what should i do about this bully?

Question

there was a girl at my high school, who i once had a fight with, i can stick up for myself and it didnt bother me as neither of us came out worse, but then i started having these awful dreams about it and couldnt sleep, shes really intimidating and she likes to turn peoples friends against them-iv not seen her in a year but have now found out she is starting at the same college as me, and am dreading it-what shall i do?

i know she and i are adults and i should ignore her, but she is a psycho, she once through a girl around who was about 4 years younger than her until she cracked her head open

Answer 1

make sure your the boss of this situation not her. or try to be friends with her. pretend you havnt had those dreams. and the fight didnt happen. dont let an imature girl like her ruin your future for you.

Answer 2

hey, i'm in exactly the same situation as you. I'm about to start college and i've found out the people who bullied me are also going there. Your college is probably going to be huge, the chances of you being in the same class or even running into her will be quite slim. There will be plenty of new people around to support you and lets face it, sooner or later everyone will hate her if she's really as bad as you say she is...lol. Besides, she should have grown out of the bullying phase.
Some people are just complete b**chs, at the end of the day you just have to be assured in the knowledge that they suck, and you have no time for them and you can't let them get to you, because if you do, you're letting them win and giving them what they want.
Don't worry, you'll have all your friends there to support you, just keep yourself to yourslef and stay clear of her.
If things get worse, it sounds so cliche, but talk to your mum or something. Mum's always know what to do =] and if it really gets to you, starts disrupting your work etc, tell the school.
I hope this helps a little, but good luck at college and chin up =]

Answer 3

take things as they come. she may have seen the errors of her ways. be friendly with everyone and fun to be around with. she will think twice if you are seen to be a popular girl, remember bullies seek out weak and scared looking people, it's their nature!!! get yourself involved in numerous clubs and go up and talk to people, even if you feel shy, don't wait for people to come to you!!! don't stand in the corner on your own. make yourself work at this and you will become a more confident person, she will soon find another victim. whatever you do, do not 'run ' her down verbally to other people, she is the type as you say that will turn friends against you and they will start to think you are the trouble maker. if she approaches you, give her the hugest smile and say something like: "hi, how you doing, having seen you in ages, we must have a coffee soon and catch up, i've got so much to tell you!!! see you later!!!" and then just walk away, this will leave you in a power of strength on your first meeting and leave her very confused!!! it may be enough to show her you are a different confident person and that could be the end of it all, don't let this bully get you down- remember you are the better person!!! good luck!!!

Answer 4

Let's look at this from an adult view. it's not high school anymore, you are both grown ups now. You have alot more options in college to deal with this situation. If she harasses you report her to the Dean, call the police and charge her with what ever you can. Remember a year can do alot , she could have changed and is more adult and given up this routine. Just see how it goes, most colleges are very large and you may never see her.

Answer 5

College is a totally different scene. There is nothing to fear. The school is so big and there is way too much work to be done. Those childish games usually go away once you reach college, unless you join a sorority, or a fraternity. It is nothing like high school!! Universities will throw you out if you start any trouble on campus!! There are campus police all around too!

Answer 6

Calm down, this bully must have you really out of your wits for you to have had a dream about her. I want you to remember one thing, the girl (bully) is just another girl like you and that means she can experience the same feelings as you do.
Now from experience what you have to do now is stand up to her no matter how frightening that may sound but you just have to stand up to her. Believe me when i tell u that the day u stand up to her and make her feel or rather know that you dont accept her bullying it'll all stop.
The starting point is standing up to her....

Answer 7

I wouldn't worry about it much. When you're in college, people tend to be a completely different kind of crowd. I doubt you will even get much opportunity to see her. There are so many people in college, and different "cliques" tend to not harass each other in college but just leave be.

College and high school are so different it's not even funny. There isn't near the level of catty gossip and fighting that there is in high school, so I doubt her methods will go that far even if she tries.

Answer 8

College is a big place and you will find people are very different when they go. I would not worry about her and just ignore her when you see her. She will probably do the same.

Answer 9

There's not much you can do. Fortunately, people tend to mature in college, so you probably won't have any problems. Plus, you'll both be too busy to bother with each other. I wouldn't worry, if she gets up to her old tricks it's her own popularity that will suffer.

Answer 10

It was awhile ago, you'll just have to wait til you start to find out, avoid her, if she's a problem>> confront her, but if you start and you both avoid each other, you should have nothing to worry about, and hay, colleges are big, so maybe she's taking something completely different :)