My wife is a husband beater. HELP?

Question

Ok guys I'm serious. Over the last few months my wife (who is 6") has been beating on me (I am 5"4') at home. The attacks are often the result of only minor arguments which I never even instigate. When she attacks I try to restrain the ragged minge, but she is just too strong. Since the beatings started I have suffered two black eyes and was once rendered unconcious with a sleeper hold. I don't know what to do as I am too ashamed to go to the police and admit that I am being physical abused by a woman, although my friends all know from my injuries and they only rub salt in my wounds...

Answer 1

I was in a similiar situation for 15 years, and trust me it will only get worse. I was once attacked while I was sleeping, she punched me in the face and broke my tooth. The very next time she does it, call the police, then move out. She does not love you my friend...I found out after I gained the courage to leave that she was having all sorts of affairs, stealing money, and stealing drugs from her workplace. When you move out, get a protection order so she can't do any further damage. You are not at fault here, she is the one with the problem, and the longer you continue to be her punching bag, the longer it will take to regain your self esteem, and self worth. I promise, if you do it, you will never regret it...there is no shame in reporting violence.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

If you can not go to the police then you need to leave the situation at least for the time being and stay with some friends or family. If you want to try and work things out with your wife this is the best way. I would suggest therapy which is a way to talk about the abuse with someone who is in partial (not your friends mocking you or the police embarrassing you). If you have no desire to work things out then you have a ligament reason to file for divorce but I would consider that as a last resort. I wish you good luck and I will pray for you!

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My wife is a husband beater. HELP?
Ok guys I'm serious. Over the last few months my wife (who is 6") has been beating on me (I am 5"4') at home. The attacks are often the result of only minor arguments which I never even instigate. When she attacks I try to restrain the ragged minge, but she is just too strong....

Answer 5

I lived with one of those for 27-years and was ashamed to tell anyone; I wish I had. The violence just escalated over the years because she figured out that I was not going to hit her back. After 25-years I asked her to seek counseling and she did but it didn't help because she had been hiding a prescription drug habit for about 15-years. The violence got so bad until she put a gun to my head in the middle of the night and tried to pull the trigger. Thankfully I hadn't pushed the clip in the gun all the way which prevented it from firing. I had her arrested and she was convicted and I divorced her.

Approach her when she is not angry about the counseling and go with her to support her. If she refuses let her know how her beating affects you. Lastly, if she doesn't stop, call the police and have her arrested on domestic violence charges. That way there is a record and you can go to court with her and help her plea to a lesser charge and mandatory counseling.

Answer 6

Being ashamed to call the authorities is a normal reaction for a man in your situation. Trust me, there are PLENTY of men in your situation. Some of them do call the authorities to stop the abuse, as you should.

Yes, she will be charged with domestic assault. Yes, she will most likely go to jail for a day. Yes, there will most likely be a restraining order for you two to stay away from each other.

Hopefully your state also has a Batterer's Education Program where she will be required to attend classes to realize the abuse she is giving you. There are classes tailored strictly for women abusers so do not feel like you are in a unique situation. It happens all the time and you NEED to stand up and call the authorities.

Answer 7

Next time she hits you, lower your pride and call the police. As much as it is against the law for a man to beat his wife it is against the law for a wife to beat her husband. I have seen a wife of a friend of ours beat her husband and knock his front teeth out and even though we offered to take him to the hospital and call the police he wouldn't do it. I still called the cops but he didn't take it any further and we never saw them again. Also I would find a new bunch of friends because obviously if they cared they would help you out instead of being a------s. I hope this is no joke and I wouldn't call her a ragged minge if you don't want to cop another beating. Are you not financial enough to get out of there and get your own place?

Answer 8

Once abuse starts it only gets worse. You really need to go to the police and get over your "shame". There is nothing to be ashamed of.

The woman is bigger than you and has issues. Do not let old stereo-types control your life, especially in this situation. She may easily go too far and then stereo-types won't matter any more.

Also, you need to get away from her now. The quicker the better.

Take care and Good Luck,
Troy

Answer 9

My brother was being assaulted by his wife who used drugs day after day for 10 years the police were called and each time he was charged while she was let off , I witnessed most of the abuse but they wouldnt listen to his family because she told them we were beating on her when he wasnt home I wish I had.

She's now with my ex husband and because my brother couldnt prove she was the abuser I am forced to allow my daughter to spend weekend's with the abuser , whats it gunna take for her to kill my daughter before someone protects her?.

You need to put your shame behind you and report her because she'll keep doing it other wise.

Answer 10

she is doing this because you are allowing it. stop and decease with this mess. be the man that you are and leave are butt right there fighting with herself. call the police and press charges because if it were you beating on her trust you behind would be locked up with the quickness. stop allowing her to do this. press charges on her butt. when she goes to jail and see what it is like in there than she will think twice about putting her hands on you or anyone else for that matter. dont be ashamed you are not alone trust me. call the police on her butt. you cant stay in this violent relationship. one day someone is going to snap and than at that point it will be to late. once you press charges the judge will more than likely order her into counseling. but it starts with you. STOP IT NOW. GET HELP FOR YOU AND HER. GodBless.