I took my cousin on this weeklong cruise as a college graduation gift. She did not verbally thank me before, during or after the cruise. I thought that was strange but assumed she would thank me afterwards. I have been waiting but have recieved no call, email or thank you card.
I am considering bringing it up to her because I am so upset by this. I feel like I should say something or I will get progressively angrier and it may cause strain on the relationship. I am thinking of saying something like "I just want to make sure you had fun on the cruise because I wasn't sure if you appreciated it". I can't think of a way to say it any better. How can I bring this up tactfully? Or should I just keep my mouth shut? Thanks in advance for your input.
2007-08-27 16:40:30 · 5 answers · asked by wannaknow 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Say, I just want to make sure you had fun on the cruise.
Thank you for going with me. I had a nice time, I hope you enjoyed it too (or) your college grad gift from me....
And see what she says. You Opened the door wide open for a Thank You. If she Doesn't say Thank you.
Then Say, "your Welcome"..
Sounds to me she wasn't taught proper etiquette. Or was taught and isn't very thoughtful
Good Luck, faith
2007-08-27 17:32:03 · answer #1 · answered by faith♥missouri 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That was quite a lot of money to spend on her and she should acknowledge you for being so generous and gracious. For a college grad she seems to be lacking in the most fundamental form of manners and etiquette; sort of like dressing a monkey in Prada. If a thank you isn't soon forthcoming then by all means bring it up to her as it's already causing a strain and making you angry, which is quite understandable. The way you worded it is fine and to the point. Or you could put it as,"oh by the way...you were just wondering if you offended her in some way because she never mentioned if she appreciated the gift you gave her and you were concerned if it may not have been to her liking". You're more than justified to elaborate with some other jabs to show your displeasure with her negligence and for snubbing and treating you with disrespect.
At any rate, maybe you should know better to assume anything from people unless it actually materializes right in front of you, especially in regards to this lame brained cousin of yours. Bet you'll think twice about doing something for her ever again.
2007-08-28 01:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why do you want to be thanked in the first place?
she has to learn some manners, yes, but that it upsets you that she hasn't thanked you, and that you have actually been waiting for her thank you bothers me.
give without asking anything in return.
just be happy you were the one giving than receiving.
2007-08-28 00:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by jam 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No..Don't keep your mouth shut! You gave her a present and she didn't even appreciate it..I do like your suggestion of the "I just want to make sure.....wasnt sure you appreciated it"
2007-08-27 23:56:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah say something. You spent $1000 for them to have fun and they didn't even say thanks. I'd be beating their *** if they didn't say anything.
2007-08-27 23:52:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋