I am girl, 15. Still my mom treats me like a small girl. It is true that she loves me a lot. But the issue is too much love and care, that I feel I am too much pampered than what a 15 years grown up girl actually needs. Some times it hurts my freedom too, but still I do not say any thing because mom things that I am still a small girl. When I go to kitchen, mom will be behind. When I go for shopping, dad or mom will be with me. Though I feel proud for them, I have started longing for a little more freedom.
How to tell my mom & dad about this, with out hurting them?
2007-08-27 23:40:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It won't come from them.
So it has to come from you.
They don't give you freedom because you don't seem to need it.
If you really need it, then take it.
You can approach it with anger and annoyance: Tell them you want to be left alone.
Or when your mom follows you into the kitchen, wait her out.
You can do it in a much easier humurous way. Just make their care ridiculous.
When your mom follows you into the kitchen, ask her to fix your sandwich for you. Then give very precise instructions about how to prepare, stack and cut it (no, hold the cheese out for 30 seconds, it shouldn't be too cold when it hits the bread).
On shopping, make the experience an unpleasant one for them. Hang around in a shop forever. When you meet friends, talk with them.
2007-08-28 00:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by mgerben 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think I'd talk to your parents and explain you would like to have a few more privileges.Have a plan in mind so that you are prepared for the discussion that will surely follow. Ask your parents if you could go shopping, or to the movies etc with a friend ( or friends) they like.Ask for a reasonable curfew time and don't be late.Keep your school work up and continue to be respectful to your parents.I There may be after-school activities you'd like to participate in as well. Accept what your parents will give you in the way of freedom and choices.If you show you are responsible and accountable for your actions you can always build on that.It's a scary world out there for parents and kids. I'm sure you know your parents love you and you love them.
2007-08-28 06:30:51 · answer #2 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An interesting question! By letting your parents know that you are mature enough to do things like going in the kitchen and shopping, it may help them to understand. Have a family meeting to discuss these issues, so you can come to an agreement upon you freedom and what you want.
It is good that you asked for help than rather create an arguement with your parents. Trust me when I say the discussion would be really peaceful, and everyone wind at the end!
2007-08-28 03:07:13 · answer #3 · answered by Shadow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you love them and you think that it is time for them to give you some independance. Start small, like going to the mall with friends, etc... Ask them for guidelines on time, where you can go, who you are with, and follow through on what you say you are going to do. Show them they can trust you to make good descisions, by following their rules, asking questions about things you are not sure of. It's hard for us parents to let our children grow up. We want you to stay innocent forever, unfortunately, that is just not possible. It's a big scarey world out there, and they are only worried about your safety. If you can prove to them that you have enough sense to avoid situations that could lead to trouble, that will go a long way with them. (maybe they will let you take a self defense class, lol.)
You sound like a good kid, and have been blessed with parents that love and care for you. Enjoy your young years while you can, they go by so fast. the biggest thing i can say is communicate with your parents, they were young once too, and far from perfect. As long as you can talk to your parents and ask them questions without them flying off the handle, that is they way it is supposed to be, and feel lucky, because a lot of kids don't have that at all. They just have to muddle their way through, and make mistakes that they have to pay for in the end, simply because they didn't have the guidence they needed from their parents, because their parents didn't give a crap.
Also don't fall under the peer pressure. BE YOURSELF, your true friends will love you just the way you are.
2007-08-28 02:45:18 · answer #4 · answered by CSmom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same age as you and dude, I can feel your pain. Same thing happened to me so I just told my mum that I wanted to go out with my friends and stuff like that. It didn't really hurt her I guess but she told me that all she wanted to do was to spend more time with me before I become an adult. It's understandable I guess, so like we both took a step back each; she gives me my freedom and I spend time with her. I know it's not too detailed but I hope it helped.
2007-08-28 00:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by Winter tears 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have to sit down and tell them that you think you need a little more freedom and that you love the fact that they care for you as much as they do. Do not do anything that would make them think less of you.
2007-08-28 03:17:47 · answer #6 · answered by EmmaNicole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them exactly what you just wrote. Do it nicely not whining. Make sure you are showing them that you deserve more freedom also making sure your room is clean you are helping around the house things like that do more then whats expected of you and you will really earn your freedom.
2007-08-28 00:30:00 · answer #7 · answered by falnangel07 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the next time your going to go shopping, invite a few friends, and ask your mom to drive you there. (to start), and then when your there, let your mom know that your going to go into (for example), hollister, and that you were wondering if she might like to go and look in another store. try that a few times. then try getting dropped off at the mall. then just going yourself =)
just remember, like you said, they do love you so much which is why they do all this =)
good luckkk---
xox <3
2007-08-28 02:05:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like you in my experience when I was 19 that my parents they always to protect me against a bad influence people there and my mom was always to treat me if we will go to shopping or watching movies and even my dad was always to text me for what time if I'm going home from school and then I'll told them about it that they always to protecting me and then I'll told them that I can do it of what I did like to do my own decisions in my life and I'll told I don't like to being a spoil brat and then after a few days they talked to me about it and they told me if what is your own decision and we will to giving you a good support and I know this is your life and then I'm thanked to them and I'm give them a hugging to each other and then I had my freedom like I can going out with my friends and my parents they always to told me to always keep my feet to the ground and I'm still started of being an independent and that's I'm always to have my own money and how can spend it wisely and of course I had a lots of responsibilities like I can do it the household chores.I think you should to talked with your parents about your life and this your life and you will have your own decisions in your life and I know they really loves you because this own for good of being protecting your parents and they always to behind of what is your own decisions of your life and they must to giving a good support for you
2007-08-28 00:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by Clarisse 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell them how you feel and ask if you can start with something small, like going to the mall with your parents but go to different stores so they will be in the same uilding but just in a different store. that way you will get your independence and you can also take it slow so they dont feel like you are "leaving" them too fast. good luck!
2007-08-28 02:51:28 · answer #10 · answered by MnM23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋