I'm just found out I'm pregnant and and we want to keep the baby, but my boyfriend mom doesn't like me because I'm 23 and he's 21 and we don't want to have an abortion because we don't want to kill our baby :( What should we do?????????
2007-08-27 16:18:33 · 21 answers · asked by C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Honey.. My moms boyfriend hates me to...
Its all because I "took" her little boy away..we are both 21 though, and we have a 5 month old baby, and we have been together for 3 years now..
It dont get no better really, She just doesnt see her grand daughter and I dont have anything to do with her, (mainly because when I 1st got pregnant she was telling my boyfriend that I got pregnant on purpose and I just wont someone to take care of me, all the bs... (and I would have gotten to start nursing school this year but takin a year off now cuz of the baby).. but enuff about that...
IF you guys love each other and stuff dont let her distroy your realtionship... a baby is a very great gift from God. .. ..
If she dont come around..just dont have anything to do with her. .. .. let only your boyfriend talk to her, and you dont have to be anywhere around her.. not welcome her to your home n such.. its mean i know but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.
2007-08-27 16:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by Stacey22 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not have an abortion because your boyfriend's mother does not like you! It is not her decision - the baby will not be her baby. If you and your boyfriend want the baby, then there is your decision.
A baby is a gift! I believed I would never have one, so we adopted a baby, then I fell pregnant. When I saw the first ultrasound, I fell in love and when I first felt the kicking, it was the most amazing feeling in the world. Don't let this baby go! Stick together and keep the baby.
Being a mum isn't always easy - but, in my experience, it is an adventure. Look forward to meeting your baby, seeing the first smile, the first steps, the first words. Be amazed at what your baby can do. Your baby will be the smartest, cutest and best baby in the world - every mother thinks so. Be strong and give yourself the chance to experience the wonder of being a Mum.
By the way, I am 2 years older than my husband. Age doesn't matter, love and commitment to your relationship does.
2007-08-27 23:32:34 · answer #2 · answered by Lofty M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have an abortion in the first weeks of pregnancy, you are not "killing the baby." The "baby" looks like a splotch of strawberry jam at this point. It does not have a brain yet, let alone legs or arms. Pro-life propaganda will tell you otherwise, but your "baby" would not be recognizable outside of your womb at this point.
But I digress....
It's your life, not your boyfriend's mom's life. Who cares if she doesn't like you? There is a 2 year age difference. Big deal. Are you sure it's your AGE that is putting her off?
That is the least of your worries right now. What I am wondering is this:
-Are you ready to have a baby?
-Where will you all live?
-Do you have medical insurance?
-Can you provide for a child?
-Have you been with your b/f for very long?
-Are you ready to be linked to him for 18 years as you both raise a child together - whether or not you make it as a couple?
My answer is this: think long and hard about this. Because after the baby showers and gifts are over, real life begins.
2007-08-27 23:33:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER in a million years let this woman affect what you do to your baby and body. There are many things to consider. first of all, having an abortion may seem like an easy way out, but it's not. This already happened, and you cannot make it go away. Even if you got an abortion, that would not make this go away.
Consider: emotional toll on you for the rest of your life for killing your baby, possible medical complications, possible future fertility problems (some websites claim this is not true, but if you read other it says that it can).
Do NOT by any means let this woman affect your decision!
You know what is best for you! Sure, this is not going to be the easiest situation, but having an abortion is not going to make it any easier!
Have your baby. Whether you want to raise her/him yourself or give him/her up for adoption is the question you should be discussing.
Leave her out of all discussions regarding this. it is not her business!
2007-08-27 23:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kristin B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already answered your own question. You should keep the baby. So you're 23 and he's 21. It is not as though you are 13 and he is 11. You are both grown adults, it is just time to grow up mentally and emotionally now. Whether or not his mother likes you is completely irrelevant to the life of this child.
2007-08-27 23:24:11 · answer #5 · answered by Erin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep your baby, Dont worry about his mother. If you two are both willing to be there for the baby and love it who cares what she thinks, you are both adults and are capable of making the decision on your own with out the help of a negitive person on the sidelines.
When i told my parents i was pregnant they were angry because they didnt like my partner, he is 23 and i am 19, I didnt care because i know what i want and i want to have this baby with my partner. All you need to think about is you, your partner and your beautiful baby that you are carrying, Dont think about negitive stuff!
Congrats on your little one and goodluck for the future!
2007-08-27 23:29:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two are adults and are clearly old enough to make your own decision. Do not listen to what someone else thinks, would do, or want you to do. You already answered your question--you want to keep the baby. So--do what is right for you, your BF and this baby, your family. If you are still living at home...etc...it's time to grow up, make a home for your family now. Good Luck.
2007-08-27 23:23:33 · answer #7 · answered by crazymom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the age really doesn't matter, you were obviously old enough to know what you were doing. His mom liking you or not isn't really the problem, although it doesn't matter....the problem is that she is afraid for her son, and if given the opportunity probably you too, but its her son, and she feels like he is taking this giant step in life, that he's not ready for...........and maybe he's not but its a little late for that. i agree with your decision to have the baby, I am toatlly against abortion, I believe that God controls life, not us, but you will be connected with this woman for the rest of your life, if you have her grandchild, so my suggestion would be to go to her, and talk to her, let her know that you love her son, and want this baby, and you will do your best to take care of them both, and it would be nice if you two could be friends and work things out..........if she is the mother she claims to be...............she will be open to having a relationship with her son, and grandchild, if not...........learn this is what not to do with your child, and still be the best mother you can be..........remember motherhood is for life..........not just until they get married or have a baby, you are the mother forever, and you would want to have a good relationship with your childs spouse......try to work it out, and never use your child as a weapon against his mother...........good luck and I will keep you in my prayers........Love becky d.
2007-08-27 23:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by becky d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We'll you shouldnt give a damn what she thinks. I am 21 and my husband is 33 and we have a 6 mth old and trying for aanother. His mother cannot stand me. I dont care because when the stick turned pink I had my family. My mother in law said she didnt want to be a grandma again and she said we were crazy. I told her to get the h**l out of my house and dont come back so did my hubby. You and your bf and that baby is family and thats all thats inportant sweetie. Tell her to stick it!!
2007-08-27 23:26:32 · answer #9 · answered by Mom to Isobelle 2, & Gavyn 8mths 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL I'd tell her to kiss off personally. Unless there is some reason why she controls his life it's really none of her business what he does or who he does it with! If you guys love each other have the baby and love it with all your hearts. She will either get over it for the sake of spending time with her grandchild or she won't and she'll miss out on the joys of being a grandparent. Either way you don't need her permission to have your baby!
2007-08-27 23:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by starfire978 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋