Well this guy that I really love tell me that he loves me everyday.Ican feel that he really does we have known eachother for one year now ,but when we started getting serious about six months ago we would talk on the phone for hours never get sick of eachother and never bored,he would tell me that i am his everything,and that he wants to live the rest of his life with me ,he is the man I always wanted he is the man I always dreamed of ,I hate the fact that he is still married , I have told him if you really do love me and you really do want me why are you still married? I cry myself to sleep somtimes wishing he was mine wishing he was next to me I tell him your my life your my everything but your still married, you cant do this to your wife to me to yourself its not right . all this is confusing me so much but what kills me the most is when i finish talking to the love of my life about what i feel his response to me is ,''baby i love you so much but you are still married!!! HELP!!!!
2007-08-27 18:26:54 · 29 answers · asked by tammy c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it is going to hurt like heck, but please take this to heart...
get out of this relationship!!! He is married. he needs to either work things out with his wife (i'm a wife, so i know how it would feel to be betrayed, please don't let yourself be "the other woman", it is so degrading). If he really loves you, he'll see that this is not fair at all. If he is unhappy, he needs to get a divorce, but you need to end the romantic part now because why should he divorce her? think about it. he has a wife to come home to and you to go to when he's bored/unhappy/ lonely, etc.
now if he decides to divorce her and then rekindle what you had, that is great. He really loves you. BUt know that if you were the other woman to his wife... he could do it again to you (have another woman on the side). I don't want to sound mean, i've been the girl in love with the guy who is taken! please trust me, get out of it now. it will end eventually, no doubt with you having a broken heart. you shouldn't enable him to have 2 women, it's not fair to either of you.
its going to hurt, i know, and it'll be the hardest thing ever.. but wouldn't you rather have all the love of one man than half the love of a married one? I know i would.
2007-08-27 18:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anna S 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hi. Well here is a time for a reality check. You say you love him, He says he loves you thats all fine and dandy. Here is the problem you need to ask yourself and really think long and hard about it. "If he is cheating on his wife with me what makes me think he won't do it to me?" Even talking on the phone behind his wife's back that is still a form of adultry. As hard as it is you know deep down you can not be with this man. Maybe he is tired of his wife maybe he is to weak of a person to deal with his marital problems. So he is looking for a way out but to scared to leave his current wife. They fell in love got married then something happend. Do you really believe he will never do that to you? Or better yet how many other's before his wife has he done this to? How many times has he been married before? See are questions that you need to ask yourself. Think very long and hard about this. Before you do something you may regret if you haven't already. But to me he sounds like someone you met from a chat line or off the internet. Which should raise another question to you. Are there other's that he says I love you to? Well take care of yourself. I wish you the best. Please do yourself a favor and really think about this. It just may save your life and mostly your heart.
2007-08-27 18:39:35 · answer #2 · answered by deanlarouche 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im hearing alot of negativity on here.First of all, honestly speaking ,If a man is married, hes talking to you for hours,tellin you all these things, My next question. What Love Do this Man Have For his Wifey!!! He must found some kind of interest in you,because first of all hes takeing a chance on his marriage messing up by haveing a relationship from the beginning.he could be bored, but real love in a marriage,never gets bored,if he had any respect for his wife.I have seen it happen, Its possible you can be married for over 10years, and fall for someone else.He probaly really found something in you he likes,and waiting for the right time to let her know. Its Wrong,but its true.It can happen.especially if you all been kickin for a while.Its not right to keep dateing him because he is still married. I will tell you this, have a talk with him and ask him to be honest ,and do he still want to stay with his wife,and do he love her,If he say yes,,, Its possible, hes staying home, dont keep getting your feelings involve and you end up hurt at the end.So really pray and ask God to help you to ask the right questions..... Good Luck
2007-08-27 19:02:18 · answer #3 · answered by caramel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up honey. He's a liar. He doesn't love you or her. He loves only himself. If he wanted to leave, he would have left. The way I am reading this, you slept with him and fell in love after 3 days? Are you kidding me? Anyways, he chose her because you didn't mean anything to him. He told you what you wanted to hear. Of course you can't turn off your feelings for him, but you have to move on. Don't sit around and wait for him cuz he's not leaving her and if you wait, you'll be waiting a really long time...and then he'll do the same thing to you. Notice how he painted the picture of choosing his "marriage." No, he chose her.
2016-05-19 22:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by courtney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a cheater. liar, to both you and his wife.
He wants his cake and eat it too.
You are no better than he is. Maybe worse. He is a married man and ask his in-laws for her hand in marriage.
You are going to tick a lot of people off when they find out. And I promise one day they will find out.
These days Private Detectives are a dime a dozen.
Break it off before you get caught.
Give him an ultimatum.
Tell him he either tells his wife or you will tell her.
He will be long gone after you tell him that.
Don't give a man like that the good years of you life.
He is nothing.
He will always live his life with someone on the side.
He is just a bad habit you have to break.
Those words of love are nothing but lies.
You have got to face reality.
2007-08-27 18:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by DeeJay 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear your problem. He may say that he loves you but he probably is "in love" with his wife. Being in love with someone is for the long haul. You are a temporary love of his life right now. Your relationship is fresh and exciting to him. That is it. You are his escape of the pressures of everyday life. You are his mistress, period. If you were anything more than that he would be with you right now. If you stay in this affair type relationship you will always be the exciting one he can hardly wait to see and talk to. Whether or not if he even realizes it...you are his escape from reality. He will not end this relationship because there is no reason for him to. He has it made. You are there for him when he wants you and when he wants his wife she will always be there for him. With women like you prostitutes are going out of business. Sorry for being so straight forward but I feel you need it. You are probably a beautiful person who has the right guy for you out there so get rid of this "Waste of you time guy" and find the right one! Best wishes!
2007-08-27 18:41:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can tell you why he is still married, because he's NOT PLANNING ON LEAVING HIS WIFE. My husband cheated on me, and all the while told his girlfriend he was getting a divorce... well he is getting one now but not because he's filing, I AM!!
And he no longer has his girlfriend either. Cheaters are manipulative people. If he thought you were truly special, he wouldn't have put you in this role of his mistress. What they do with you , they will do to you.. drop kick his A** to the curb, you deserve so much better, get a REAL MAN!!
2007-08-27 19:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by *blah blah* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either he leaves his wife and marries you, or he leaves you and goes back to her. This is not good for you or him or her.
The decision will have to be made by him. In the meanwhile, you cannot park your life waiting. Also think of the woman he's married to, she has a right to move on with her life as well. Set a deadline for this to get sorted out, it cannot be left open like this!
2007-08-27 18:49:52 · answer #8 · answered by whuz007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So basically the man of your dreams is dishonest, not loyal, cheats and sneaks around behind his wife's back....
Wow great choice in men. The only consolation is that if you do get him he will cheat on you just as he is on his wife and you will know the pain you are bringing into someone Else's life. What happened in your life that your self esteem is so low. No matter what the ladies on this site say about this loser, the shattered life you are about to create is as much your fault as his.
2007-08-27 18:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by Average Joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want you to move on with your life.
He keeps reminding you how much he loves you daily so you will feel guilty about leaving him.
No he doesn't love you, he just wants you to be there for him when he is sick and tired of his wife.
You don't owe him anything, you need to drop him like a hot potato and find yourself an unattached man. Don't ever get involved with a married man, He won't leave his wife, he married her.
2007-08-27 18:35:59 · answer #10 · answered by Nora C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋