I really like someone who is married and we both like each other but he is not going to leave his wife and ii dont expect that he leaves her is just that i hate it when he has to leave back home. we both try to be with each other but itz just hard. I cant never introduce him to my parents becuase come on his married and my parents would kill me...HELP.
2007-08-27 19:43:03 · 28 answers · asked by missjennie07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My suggestion as someone who has been in your shoes.. Read this book called "He's just not that into you"! You may like him. and he may make you feel incredible.. he may tell you that he likes you as well.. and for a brief minute you get lost in a fantasy.. But let me be the first to welcome you back to reality.. This man is married.. he obviously isnt leaving his wife.. so he cant like you too much or he would be with YOU.. I know that reality sucks but it is true.. Men who cheat arent getting something at home.. but arent leaving because there is something at home they cant live without.. If this is a primarly sexual relationship I am her to tell you, honey you are a booty call, and if you feel that you have a emotional relationship vested with this man well be his friend.. but dont be responsible for breaking up his home.. ask your self this.. what if that was your husband and some other women was you.. WHAT WOULD YOU DO! I hope you sould search and find someone who can and will give you all of them, I am sure that is what you deserve!!
2007-08-27 19:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Leave the married idiot alone. He wanst to cheat on wife-he may already have done so many times. The thing is once a cheat, always a cheat-he does leave his wife- you could never trust him. Also, how do you feel about being in the middle of a marriage? If they have kids how do you feel about hurting them deeply and changing their lives forever? The biggest mistake you can make is to have any relationship with a married man. Walk away. Stay with the singles. Find your own man and not some one elses. Think of the others involved and do not be selfish.
2007-08-28 02:50:34 · answer #2 · answered by Stefbear 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you maynot like what i say but here it is take it or leave it hun .
being with some one who is married is never a good thing because one day you will want tosettle down and when you do you have to remeber what goes around comes around and there is always that chance that you will pay for what you are doing now . do you really wanna have to share your love with some one els i mean this is the time you could be looking for a nice guy and your taken up time on something thats not going to even go any where i mean really he cant be that great of a guy if he would cheat on his wife it takes a real man to be honest and say he is unhappy in his relation ship it just tells me he dont care about other peoples feelings and i dont wanna see you get hurt or pass up a chance to be in a real relationship with a good guy thats just my though .
2007-08-28 02:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by springj_18 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This guy is USING YOU!!!
You are nothing but a side dish to make his life more exciting.
He will never leave his wife... it never happens.
He may go on about not loving his wife and staying together for the kids... but the truth remains that you are being USED.
What happens if he gets you pregnant? Would he be there for you? He isn't now.
Heck, yeah, your parents would be angry! If you don't believe me, tell them about "a friend of yours who is involved with a married man" and watch them go off! Hoo-boy!
Why sell yourself short? The "other woman" is the bad guy and has no benefits or protections whatsoever. Cut him off and go find yourself someone who is available and can commit to you!
Don't settle for leftovers, don't settle for second best.
Get some standards! Get some self-esteem!
Get a real boyfriend instead of a philandering old goat!
2007-08-28 02:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm a married women don't know if my husband ever cheated on me and if he did he must have done a hell of a good job. You are right a man wont leave his wife no matter what. Especially if there are kids involved don't do this to them or to your' self. I don't need to come down on you you already know that it's wrong all you have to do is work on getting over him that's your best bet. Your coming here for advice because you need it don't let your feeling's get hurt don't fall in deeper the result's can scar you. love yourself enough and don't degrade yourself in that way be more then a women and tough it out now before it gets worst. I know people who gone through this and regret what they ever did you don't ever want to regret love love suppose to be pure, respectful,honesty.faithful,patient, slow to anger. Allow to be respected you deserve better then that don't settle for seconds. No that he can never be trusted you'll never trust him
you will be in a place of wondering ,doubts,curious and insecurity. Love shouldn't be this way find it and share it with some one who is all worth it because he ain't and you know what his wife does not deserve him either. If he can't Handel his marriage you think he's going to handle you? He needs more then one women to satisfy him how sad don't allow to be used. What do you think he does when he GTE's home after being with you? Another thing he is going to tell you some story's and all this sorts of lies to make him self look good and not feel so guilty, excuses just to do it more. Don't fall for it I have many friends big family and I hear many story's like this.
Men laugh at women they are careless they are selfish all after one thing nothing else. You like this man but like your self more let go and if he bugs you let his wife know you'll be doing her a favor wouldn't you like some women to tell you what your husband is doing to you? I know I would. Don't ever let your parent's know because they will never like him and trust him nope not for their daughter.
Good luck and I hope you find true love and happiness.
"Love shouldn't be hidden or secretly hidden".
2007-08-28 03:21:43 · answer #5 · answered by amores 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some day your heart will break at what you are doing now. You will always remember what you did and wonder how in the world you took it so lightly. Thie "in love" thing is a bunch of emotions run wild that will be meaningless before you know it.
Pray to God, repent, (that means turn around) and leave this guy. He will just go to the girl who is next in line.
2007-08-28 02:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by moondrop000 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
so your feeling short changed. he'll never beable to meet your parents and its hard and you hate it when he leaves.
do you really want some one to stay if they dont want to?
if he wanted to stay he probably would!!
why introduce a married man to your family? sounds like you think thats kinda important. like your a real family oriented
women. ..lol he has a family that your distructing, disrupting,
taking away from.
i mean, you c'mon! your acting as if your the poor victim in this deal.
get what ya give.....take what you have coming.
he's your trophy, he's her husband. so you will win just a painfull reminder to hang on your sleeve. balance is a good thing. tell your parents. sounds like they would do the right thing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
help..... your f'n funny.
2007-08-28 03:11:22 · answer #7 · answered by barb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I'm sorry, and I really don't want to sound harsh - but would you appreciate knowing that your husband was seeing someone else?
It is a huge lack of respect to women, to be able to canoodle with another woman's husband. You KNOW he is married, and you're still choosing to continue the relationship.
All I can say is, don't get married. If you have no issues turning someone elses marriage to sh*t, then it's more than likely to happen 10 times worse to you.
2007-08-28 02:52:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It won't work, you just make both of you miserable. If he likes you, rather than his wife but still doesn't want to leave her - how do you call that? He likes the comfort of his house/wife/kids, etc. and still would like to take a step sideways, doesn't look right.
You probably need to make a call and stick to somebody who is, or who could be, completely yours.
2007-08-28 02:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly suggest you end the relationship. Not because I am on some high and mighty kick, but you are interfering with a covenant between he and his wife and if he is not honoring it, that doesn't mean it's right. I don't know your spiritual beliefs but the Bible makes it plain about laying with another man's wife. In your case the opposite applies. Watch out because payback is a mutha!
2007-08-28 03:10:54 · answer #10 · answered by C C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋