I broke up with my x about a month ago, and after a year and half of dating I found out that he cheated on his ex wife with his daughter's mother who is now married and have two more kids with her husband. He left his wife so he can be with her, but she never left her husband. Somehow I always had the God feeling that there was something missing in our relationshio, and as hard as I tried to work on it, sometimes he seemed to not be into me, but other times he seemed to be deeply in love with me.
After I broke up with him, I found myself empty and I tried to have a closure with him, but he said that he did not what his feelings were for her, but he did love me and he also knew that he could not give me what I wanted (Sexually speaking)?
How can anybody love you and not be willing to please you and work hard in your relatioship, what do you guys think about all this mess. I wish I knew what he is thinking, but I guess I'd never know
2007-08-27 16:20:44 · 2 answers · asked by Worried 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey, this could be one of the stories on television. He is doing this or that but still loves you. Believe me it is a heartache waiting to happen. With men who knows what they are thinking. But as a woman find someone who can love you and don't get so messed up with a guy like this. Love or not you still have to be happy.
2007-08-28 14:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It comes down to a persons sense of loyalty, and maybe he just wasn't raised to try for what he wants. This is a common problem it seems now, couples don't try to work on problems in the relationship anymore. A few bumps in the road and they are breaking up, running to divorce court etc.
Even if he does have "feelings" (I can't quite agree that its love) for you he most likely will not make you happy. Think of it this way, If he never changed would you still want to be with him? Because thats the hard cold truth, you can't change people.
Another thing, once a cheater, pretty much always a cheater. He has no sense of commitment. I understand you want closure but your best bet is to cut off contact, and find something to distract you while you get over this break up. Find a hobby, join a club, start getting together w/ friends family more....etc etc.
Good luck, hope you get everything figured out.
2007-08-30 02:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋