hi. i'm a senior in highschool right now in California.
the thing is that last year(11th grade)i went abroad to Chile during my first semester of school. i made some good friends & decided to major in international studies in college & go back for two years. this is where the problem is:
i met this guy on the internet & we really connected!
neither of us were looking for love, but we somehow decided to date until we could meet in person. he lives in spain.
i stopped communication with him after he said some things that annoyed me(ex. you don't pay enough attention to me)
& because my mom disapproved of him.
he's 6 years older than me.
i loved him...
he sent me aprox.3 emails asking me to respond but i didn't because i was scared.after not speaking with him for aprox.3 months, he sent me an email TODAY asking me why i asked questions about US on my OTHER Y!A account & didn't speak to him anymore
i don't know what to reply or do
does he still love me or is this just a game?
2007-08-27 16:40:37 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we were together for 4 months and he gave me his telephone number if that counts for anything><
2007-08-27 16:46:45 · update #1
You have better things to do than waste your time with a man 6 years older than you who lives in another country. it is hard enough being a HS senior dating a boy in the same school... Concentrate on yourself. Concentrate on graduation and prom and saturday nights with your friends. good luck.
2007-08-27 16:48:31 · answer #1 · answered by who are you anyway?? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear, I have been overseas on numerous occasions and here is the real scoop. While the two of you may have connected emotionally online, the fact is that many men from other countries are looking for American women for reasons other than sex (if you can believe that) and love. They are looking for green cards/citizenship and the fact that you are only 18 is another inticement. You are young, impressionable, and eager to grow up in more ways than one. There is no reason to respond to him in any fashion. It doesn't matter if he "still" loves you, you will probably never get anything accomplished relationship wise as long as you are worried about him. He probably has a GF in Spain and maybe several other countries. Such is the internet. By the time you get out of college, he will be nothing more than a blip on the radar screen of fantasy love. Good Luck in college!
2007-08-27 17:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater. You know this guy better than anyone here offering advice so I guess you would know better than me if he's being genuine. From what it sounds like, though, this guy is totally taking advantage of how much you like him and what you're willing to do for him. If he truely felt that way about you, he would be with you not telling you stories about "one day soon." He can't have his cake and eat it, too. I would suggest you let him go, start meeting other people cause if he honestly respected you, he would've proved it by now.
2016-05-19 22:26:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's time to move on. You have your entire life in front of you and there are probably a number of guys in the world who you would consider the one or at least fall in love with. If this guy is 6 years older than you I would never have spoken to him in the first place. Sorry to rain on your parade, but let me tell you from experience your not missing out on anything. Years later you will telll this story to someone you really care about and laugh whole heartedly. Everyone has asked themselves the questions like, what if he is the one and Im letting him go? Later in life everyone realizes that is not a valid question. Look at it in a logical way, this guy is a creeper who is over attached and way too old for you.
2007-08-27 17:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by anna ramos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you love someone you never met? Love is building a relationship with all included seeing each other way and communicating observing and holding hands and reading one anothers body language. You are in a fantasy the web can do that to you when you are lonely and have not that many friends you hang out with don't turn into a robot get in the real world and live your life to the fullest life is to short to stress over things you have no control over mostly everyone on the web is pretending to be someone that are not and can never be be blessed
2007-08-27 16:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by tellthetruth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you say that you were with each other for 4 months when you actually haven't even met one another face to face? How do you date someone just over the internet? You are still very young and what you think is love is not really love. I would suggest that you forget this guy and meet someone that is far more available.
2007-08-27 16:50:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First and for most.. he is too old for you. There are many man men in this world, you do not have to settle for him. Listen to your mom, she is looking for your best interest.
Second...Internet relationships rarely work out, especially with people of such a young age.
Third... Being needy in such a situation is just weird and be an indication of deeper psychological problems
Fourth.. Never read his emails, block his phone number from your phone. He will get the message and go away. Do not waste your time explaining things to him. This is best for him and best for you.
2007-08-27 16:57:47 · answer #7 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the guy still cares about you since he keeps writing to you and trying to figure out why you stopped contacting him. I think you should be honest with him and tell him that you just want to be friends, if that's what you want. Being in a relationship via email at such a young age could be confusing. You should probably cut him loose and concentrate on boys that are more local.
2007-08-27 16:52:20 · answer #8 · answered by zeelovesinterpol 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Beware of the written word. It will get you in trouble. Been their done that all most got my self in relay big trouble. Found out she she was a drunk and a druggie You know nothing of this guy other that what he tells you. Being six years old is not to good ether. Older men know how to play the game and can ruined you in more ways then you can imagine. He is playing games. Becareful there may be even more that you think could happen. Please be careful.
2007-08-27 16:56:44 · answer #9 · answered by tadm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've never met this fellow in person, I would agree with your parents and tell you to stop emailing this person. My oldest daughter met a friend on-line. He said he was a teenager from a H.S. in Las Vegas. I happened to be there working and asked which school? He refused to tell her. I can't say for sure he was a fake but why wouldn't he say if he was truly legit. I would be very careful meeting someone from the internet that my parents couldn't meet in person.
2007-08-27 16:54:10 · answer #10 · answered by M M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋