I have spoken to him about it we always almost break up when I talk about it. I really love him and I dred everytime I know they are coming to see us.
Like last Saturday, we were having a house party and he put on a love song I was there and he danced with her first and then with me!!!
This Saturday we have to spend time together again and I'm not sure if I want to do it to myself again. I think I'm gonna cry it feels so good to be abl eto talk about this.
2007-08-28 01:13:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thank you for real great answers
2007-08-28 01:20:11 · update #1
you have to learn to deal with his family because if you get married to this guy, his family will become your family too. i don't see any reason why it should affect you if he chooses to dance with a member of his family before you. he spends most of his time with you and its not often that he gets to spend time with them. so whenever that happens, don't try to have him all to yourself.
as long as they don't really do anything bad or say anything bad to you, i think you should learn to live with the fact that they are his family and will be forever a part of his life
2007-08-28 01:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by mayo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your question it appears that you have problems with the bf. Where is his consideration, love, respect.... if when playing a love song he dances with some one else first. Consider yourself lucky that you get a turn at all ? When you speak to him about it you almost have a break up ! Where is the understanding the communication ? I would prefer to be alone than to be left behind or a second fiddle. You may love him but he is not acting at all loving towards you. Love can not be one sided. One has to act loving not just say the words. By his actions he is not showing it to you and if you cannot talk about it...he should be helping you to get on with his family not just leaving you so that he can be with someone else.
2007-08-28 08:37:06 · answer #2 · answered by njss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound a little jealous of your bfs affection for his family. If they are visiting, he is supposed to dance with them first. That's polite. What are they doing to you? I'm guessing but it sounds like you want all of his time. I remember back when I was married and he and his family would pretty much leave me out of the conversations and I thought that was pretty rude. I knew they didn't approve of the marriage and they made no attempt to include me in anything. Later, I realized they were absolutely right, it was a really bad marriage. You need to get yourself included in the goings on so that you are comfortable with his family. It should be reassuring to know that he loves his family and is capable of such caring. That shows how he will treat his wife and family in the years to come. Try to figure out how to improve your feelings toward his family instead of arguing with your bf about them. He will protect his family so you need to figure out how to deal-for both your sakes.
2007-08-28 08:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by towanda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she isn't family, then she don't need to be at the party, and if he's breaking up with u everytym u talk about it, then in reality, his heart isn't there, I've delt with a wishy washy man. he doesn't really care. U should move on. It's better for u in the end. Normally I don't tell peps to leave the one they love, but sweetie, love doesn't sound like he loves u! So pack ur bags, and keep moving. U're better than that!
2007-08-28 08:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by lil_l2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say her do you mean a relative or his ex girlfriend? If it's his family that he's close to- that is typical for even guys to do. However, he should not get mad at you for talking about it. That's the whole purpose of a relationship- to be able to discuss things and find a solution, which I hope you do.
2007-08-28 08:23:01 · answer #5 · answered by darkshadows9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
correct me if I am wrong but when you say his family do you mean his ex wife and children.If this is what you meant then it was very unfair for him to dance with his ex wife to a love song no class so now the balls are in your court get to the bottom of it does he want to reconcile with his wife or not.
2007-08-28 08:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go. apparently he has no respect for you or your feelings, and your relationship. he is not the one for you. it seems that you love him more than you love self. why would you continue to put self through this kind of pain and misery. let it and him go. its not worthy your sanity. you are young and beautiful inside and out and you deserve to be treated with respect for the man in your life and his family. GodBless.
2007-08-28 08:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!! I am so sorry. He may need to be with her and you need to move on in all honesty. It sound slike it;s getting a little out of hand. What does his famly think about it? You can IM me or email me whenever if you ever want to talk about b/c I totally understand.
2007-08-28 08:16:55 · answer #8 · answered by A little Southern Comfort 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Uh...who is the her that he danced with? What are your problems with his family? Or ar you problems with him and where you rank with his family. You aren't specific enough for me to give an incredible answer.
2007-08-28 08:18:03 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like jealousy to me.If you love him deal with it,otherwise leave
2007-08-28 08:21:28 · answer #10 · answered by Gemini 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋