He is older then me,by a couple of years. he kept saying that he is ready. but am still young .just gradurate high school, but he wants a kid. I do love and i dont want to lose him over this.
2007-08-27 21:50:00 · 23 answers · asked by Natasha J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if he truly loves you he will wait .Be careful he wants you to believe that he loves you but by you having his child it will be a way for him to keep you in his life ...it will make him feel secure ...please take this serious .
2007-08-27 21:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by bluebloodd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
You sound very young. If he loves you he will not give you ultimatums. If he wants a child with you - when does he intend to propose to you, and make it all legal - is he scared of this commitment. A child is also a bit commitment. You could negotiate with him. Have a career - something to fall back on when the child starts going to school and needs all the essentials. Are you ready for all the nights you cannot go out, or the days when the baby cannot go out eg raining, unwell, tiredness! Why does he want a child so soon - do you really know each other well? When will he want the next baby - usually there is not more than 2 or 3 years gap between babies. Please do think about your future - if you graduate, you can bring your baby so much more - love and material goods. It is your body, you know when you are ready for babies, and also when the right man comes along. You are in charge of your mind, no-one else. You have freedom and a looming future - you know you have.
Best wishes.
2007-08-28 04:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by Glo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you, he can wait. Girl you are just her boyfriend, you are not yet married so he can easily dumps after he can have what he want. But what about you? if suddenly he leaves you with your child because he wants to have a child with someone else, would that be great. Sex should have been done after marriage (IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN - ALWAYS), so if she really loves you, he could wait, till your both ready, physically, emotionally and financially. If you do love him, let him feel it but not to the extent that you do anything for him and him not waiting for you. Love includes the decision both of you makes, there can be no love if one tells the other what to do and the partner do it just because of fear that she will lose the one she loves.
2007-08-28 04:59:16 · answer #3 · answered by kidnash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you get married first?Please don't be forced into having a baby,what a sick reason to bring another unwanted kid into this world.Does he have a job?Can he support this kid?Just tell him you are not ready to be fat and uncomfortable for 9 months.Then you have this crying,crapping,sucking on you little thing.Your youth will be over.Your life will never be yours again. Do you love him this much? Get that ring on your finger.Wait a few years until you are ready then start your family.
2007-08-28 05:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by lotteda717 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont have the kid... You are only kid yourself and need to have a life outside parental and school control.
If hes older HE has to understand you are younger and should act more like you.
You need to stand up for yourself not get pushed around .
If he does not like this and pulls away you need to let him.
IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU HE WILL COME BACK, GROVELLING AND LET YOU HAVE YOUR WAY.
if not he does not care for you.
You will ahve to carry the baby and if split up get stuck with it.
You need to wait till mid twenties till lived a little so can use what you learn to be a strong girls and have something to teach the kid about life other then motherhood.
If I daed somone younger its as was not looking to have a kid but have fun and party with somone who felt the same
2007-08-28 04:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a million ways to say this so here I go (mother of two and widowed): DON'T, you have freedom right now that you are not even aware of, KEEP SMILING, he's trying to hold onto you, YOU'RE NOT MARRIED, before you reach the age of 35 you will feel like you have three more lives, GO OUT TONIGHT WITH SOME GIRLFRIENDS, that special place in your body is meant for the perfect moment, SIT DOWN AND LISTEN TO THE SILENCE (DO YOU LIKE IT?)
I don't mean to be sarcastic. I am sending my love right now and YOU SHOULD REALLY BE VERY SELFISH right now!!!!!!!!!
2007-08-28 05:06:22 · answer #6 · answered by wideawake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you just got out of high school and he's only a few years older then you have plenty of time. you should never rush into having a baby unless you are both rdy cause it's a HUGE decision that will afftect you for the rest of your life if you stay with this person or not. if he really loves you he will give you the time you need to be sure
2007-08-28 04:55:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a HUGE issue. Stick to what is right for you even if you do lose him. You don't want someone who refuses to respect you on a huge issue like this. It means bringing another person into the world and into your lives. Do it when YOU want to do it, not just because he's ready. You will resent him and possibly your child if you do it because you feel as if you HAVE to do it.
2007-08-28 04:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by beckini 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him everything there is to tell about being a parent. Change diapers, wake up in the middle of the night to fed it, no more going out whenever he likes because he has to watch the baby. Plus you can say what if we have a girl, you will have to watch her extra close because guys only want one thing! That will change his mind for a year or two, trust me.
2007-08-28 05:14:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just got out of high school and you are a couple of years younger? Start by pointing out the penalties of statutory rape and stupidity of raising a kid with out the legal security of a marriage. Tell him to spend some time growing up. Grow up yourself. Lose him, you have about 60 years left in your life.
2007-08-28 04:54:57 · answer #10 · answered by Mike1942f 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he really loved you he could respect your wishes.Yes,love hurts at times but only by accident not intentionally.How do you express your love by pressuring the other party?I believe he may
feel he may lose you,having a child doesn't guarantee two parties.Will remain together forever.
2007-08-28 05:16:34 · answer #11 · answered by yp_will_chicago_369 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋