like to forgive, as a man i want to kill the guy who did this to me, as a human i want justice, as a man who has health problems because of the broken bones , i want healing. the guy who did this to me is my moms long time boyfriend. so i have a hard time forgiving her. she is still with the man his name is robert champion keeney III .i will probably never see him again. so , im asking for justice for him, and healing for me,, any suggestions? thanks !
2007-08-27 18:20:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes i have talked to the police and an attorney. yes i have gone to counseling. the statute of limitations is up. to jadore, this is all true, things were different when i was a kid, cops didnt protect kids then
2007-08-27 19:58:25 · update #1
a more believable story would be nice. I have a hard time believing you, as going to the hospital for broken bones would have revealed abuse if it's as bad as you said.
2007-08-27 18:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if statute of limitations has passed on a criminal act, I'm pretty sure there is no statute of limitations when it comes to civil prosecutions. You can still sue him in the civil courts for psychological harm. Of course you need to be able to prove your claims, if you can prove them, prosecute him, if you can't prove it don't slander him otherwise he could prove that you slandered him and if you can't back up your claims with legally acceptable proof, he could prosecute you. As a christian, you must understand forgiveness doesn't mean let a bad person get away with bad things, forgiveness is for the repentant. If he is not penatant he will go on to abuse someone else. Once he has seen the error of his ways and truly apologised then he can be forgiven. I'm not sure where the myth that Christians are door mats came from but it certainly didn't come from the bible.
2016-05-19 22:46:06 · answer #2 · answered by courtney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup... absolutely. There was just a show like this on Montel Williams. Do you have any proof of what happened.? And why is it that you would even talk to your mother or him? You should DO EVERYTHING YOU CAN to get matters to come to rest. You need restitution even if it means acknowledgement. Contact a talk show.. but beyond that.. you want justice? Volunteer with a task force or a local shelter to make sure that nothing happens to kids like you experienced.
I would be furious. I would stop at nothing to bring things out in the open.
My thoughts are with you. Your biggest problem should be with your mother. Apparently she has issues and didn't deserve you as a son.
2007-08-27 18:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see any reason why you wouldn't be able to press charges now. Do you have any of your medical records to prove it was abuse? How long has it been since he abused you? I would press charges and then, sue him for everything he has. If you cannot press charges, then you need to get to a counselor. I understand that you probably want revenge but, you would end up killing the guy and live in jail for the rest of your life. He is not worth that, even if he is dead. You should call him and ask him why he did these things to you. I think it is worse that your mother allowed this. Maybe you should call her and ask her how she would let some man put his hands on her child!
2007-08-27 18:27:39 · answer #4 · answered by mandyrose143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion would be to try and find a way to move on from all your anger.
When I was 16 I injured my hip playing rugby, sense then I've had constant problems, that have moved on to my lower back and I'm slowly loosing the mobility in my legs. I don't hate the person who did it to me, I don't regret playing rugby. I'm trying to take the blessings I do have and to live a positive life.
As a christian you should be greatful for the positives that are in your life. Maybe you were meant to help others in your situation. Become a big brother, or help out at a youth group at your church. Take the negative and find the silver lining.
I really hope you find peace in your life.
2007-08-27 18:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by Rhuby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi im really sorry to hear that but I will make my super best effort to help ya i hope its enough.
Bro you can report this guy for doing that on police authorites or try to to call to a special phone for that (I puted the link on the source section) then you need to go to a pshychologist to help you out thats indispensable.
I honestly dont support killin other people for any case cause thats a nazi practice and that should not be done bro but I would love to see the guy **** his pants in jail for all his life and with your mom you should try to get her to a pshycologist and be in the sessions with you I moved on with the problems with my mom that way it works and the pshycologist will let your mom see that she has done bad in statin with that man and probably get with somethin very good.
So dont take revenge by your methods cause it will end very bad and if by any reason the link wont work please contact the local authorities make a big deal about it cause its a big deal i hope with all my soul i helped ya out bro peace
2007-08-27 18:38:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man had no right to beat you and your anger is justified. The only way to forgive him is to ask God to help you in that field. Other than that maybe talk to your pastor and a church councellor who can help you deal with your anger and resentment and just be a support system to you. I belong to a christian fellowship church and have seen many people healed physically and spiritually by its members. My heart really goes out to you and i will pray that the Lord provides you with healing both inside and out.
2007-08-27 18:35:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need counseling to heal from within. The pysical pain will be something that you will have to deal with, however the emotional pain and baggae you carry from that situtaion can be resolved, and you can live normally if you get help. Every dog has his day, and he will have his one day too!!!
2007-08-27 18:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Christian the best answer I can give you is to pray and give your pain to God. Through that, you will learn to forgive him and your mother not for them but for yourself. Because the longer you allow your past to effect your present and future the more power you give to them. Take the power back but do not forget but forgive for yourself.
God Bless
2007-08-27 18:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm... tough one.
The only suggestion I would give is to take all the negative things that have happened to you and turn it into something positive.
Living well is the best revenge.
2007-08-27 18:25:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋