Would You Consider This Disrespect?

Question

I have a female friend. She lives 25 miles away from me. Sometimes, she asks me to go to a nightclub and states that we can hang out together at that time. I drive to her home, pick her up,and take her to this place another 25 miles away. I take her back to her home when the night is over. Her friends (all guys) are sometimes down there as well. There have been a couple of times that when the place closes, she will go off with another one of her guy friends to their place.(She has been in a sexual relationship with them at one time or another). She states that she isn't going with them to do anything sexual, its just friends stuff. She acts surprised when I am put off by her behavior. She says that I shouldn't have a problem with it since her and I are "just friends". I am asking you, if you were in that situation, would you consider it disrespectful behavior?

Answer 1

If you are just friends, that should not be a problem. It sounds like you really have feelings for her, however. You need to either decide that you are going to be just friends, or talk to her about how you feel. It should not matter whether she is having sex with someone else, if you are only friends. You made a point of mentioning that. It seems to be you care more than she does. Better work those feelings out, or that friendship is about to explode.

Answer 2

At least disrespectful, and more common among the player variety. More often when a woman behaves in such fashion, one of two distinct possibilities exist highly probable. First she have been deceived by someone, else motivated by someone to be less than honorable in her dealings with you, i.e. deliberate discrimination-like behavior. Or, she perceives that someone else have treated you unfairly and feels compelled to promote like behavior. I'm certainly not attempting to insult you, but you ask your question with a sense of sincerity so I believe you deserve an honest answer.

I were once acquainted with some truly beautiful women, not merely physically but also at that time presumably emotionally and otherwise. One thing about women, if she desired you and you told her you were just friends that it might be uncomfortable, either to your face or behind your back she most likely label you as gay or odd. When a woman claims to be a genuine friend to a male, yet exhibits such disrespectful behavior, more often than not her motivation will either be of some distorted group-mentality (as mentioned above) or some clandestine intent.

As you likely know, prowess of a woman are intrinsic of their character. Women evolve in different ways sometimes. Some become more attune to their hearts and others become more heartless. Their tides may turn at any time just like anyone else. But women are predominantly creatures of habit. And the old saying, even subsequent lyrics of songs, that friends make good lovers derives of female mentality. Whereas she doesn't extend that affection to a friend, unless some extenuating circumstance or in fact truly devoted to a more permanent relationship, she more often reveals but either arrogance or mentioned hidden cause. This does not mean they lay down with every friend they make. But when a woman pretends such regard akin to love, even when mere friend, and then presents such illmannered behavior, you must acknowledge, regardless how uncomfortable to admit, her heart and aspiration remain elsewhere or she have in fact attempted to induce notion that you are as unworthy to her.

Otherwise, even if you possess no explicit desire towards some intimacy or like affection with her, even friendship when it's real suggests some greater regard. According to your statements, the guys she runs off with she also claims mere friends, only odd that they receive greater importance to her. So, she clearly likely not being completely honest about whatever she might be up to. Maybe she enjoys you buying her drinks, taking her to dinner, putting gasoline in her vehicle. We both know there exist more than enough of those types. What endures truly sad and pathetic, sometimes when a woman treats somebody that way, it may well be someone held of much greater esteem among others. When I came to the illmannered city where I have since been stuck, more or less, I had formerly possessed a profession to some extent, had known and enjoyed adorable women, even some regarded as of greater stature in terms of accomplishment, wealth and more. Yet, sometimes, some less than courteous kind determine some peculiar thrill or other from being less than decent in their dealings with another, even sometimes as if intent to deliberately seek to humble another.

Perhaps one day soon women shall find themselves in a position to feel compelled to evidence the sweetness they oft demand or infer. At least they could be more honest with those they claim true regard towards. Personally, I would regard such a woman as an arrogant type, and similarly dump her, but I wouldn't return for her to gloat or have other cause to presume she have some mysterious hold on me.

Answer 3

Well, shes def utilizing you. Sounds like you like her a lot. I would tell her how you feel and that based on your feelings your best you guys dont hang out. Tell her you think shes taking advantage of you a bit. But at the end of the day your allowing her to. OF course because you like her, but you need to just tell her. Plus who really wants a chic whos sleeping with everyone. But shes young and everyone makes mistakes. But best to nip it in the bud now while its fresh on your mind. If you dont confront her or stop your just going to waste more time with her and shes not going to stop.!!!

Answer 4

She is using you, plain and simple.

If I were you, I would stop hanging out with her and find some friends who would treat me better.

Also remember that you teach people how to treat you, meaning, if you act like a pushover, people are just going to use that to walk all over you.

I'm not saying to be an assh***. Just dont be a pushover.

Answer 5

I would. True, what shes doing is rather low and stuff, but outrightly giving this reaction is a bit hurtful and rude. Everyone still has feelings ya know..

Answer 6

I wouldn't pick her up again. She is using you for a taxi. And she is being quite disrespectful ...

Answer 7

i wud rather have not been in any kinda relationship with such a person,she wud never deserve my care and warmth.

Answer 8

Dude! She's using you. Get over it and move on.