I was never a jerk to her. I did what ever she wanted and I always showed her how much I cared about her. She did whatever she wanted, when she wanted and I never complained.....I'm a wuss and I need to grow a pair I think......
Hope everyone had a nice night!
2007-08-27 17:56:25 · 78 answers · asked by . 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Tinkerbell I not once stated I was perfect and neither did I say she was a b*tch......In my statement. She's not a b*tch. How does anything I said make me self-centered? I was just saying I supported her and what ever she wanted...I resent those comments......I didn't ask to be attacked, I only asked for a little support......Have A Nice Night.....
2007-08-27 18:14:49 · update #1
First, I'd like to say I'm sorry that she dumped you. Not sure if it was for the better, or the worst, or the reasons, nor am I asking you to tell me. All you wanted were words of support, and so I will do my best to give them to you.
You mentioned that she did whatever she wanted, and you feel you need to grow a pair of...you know what you meant...and I'm here to tell you that maybe she just wasn't the one. I know that sounds so cliche, but sometimes, cliche's hold more truths than you'd ever realize. If she did whatever she wanted, I can only assume that she really didn't care about you. Please, don't take it as an attack or an insult, but maybe she just wasn't ready for a serious relationship and for that reason didn't know how to treat or keep her man happy.
As far as you needing to grow, I think that you are one of the soft and sensitive guys that all women are searching for. Some girls out there want the bad boy. Don't try and be the bad boy if sweet and sensitive is what you are. Be who you are and a woman who can truly appreciate you will come by and snap you up before you know it.
Getting over being dumped isn't very easy. I can almost garuantee you that you'll be feeling the pain for a while now. Don't beat yourself up for being in the dumps, or even thinking about her on occasion. But remember this: if it doesn't kill you, it will make you stronger. (I'm just hooked on cliche's tonight, huh? lol) There is something to be learned from every experience in life. Learn whatever it was that you needed to learn from this relationship. Help yourself grow in another way.
Remember that you are a wonderful person no matter why this girl chose to let you go. Don't allow what she did to change your whole outlook on women in general. We're not all bad. :-D (Not that I'm saying she's bad, but from what you've said, I really don't think she was the right one for you.) Take this one day at a time. Keep yourself busy. Being single has it's perks: you can take the time to learn more about you and what makes you happy. You can grow in ways you never thought possible and be an even better man for the next lady in your life. Take it as a blessing! And I hope that you do get over this one day. It won't happen overnight, but it will happen. Believe that.
2007-08-27 20:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by Honesty 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
first of all, Tinkerbell, you were a bit harsh. Especially, since jack is not some random guy asking the question. We know he is a good guy.
even her edit was not very nice. OFF THE CONTACT LIST? whatever.
OK, now back to your question. As in our emails, I said that you should get drunk! grieve some. Just let your emotions go through the course. that is a significant amount of time to be with your EX-girlfriend and it will take time to recover.
you may have let her walk over you a little bit but look at it like this, you will have learned from this and the next time it won't be so easy for someone to do that to you.
now, i have much more to say about this but will stop here and am gonna leave my bottle of PATRON for you! cause you know us Texans like our tequila lol
wish i was there to share it with you!
2007-08-28 00:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you lay down they will walk all over you and if she left it can only mean you didn't have a something real so don't keep thinking about it. What you want to do now is keep busy all the time and you will fill your life with better things. It may hurt now because you are still so close to it but in a few months you will be able to look back at this day from a better place. Make sure your next relationship is not with someone so dominant.
2007-08-27 18:09:29 · answer #3 · answered by dfalllenangel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just want to say, You will be OK. If she took advantage of you, let it go... Give her all the space she needs... And when she comes back, be strong... You were only acting the way a man should... She will see that.
But when a man has done all you have, clearly it is time to think about you now...
Best wishes to you. Your special someone will come... No need to resort to acting like some men do... It is not really about what you refer to as, "a pair". Being a man is just the way you have been. Don't change for the worse, rise above it and be even better...
2007-08-27 18:04:20 · answer #4 · answered by Mine♥ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude my girlfriend just broke up with me like 3 days ago so i know how you feel. Words of support: Look at it from another view, is she worth it? Does she deserve you? If you were so nice to her and she gave nothing back, why give anymore?
Look for people around you that are supportive and trustworthy, and talk to them as they are the ones that will help the most.
Im sorry to hear about your loss, My night was alright thanks
ill tell you what, lets go hunting together, bring your guns as you will be attracting most of the bait :P
2007-08-27 18:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by Infuego 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First time? You'll get over it. I don't give women emotional power over me any more, I do not believe in marriage or ownership. If a girl wants to it the road, then I'll open the door for her and pinch her a s s as she walks away. Everyone wants love, but when it is right then it is real, maybe it ain't your time yet and she knew it. Better you end it so you can move on.
2007-08-28 18:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you went through that. I have had some similar experiences.
And don't think you are a wuss. You aren't. You are just a kind person who is hurting. Don't let mean people on here get to you.
Here is a hug. You have a good night too, dear.
2007-08-28 15:34:59 · answer #7 · answered by Alexandriagal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!!! I know you feel bad like you did something wrong but think about it this way you are free! Whatever bothered her about you to cause her to leave or tempted her in another direction wont be there to torment you later. She could have stayed and nagged you to death later or worse cheated on you. So again congratulations you are free to find someone who really wants you. And if/when you see her again tell her thank you for setting you free. Enjoy your life. Go have a night out with the guys, I'm sure they will be glad to have you back.
2007-08-27 18:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by Aphrodite 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've had an OK day - it finally cooled off a bit.
Yeah dude, that sucks.
Next time - do what ever you want rather than letting it be the other way around. Remember - everything happens for a good reason - even if we never figure out what that reason is, or was.
2007-08-27 18:03:28 · answer #9 · answered by Trapped 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn from this lesson and move on, (with a pair)
Lol !! :~)
When doors close, better doors open.
One day you'll look back at this, and it will seem like a looooong time ago, and you'll be glad that it ended.
You deserve someone who will appreciate you, not take you for granted. You seem like a good guy, and you're handsome. It's time for you to have the same good given back to you.
Happy future days to you! xoxo
♥♥
2007-08-27 18:17:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋