Are you married but pretty lonely?

Question

I am, and I;m getting pretty tired of it. what would you do? Hubby never wants to be home. When he is, it's like so boring and dull. I sleep alone cause he's gone all night. I'm always by myself. It's getting really old.

Answer 1

I'm not married now, but I have been in the same boat as you with more than one husband. And I know lots of people who are currently in your same predicament. Usually people will find companionship with someone, a friend, a neighbor, a co-worker or even a stranger on line, rather than stay in your situation.
I can only suggest that you try to talk to your husband, if unsuccessful perhaps he will submit to counseling with you to try to save your marriage. Or perhaps you can cultivate other friendships to help try to compensate so you will feel less lonely.
My solution was divorce, but that is not for the faint of heart and should be a last resort.
Good luck to you, my heart goes out to you!

Answer 2

I have been where you are and you have my full empathy .... trouble was I was too scared to face my stuation and just let it roll on until it came to a full stop. This situation doesn't sound good for your relationship and could be a sign of it heading for the end ..... unless you - and he - do something about it .....
Have you tried talking to him/with him ... find out what he feels about the situation.... maybe he feels the same as you .... maybe he's just as unhappy ... this would be a start - you started this relationship/marriage - together - it takes both of you to fix it - or end it .....
try finding things to do together, both of you should try to get involved in some of the things each has a preference for - even if one of you doesn't want to - or at least agree a mutual time for you each to do your own thing ....
Before anything can happen that you both would be happy with - you must talk .... take it out of the family - marriage guidance/counselling would be a good start - you can go by yourself to start with - just to get the ball rolling .... but in the end it has to be a joint effort .....
good luck

Answer 3

Most of us are married to workaholics, when you talk to them about it they turn it around on you and make you out to be the bad guy. (Here I'm out working my a s s off and your complaining about me not being here with you,OK so I'll quiet my job is that what you want) that's what i get when ever i say anything about being lonely. I give in every time and let him have his way.And it goes back to the way it was.In other words it does no good bringing the subject up because they think they are doing nothing wrong and in a way their not.Best thing to do is find something to keep you amused when your husband is working.Look at it this way there are millions of us lonely wives out here and we all would love to find something to do with our time,lets all get together and start a lonely hearts club just for women who are married to workaholics.

Answer 4

Yes, I totally understand. And it's very hard. You think " I'm married now so I didn't think I'd ever feel alone again". I feel alone even when my husband is in the same room with me. Plain and simple women need attention. Men need to feel good and their job and women need to feel good about their relationship. It's a measure of success. And when you don't get attention from your spouse, it's like you feel you are a failure at your relationship. Most men are like this, you need to decide how much of it you are willing.. and able.. to deal with. We all have our limits.. and it's better to get out BEFORE you move on to someone who is willing to give you some attention. Tell him this is something you need out of the relationship. But, don't be shocked if he's not willing to give you what you need.

Answer 5

Firstly have you talked to him about it.
He is working, my husband does to very hard to feed and house his family.
Maybe ask him if you two could do something new - go out together at least every 3 mths. Get a babysitter, organise everything, make it special. Even a picnic alone, somewhere romantic, or cook a romantic dinner for two at home, with the kids not there.
Try to talk to your husband about it as it is for both of you not just for you and tell him that you miss him.
Good luck and hope it all works out.

Answer 6

Do you really want him around? Then you need to sit his assets down and tell him. Let him know that this issue could end your marriage. It takes two to make a marriage work and sometime it is a lot of work. but in order for it to have a chance, you've got to talk to one another and someone has to be the one to start. Good Luck

Answer 7

Sounds like your man needs to be home for his girl more often, I hope he's around more in the future, so you don't have any more lonely nights.

I've never been married, but I know what it's like when your significant other is constantly occupied, it's lonely, and yes, very tiring ..

Hang in there!

Answer 8

Time to pack up and say bye bye. He is having a good time out and all the fun while you are wasting your live doing nothing. Get a life, take up a hobby. Join a club, meet friends. Join a volantary service hospital lend your sevices and help and also meet others while you are out there. Join a sports club. Go for dance class, yoga etc. Meet people and keep busy. No point you staying at home and getting bored. Get cracking dont waste your life. If you have a hobby market it.Just DO IT. Time and tide waits for no one.

Answer 9

Two answers to one question.
First. Marriage has nothing to do with loneliness. An unmarried, a single and a married person can be lonely.
Second. If you want him, conform to his routine. He is NOT so hard that your efforts full of sincere love for him can't get him for you, if you are not an atheist.

Answer 10

Well my husband is doing the same thing or should i say was. He always wanted to go to work and never wanted to spend time with his family then one day i just said things need to change or you will be singing some papers real soon. I told him that he really needed to think what he was doing wrong...I guess maybe you should give him a threat and see what that does.