there.

I'm so afraid that I will never see them again, their faces, their actions, our friendship. Can anyone help me "let go" of these things.

even though we can chat together but its allot better if we can see each other in the flesh right?

can anyone give me advise?

while I type this details, I remember them and I cried (sorry about that)

thank you....

Answer 1

This is a part of life, a painful part, but it happens to all of us. Keep in mind that most people are a part of our lives for a brief period of time. There are reason for people going in and out of our lives; we learn something from them, they learn something from us. A whole new experience is frightening but, with the right attitude, can be a life enriching experience. In Canada you'll have so many new things to share with the friends you're leaving behind, things they may never get to experience. When you're older and on your own, if a trip back to the past is something you truly want, you'll save the money and make the plans, not just think about it. Some people have life long friendships that span the years and the miles. If those friendships are strong, you'll maintain them for years to come despite the difference. Do you get what I'm saying? This move can be a wonderful thing, you just need to adjust your attitude from "this isn't fair and it isn't what I want, what about me" to "I'll be with my family and this will be new to all of us, a new experience we'll go through together, and I'll have so much more to share with those I left behind." I pray you find peace about this. God bless you and your family and friends.

Answer 2

Remon, I agree it isn't fair. So you must be at least 18 years old if you're going off to college. A whole new world, aren't you apprehensive about that? It's a big change in your life.

Remon you are about to embark on a whole new adventure in life, one that you see as a big mistake. But sometime we have to do things in life that we hadn't planned on. I've never been to the Philippines, but I have to Canada, as I live in Minnesota. But what I see here is a fantastic opportunity to learn new things meet new people, learn new customs, and believe me they are varied in Canada. I know how hard it is for a move like this but it is a wonderful gift most young people never get to experience.

With the Internet I'm sure you can stay in constant touch with friends there in the Philippines and will share each of their lives as if you were there. Plus you'll have new adventures, new perspective of life having lived in different places.

It's ok to feel the way you feel. So here is my suggestion, you have exactly 24 hours to complete your little "pity party", then I want you to start searching on the Internet for things in Canada that interest you now. Like sports, or whatever a young man of your age is interested in - find like groups in Canada. Start communicating with people there. You can ask questions right here on Yahoo Answers! Best Wishes

Hugs from Minnesota!

Answer 3

It is a wonderful opportunity and poses many challenges. Life is full of changes. Canada is a beautiful country filled with wonderful people. You will adjust and learn to love your new country. Is it possible that you and your friends go to the same college when the time comes? You have made lifetime friends. You can still get together with them. Save your money for vacations and holidays to spend with them, and they with you. Keep a positive outlook. In your case, goodbye doesn't have to be forever with all the means of communication there are. Have a positive out look, and enjoy your new adventure.

Answer 4

Is there any reason you can't go on with your plans to go to college in the Philippines? You need to move to stay with your family. As you get older, you will have roots in two places and will be able to visit back and forth. Think more positively. You will have new friends just like your old friends. Today it is so easy to keep in contact with those friends a world away. Later go back to college there. Plan to get a job that would include you traveling back and forth or would allow you to travel to see family and friends everywhere.

Answer 5

I know it is hard to leave friends. But eventually you will go your own ways anyway. You will all eventually get married and have families. Friends stay in contact over distances. It is much easier now with the internet. Once you get to Canada and you start getting busy over there it will not hurt as much. Get web cams and set up specific times to talk with your friends. If you guys went out ever saturday night instead try setting up a webcam conference that way you still feel that connection to them. You will be fine it is good to go out and explore new things.

Answer 6

IT seems that you are realy attached to your friends i know its hard letting go but if your family has decided then there is nothing much that can be done.

its either you talk your parents into letting you stay in the phillipines while they go to canada...... which of course ia hard but worth the try.

another option is your friend to go with you to canada.... which is also hard. but still worth the try.

all you can do now is hope that something happens and you dont have to live the phillipines, otherwise just make sure you get all ways of contacting your friends.

im saying ALL ways because just a phone number wunt be enough, open email addresses, sign up in hi5 and myspace and others. this will help when you lost one contact but have the other.

best of luck.......

Answer 7

Read this:
http://en.allexperts.com/q/Teenage-Problems-1458/moving-home-2.htm

and here's the index page of some poetry on the subject:
http://www.americanpoems.com/searches/m/218

You're not the first kid who has had to do this. It'll be all right. You can't be with them forever. You were born without them and more than likely you'll die without them.

Look at it as a way to make all new friends.

If those you leave behind are REALLY friends, they'll keep in touch.

What will be, will be.

Answer 8

well saying goodbye is never an easy thing see if you might be able to stay in the phillipines with a family memeber or a close friend of the family. Sometimes us grown ups have to make the best plan for us at the time...... just think if you have to move to Canada it will be like a fresh beginning for you and more friends you'll be able to make a new life you'll be able to create

Answer 9

It will be hard but think of it this way. Your true friends will be so excited when they see you (and everyone returns to their home eventually), it will be very powerful and exciting. Additionally you will be getting new friends in Canada who will miss you when you go back to the Philippines. One day you may be so successful they will all be able to get together?!

Answer 10

it only makes since to be sad about it and I have had to leave alot of people and its never easy but dont worry all that much because you guys are really close and you will be able to see each other again. but even though i no that chatting online is in no way enough at least you will be able to keep in touch. and at some point you can go back and visit. or mabey them come visit you