Has anyone been in a great marriage, gone out and got drunk, and "accidentally" cheated?

Question

I have always known that alchohol has been to blame for some stupid **** happening, but I was curious: What woman in here, or woman you know has been very happy in their marriage and gone out with girlfriends. On their night out they had a few too many and ended up screwing someone else. Has this happened to anyone on here? What happened after this happened.

Remember, this is for people who are happy in their marriage but just had a bad night

Answer 1

alcohols not to blame. if you're in a great marriage you dont cheat. end of

Answer 2

This is exactly why couples in a marriage get upset with the spouse that goes out drinking and partying with their friends. It's not about jealousy and not allowing your better half to not have any freedom. It's about drinking and having it cloud your thinking process and letting friends entice you that what is going on around you is normal. This is called putting yourself into temptation so if someone is married you just don't do it especially if you feel you are in a happy marriage and risk the chance of something going wrong. If a person can remember that they cheated after the drink wears off they can just as well think before they head down the road before they do it! If a person cannot control themselves drinking and their actions while drinking then they should never drink at all. Drinking only gives you the courage to do something that they wanted to do anyway. One thing you know here is that you are not the only one that knows what you did and will always have something over on you. The other thing that you can only hope for is that this man did not give you an std that harbors for years before showing up! I would say that you can only hope that it was a bad night and that it doesn't come back to haunt you for a life time. I am not trying to be hurtfull to you here I am trying to show you why you should never get yourself into a situation like this again. I would back off from the friends that know about it and make the choice to never have another drink for the rest of my life. Also I would go talk with a counselor by myself and get direction on where to put my feelings on all of this especially if you want to protect your marriage. I understand that you may be feeling guilty but please don't tell anyone else about what happened around you and go talk to a therapist and this would be the only one that i would trust to deal with it. Take care and be carefull.

Answer 3

It never happened to me, but I do believe that it something that can happen. Not that easily though, and I think that either the person wouldn't be that happy to be honest, probably going through some difficult patch, or either that person would have been taken advantage of.
So, I think that the best would be to come clean ASAP. The longer you leave it, the worst it'll become.
There's never a good time to come clean about such a thing, never ever, but the sooner, the better.
It does show a desire to be honest, the realisation of a mistake, and the desire to save the marriage.
Your chances of making it work are better rather than by remaining quiet.
Obviously, you'd need to address the underlying problem. What made you do it? It can't just be a mistake. How do you know it won't happen again?!
Good luck.

Answer 4

A bad night ? If this happened to you, you better never drink again as you must have an alcoholic problem. This is something I am not sure I could get drunk enough to let happen. Drunk is not a damned excuse . I think its complete BS and if your marriage is complete than why you out drinking like that. I just think drinking was an excuse for a f up. You don't even seem to be remorseful. That bugs me. YOUR MARRIED ! Drunk is not a free ticket to ride you act as though it were OK since you were drunk as you weren't a part of it or something. What if your pregnant or have contacted a sexual disease ? Would that be just a slip up . I take my loyalty to my husband and marriage seriously drunk or not.

Answer 5

I've had 3 bad marriages before and I know what is a good marriage when I see one... I can say that I'm in a great marriage now...

To answer your question, I will take in 2 parts... first... how can I prevent it from happening (be it guys or girls)... second... if you do slip up... what could be done...

Honestly, if you're in a great marriage, you will NEVER wanna do anything that will jeopardize it... While you may get out, have fun and indulge in alcohol and such, any sensible guy or girl will know where's the limit... getting drunk is an irresponsible act (even when nothing happens)... There's a Chinese saying that an intoxicated man (or woman) has 30% of consciousness before he (or she) knocks out... This means, there's ample time to stop, seek help and BE RESPONSIBLE... The reason why people do not stop themselves from getting drunk is a sheer act of being irresponsible... no excuse can shift the blame for this act so don't even try coming up with them... Period... My advice to people wanting to go out, hang loose and get drunk (if they need to)... do so responsibly... arrange for your partner to pick you up like a parent would pick up his daughter from her prom...

But the above is easier said than done... more othen than not, when one is indulging in such irresponsible acts, they do not have the sense to stop or seek help or whatsoever... so whatever happened thereafter, you just have to face, take responsibility and face the consequences... kick your own *** if your partner leaves you as a result for it... as it is something that few spouses (men or women can accept)... though more matured coupled whom has a very matured relationship, can learn to forgive and let such imperfection of being nutures a stronger love between each other, few can really live up to such admirable conduct...

So if you do get forgiven, cherished it and not let it happen again... if you're the one inflicted with the knowledge of your partner's foolish act, let's be gracious and give the other the benefit of doubt and a second chance... ask yourself if the whole relationship is worth giving up over this foolish act...

Answer 6

I think many women do not understand the battle men fight. Every where you look on t.v at the grocery store whatever there are half-nude women every where. Now with that in mind here is what is really going on all this stuff you look at is consumeing your mind and IT ABSOLUTELY can lead to cheating! So all you married men out there reading this go get yourself the book EveryMan's battle (just give bookstore the title they'll find it) This book will arm you with the knowledge you need to resist unwanted circumstances.

Answer 7

It sounds like your looking for justification. Deal with the issue, alcohol is the poor mans truth serum. Generally people will only do things that they want to do when they're strait but don't have the courage.
Now black out drunk is a different story.....but then you wouldn't know what you did anyway.
Just my opinion.

Answer 8

There is no such thing as "accidentally cheating"! You cheated when you found yourself with an alcoholic beverage at your lips rather than the lips of your mate. The most hurtful thing in this situation is that you fail or refuse to acknowledge that you are your own worst enemy.

Answer 9

You don't do anything drunk you have not considered sober.
That is of course unless you are so drunk that you cannot resist what becomes a rape.
In either case there are a lot of issues here which all come down to demon alcohol and self control.

Answer 10

Never... and I get pretty drunk. I'll admit I've flirted before, but my husband doesn't have a problem with that. I don't really think there's any excuse for cheating, even if they're so drunk they can hardly walk. It's a junk cop-out excuse and I wouldn't believe it.

Answer 11

Sorry Mike it doesnt accidentally happen and if you believe it does I have an island in the south pacific for sale , cheap good sitting spot , huge hotel on it , I'll do you a fantastic deal.