how come girls will ikely date an unattractive guy...but guys will not likely date an unattractive girl?

Question

i am a male...but i admit fro mmy observation..thsi does seem a bit messed up...

Answer 1

OK, I'm in my 30's, I've been observing this for decades. I have this one nailed down. (you may not like my answer, but I'm telling you, it's true.)
Men are generally more visually motivated.
Example- when men masturbate it usually involves visual stimulation such as porn. When women masturbate it usually involves fantasy situations that involve intense feelings. Our brains are different and this is how- the distance between the hemispheres between the right and left brain are closer in male brains than they are in females. This one simple fact changes the way EVERYTHING is percieved. Synaptic connections differ by, what, a millesecond or something.
This is the crux of the difference of the male mind and the female mind. It makes men strive for the sexy and the women strive for the safe, comfortable, and wealthy. It is by Darwinnian design.
And even though I'm a man, I have to say that part of this is pretty smart of the female of the species. They seek out and are naturally more attracted to any man who can provide for her young. It actually turns them on. (regardless of looks) Hence the birth of the bimbo. That is an entirely different sub-species though. The bimbo has the gene that draws them towards the man with the money regardless of his looks but she doesn't even want kids. (or Darwin would hope.)

Answer 2

Please note that these are generalizations, not to be applied to all people, but just my observations of what seems to be common among both genders:
Men are a lot simpler in nature than women. A lot of men tend to just want an attractive woman, no matter how much of a ***** she is.
Women are very complicated creatures. While physical appearance does factor largely into our consideration of a mate, other factors play a large role as well. A lot of women want someone who will be able to take care of them (whether financially or otherwise). A lot of women also take into consideration personality types and whether or not a man is compatible with her personality/lifestyle. Another way in which women differ from men is that they often consider whether or not a man would make a good father to her children.

Answer 3

I don't think that's true at all.

If anything, a girl has an easier time getting a date, because often guys are just looking to get laid.

It might be true in high school where only the popular kids usually date anyway.

Out here in the adult world, some damn ugly people have loving mates. The average people do very well indeed.

Answer 4

I have seen plenty of guys who date unattractive girls probably because they want to make sure she won't leave them. The same is probably true for women.
I like attractive guys and there's nothing wrong with that. A person has to look good to you in some way so I guess if people are getting together they must seem "attractive" to each other somehow, perhaps not to you and me.

Answer 5

Hmmm .... I know that guys are very visual creatures, whereas girls tend to be more emotional. I know personally that I would rather date a sweet, caring guy that was not necessarily the most attractive guy in the world - as opposed to a hottie who doesn't really know how to care for anyone.

In the end, it doesn't matter how attractive or unattractive either party is.... as long as they're in love, and they take care of each other :-)

Answer 6

Guys let other areas of their body do their preliminary thinking for them. I love men that are underdogs, less than obvious attractive, medium I would say. I like to be the pretty one in the relationship. I also find the smallest imperfections in a guy cute and attractive. It just depends, but it never bothered me because I am attractive. Never really thought about it the way you put it. You do have a point . . .

Answer 7

.Most girls will look at the whole picture ( looks,brain, thought fullness you get the picture. ) boys want a pretty package, they don't care about anything else. There's alot more I've learned from my 55 years but I don't think your old enough to hear it. Childhood and your teen years are brief, have fun but be responsible. I'm sorry once I started I didn't shut up. Have lots and lots of fun

Answer 8

hahahah wow dude ur my idol.
ive been wondering this my entiiiire life.
i think its because girls are more willing to find the skin deep version of beauty in people and good personality while alot of guys just wanna get some and inner beauty is meaningless to some of them.
either way theres good people in both sexes so i cant really categorize people like that ..but yeah thats just my opinion! lol hope that helped xo

Answer 9

i guess it is because womens beauty stereotype is very strict... slim, tall, fmenine..... but there more beauty stereotypes for men, lets say that a guy can be sexy without beeing too atractive because he is strong and masculine, it can also be "interesting" because he has a little bit of whites in the hair, he can also be "a bad guy" with scars and tatoos... and so on... so maybe what you call ugly is one of these weird stereotypes. instead women "must" be slim, tall, curvy etc etc etc and then they can also fit different roles, but fiting firt the beauty patttern.
sad but true!

Answer 10

Girls look for guys who have a good personality - not all based on appearances or looks. Guys are more (no offense) shallow and care more about appearances and looks than personalities.