well i just got back from teaching @ a scout camp, i taught mostly 12-13yrs olds but full range 11-18, now these guys treated me like a g-d(not G-D, more of a pagan sense). now that i'm back in the real world, i'm kinda depressed, i went from a guru to a nothing. well my friends gf has a 13 yr sister who likes to talk to me (she thinks i'm funny?), well she commpliments constantly and i was thinking it was weird cuz i was getting back the 'high' from that camp, is that weird? pedophile-like or anything?
2007-08-27 22:51:32 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i dont like them but thats the immature stuff that comes up when i talk with my friend. i mean she's 13, and thats not my age group, now her older sister(19) on the other hand...(i'm not older than 19)
2007-08-27 23:18:48 · update #1
Hello irc_0ps:
The boys looked to you as an older boy; full of experience and knowledge. You were a camp counselor with a cool name, had been there, done that, and had the T-shirt to prove it.
Remember back when you were 12-13. You thought the older teenagers were really cool, and wished you could hang out with them, right? This is what the boys were experiencing. It is one of the aspects Scouts use to guide younger boys. It is doubtful that the boys would treat an older adult in the same manner.
Like all 13 Y.O. girls, your friend's sister thinks she is more mature than her counterparts in the same age bracket. (For the most part, it is true.) HOWEVER, she is not emotionally mature. You should treat her the same way you related to the Boy Scouts; friendly but aloof. You are a friend, but not a companion. Being kind to the girl is not pedophilia. If you try to get too close, it will be.
Make more attempts to hang with others your own age. You can continue your friendship with the girl, just keep it platonic. Treat her the same you would a boy of her age.
Keep on Scoutin'
2007-08-28 13:41:39 · answer #1 · answered by OrakTheBold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they like you so much, good. I'm hoping that they like you because you are setting such a good example. Being more than just a buddy, but, rather, a leader in their life. Don't think too highly of yourself. Be humble. Realize your talent in teaching youth and use it. I'm the same way, I teach youth when I can and I enjoy it.
Now, you brought something serious up here. Are you attracted to any of these kids? If you are, then the answer to your question is: No. This is not normal to be attracted them. If this is true, you need to stay away from our youth and get help. If you just enjoy the attention, then I think that it's ok.
2007-08-28 06:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by ScottyJae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's perfectly normal to like the attention that the younger children gave you. It made you feel older and more experienced than them and as if you had something important to share with some one. It's important to feel that we can contribute to other people's lives and when you're either teaching or being a counseling the children tend to make you feel important and like you can make a difference. AS long as you don't take advantage of that you should be fine.
2007-08-28 09:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by Kathryn R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh
i think if u think about it normaly..not in any weird ways its gonna b perfecly normal :)
its that simple !
2007-08-28 05:59:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋