Can a man be HAPPILY married AND still...?

Question

see a woman on the side that he has known for a few years?
Just say he calls this woman EVERYTIME his wife is out of town and away to come and hang out with him..but they have only had sex once...they just talk and cuddle..and he gives her oral pleasure but he doesnt ask for much in return..and he tells this woman he really cares about her and that he gives alot of sh*t about her...he tells her he thinks about her more than he should and he has never felt about a woman like that before..and all kinds of mushy stuff...can he still be happily married if he is doing that? what is going on with his feelings for the other woman...because he doesnt ask for sex...HELP

Answer 1

If he's doing that with another woman, he's obviously not completely happily married. He might not be happy at all.

Answer 2

He is not a happily married man when he is doing this but then men have been known to be able to compartmentalize love and sex in their minds. Some men just want variety and having that little something different on the side. Sex with any woman is what he works it up to mean in his head. The end result for him mentally is to know that he can satisfy a woman in which many women fake to keep him coming around for what it does for them emotionally.In reality he may not be taking the time to satisfy his wife and she is honest about it so he goes with someone else that makes him think he can do her good? Some men are just philanders and will say and do anything that a woman wants to hear to satisfy his own selfish needs. If a man has a wife and doesn't leave her he has the best of both worlds but one thing is for sure he is a cheater and that tells you a lot about his character in how he handles honesty and commitment in a marriage! Men are just players when they have a wife and he doesn't want her to know what is going on in her world. If a man has any real emotional feelings at all about loving his wife he would let her go to find someone that could deserve her better than he does.This way he could really be there for the mistress that he claims he really cares about and has feelings for like he has never felt before with any other woman. Does he look at the mistress and love her for the whole person or does his feelings for her only stop at her neck? This is only my opinion here but a man doing this while in a marriage and crossing the line with another woman is not happy with with anybody let alone himself. This man needs to find himself and stay away from all women untill he does.

Answer 3

There seem to be many men and women for that matter that believe if they don't have intercourse that it isn't cheating. It is cheating. But in the case of this man, he is not only cheating on his wife, but he is cheating on the poor woman who has the misfortune of getting hooked up with him. Any contact with anyone outside the marriage is blatant infidelity. You know the old saying, if he cheats on his wife, he will cheat on you as well. It's the old male BS of being able to have his cake and eat it too. No pun intended. And no, I don't think a man can be happily married and still want another woman in his life. Get out of the marriage if that is the kind of man he want to be. The words he says to you are just that. Words.Run for your life because he will say what ever he needs to say to have his way. In my view, he has very few morals and you need to question yours for being with him knowing he has a wife at home.

Answer 4

Umm some may argue you can,but no you cant be happy and go for another woman. As far as it goes I wouldnt even see him as the second lady if you cared you wouldnt want to ruin his family. Also, he says hes happily married because your not worth leaving his wife over maybe he cant give his wife oral pleasure but likes to and thats the only reason he calls.

Answer 5

This low life, is leading you around by the nose. He is living his own little fantasy. He's married and has a bed buddy on the side. Anything that come out of his mouth is a lie. And is only said to keep his fling going. The sooner you cut this guy out of your life, the better off you'll be. Unless of course you want to become known as the home wrecker. Because as it stands now , your already the other woman. This guy is making fools of both you and his wife.

Answer 6

Are you the wife?
Alot of men have said that they have loved somebody while cheating around on them. Once i was talking to an old friend about when my fiance cheated on me and he mentioned "i was dating this girl once and i loved her but i still cheated on her" how? explain it to me too...
Anyways,
If this man loves his wife, maybe he doesn't realize seeing this woman is jepordizing his marraige. Maybe he does know and is hoping he can have his cake and eat it too.
The question is not Can "HE" be happily married the question is can you or his "wife" be happily married. If i were the wife i would definitley step between the two or leave him. If he is married than yes he has felt that way and this woman should know that she is crossing major boundry lines. It is possible that he is coming on to her and she is being drawn to him instead of her coming on to him...but regardless he needs to be made aware that his wife is not okay with this. I'm so sorry to hear this story one of my best friends is going through this too. She has 3 kids though and she is to afraid to leave him, one because through all the **** she still loves him, and 2 because he has threatened her. Pretty terrible stuff. I'm very sorry
~amyj

Answer 7

Well... there's that whole thing with Prince Charles keeping Camilla on the side while he was married to Diana.

It is still adultery.

The man is a two-timing creepo playing the field... and those are the typical lines that such guys would use. If it weren't this one, he'd line up another one in short order. They always do.

The other woman is selling herself short and is being used... or she is a home wrecker. If the other woman has any self-esteem, she needs to kick this twerp to the curb and get someone who can/will make a real commitment.

Answer 8

Yes he can be happily married well at least in his eyes his wife wouldn't think so if she knew that. MANY men can carry on two sexual relationships and still care for their wife. ITs very wrong but there are men like that because they are selfish to care about their needs more than caring about what if they hurt their wife. But yes in the man's eyes, he can still think that he loves his wife and do that too. In a woman's eyes she would not understand that. I say "think" because its his perception, in reality love would not be sharing intimacy with another woman.

Answer 9

here is the scoop.. if he was happily married he would not need this other woman for anything more then a friend.... but he could also be happly married but is fulfilling his needs that his wife does not do for him. that is a common way in some relationships but its immoral even though he does not ask for sex from her he is still cheating on his wife for doing oral with her.<<< IT IS NOT RIGHT>>>look at me for instance i have a very high sex drive but my girlfriend does not even tho we don't have sex as much as i would like too i am not going to go out and mess around with my best friend (who is a girl) who i could have sex with anytime i wanted to. i am loyal to my girl. cheating is cheating no matter what you call it. this person needs to know what he is doing is wrong and could hurt someone Else if it hasn't already..

Answer 10

Honestly I don't think that he is happily married if he is seeing another woman on the side and as for the one hes seeing on the side he may really care for her but not enough to be with her and only her.

Answer 11

I think that you might be crossing the line a bit, especially if the wife doesn't know about this arrangement. Also there is the whole adultery thing, but yeah...

Though if you don't really care about those things, then just stay where you are and move on