Up front I am RESPONSIBLE, LEGAL question: Would you give sex up if?

Question

In order to get visitation rights to see your son?

The Judge ( a woman ) informed me if I even wanted to try and have visitation rights with my son I had to abstain from sex for a period of at least 18 months!

She said ( judge) my behavior ( MY AFFAIR) was directly attributed to my sons POST TRUMANTIC STRESS, in him witch because of his age (13, going to be 14, in NOVEMBER) he get violent witch is common among males all ages.

She said she could not order me to comply but could have me served with an ORDER OF RESTRAINT to protect my son from my robust sexuality.

I know I'm responsible for the problems in his life at this time but, to lose your son because you enjoy sex, unbelievable.
The Judge pointed out 8 cases supported by the Supreme Court so I have no appeals cause if action!
So once again would you give sex up for your CHILD?

What would your response be, my LAWYER says the ACLU wont touch this verdict.

I want my son in my life so celibacy it is for 18 months.

I'M THE MOTHER!

Why is it we women can't have affairs but me do without compermise?

Answer 1

Wow.

In what state do you live and what did you do, have sex in front of him?

Anyway, in answer to your question, yes. Yes, I would give up anything except eating & breathing in order to spend time with one of my children.

I brought them into this world and it is my moral, ethical and human obligation to try and be the best parent I can be to them. And being a good parent means spending time with them and not badmouthing the judge, divorce or the ex. No matter how badly they deserve it.

Answer 2

There has to be much more to the story that what you are relating here for a Judge to request a such an extreme measure (such as wantonly having sex or engaging in sexual activity in front of your son) after the viewing of such activity, he has become violent against himself, other or animals.

Such an extreme request is from a Judge is not common, but it is not unheard of either, nor limited to just women; the Court will always decide what is in the best interest of the Child.

Have you and your lawyer discussed the possibility of supervised visits only for a short period of time, pehaps 6 months, while you get psychological counseling for yourself?

While your indicate several time that you are responsible, pretty much everything else here is trying to complain about how unfair the request is and try to get others to side with you in the post and even blame your son by saying it is just common for 13-14 year olds to become violent when it is NOT part of a normal boy's development.

Honestly, before you make any decision with regards to visitation, it sounds like you need some psychological counseling for yourself because the anger and bitterness that are relayed above are likely to come through when you do visit your son and it will only make the matters worse for both of you and your son. If you have an emotionally troubled, sometimes violent son, the last thing he needs to feel like you are blaming him because for the troubles in your life.

Keep in mind that if your behavior on visits with your son are found to be damaging him emotionally and psychologically to the point where he continues to be violent, the Courts can and will take away your rights to see him, but you could still be required to pay child support.

Answer 3

This is simple, really. The judge is a clown, first off. Secondly, go sign yourself into some voluntary therapy to work on your "sex issues." If/when the therapist clears you, go back to the judge and let her know that you are NOT endangering your son in any way.

I also recommend you get your son some much-needed therapy and anger management classes, maybe some family therapy, too.

Church might be a good thing for all of you.

PS The ACLU hates Americans, so don't even bother with them.

EDIT: Buy yourself a nice battery-operated toy, keep it well-hidden, use as necessary, and make sure you don't violate the court order, appeal or not.

Answer 4

I would not give up my children for sex and I really enjoy sex! It sounds like the judge is doing you and your son a favor.

It would not kill you to stop acting so selfishly. You have caused your son considerable damage yet you still seem anxious to make the cure.

If I were the judge I would make sure that your visitations were supervised. If you were A man you would probably be considered a sex offender.

Answer 5

I don't get this... your CHILD is suffering because of YOUR actions... and you're ticked off because you can't have sex for 18 months? Has it occurred to you that you COULD choose, for HIS benefit, to rethink your own behavior and make PERMANENT changes so it won't further damage him? That is, after all, what PARENTING is all about!

The Courts have leeway to do whatever they need to do to protect children from criminally selfish and irresponsible parents. The point at which YOUR behavior affected HIS wellbeing made your behavior criminal.

Time to grow up and be a decent parent! Quit trying to make your own behavior okay somehow... either through the court system or the ACLU... Just own it and make the changes you need to make, permanently, to help your son.

*selfish *******

Answer 6

I have no idea how the judge would enforce that, but it seems like there was obviously some serious problems with your child for the judge to even consider a punishment like that. Maybe you should give your libido a rest and worry about your son.

Answer 7

I would absolutely give up sex (temporarily) for my child. I would also maybe look up cases to see if the judge really does have basis for thinking my behavior did my child harm. If not, sucks that she is your judge. But if so maybe it gives you something to consider for your future behavior. But either way your child needs you and you should be willing to do what ever is in your power to make that happen. Good Luck!

Answer 8

Please grow up. Here's a question that happens to married men all the time. They are in a marriage where the woman decides not to have sex with him any more. He makes the mistake of choosing (extramarital) sex over the marriage and his life, his wife's life, and their children's lives come crashing down, because he felt compelled to exercise his "robust sexuality". Communication within a marriage can fix problems and can even lead to a healthy, satisfying sex life, having extramarital sex does not fix anything.

Answer 9

Now how is that judge going to know if you are having sex? This is pretty ridiculous and what is even more ridiculous is that the ACLU isn't going to touch the case. That is remarkable. I thought it had ACLU written all over it.

Answer 10

I don't think a judge can do that legally, I think she can only recommend that you should.

Also how the hell would they enforce that, if you don't put it out there nobody will know.

Now that being said you do need to get your head out of your @SS and be a parent!! Help your kid through all this.