tomboy daughter?

Question

My 10 year old daughter is turning into a tomboy! She loves to hunt and do anything outdoors with her daddy, which is great! I love the fact that she is close with her dad because I never was. The problem is that she likes to wear camo shirts (all the time), and a camo hat too. A woman at walmart actually called her a boy last weekend! Is it wrong for me to want her to look more like a girl? I insisted that her new school clothes be decent looking...not just t-shirts...but not all pink on the other hand! I don't want to take away her personality, I just want her to be a girl!

I meant to say that I was never close with MY dad..not her dad (to whom I've been married to for nearly 12 years!!!)

Answer 1

Chill, don't worry. I'm a 15 year old girl and well, I'm still a tomboy, but I'm certain your daughter will grow out of it as many of the previous answers have stated. And as for the woman calling her a boy, tell her to get her eyes checked. In my opinion, you should just let your daughter grow up in her own way. Don't follow in my mum's footsteps in trying to get your kid Barbie dolls, I ended up pulling their limbs off. Not a very nice experience for her I guess. =(

So on the whole, don't get too worried, cause when your daughter gets a crush later on in her teen years, you'll be the one begging her to be a tomboy again when she actually starts being all girly. I got that from watching my cousin and her mum together.

Answer 2

Don't worry. I was the same way at her age, but I became more feminine as I grew older. While I've never been really girly, I do wear skirts now and more feminine clothes while still maintaining my adventurous spirit.

Don't try to throw in really feminine colors like pink into her wardrobe just yet. Buy her feminine shirts that are earthy colors like green, blue, and grey. As for pants/shorts, buy blue jeans with a bootcut style (I doubt she'll like the skinny jean look) or dark green shorts to ease her out of the camo style.

Don't completely remove the clothing she likes or she'll resent it. Just gradually introduce her to other styles of clothing to show her that she can be herself and feminine at the same time.

Even if she refuses to wear more feminine clothes now, I wouldn't worry just yet. She's only ten and is probably not too fashion conscious. Her clothing preferences may change drastically in the next few years naturally on her own.

Answer 3

I used to be a bit of a tomboy, as were many of my friends. Now we're older though, and have much more 'feminine' tastes. She is a girl, even if she doesn't dress like one, and she also has feelings. They will get hurt if you try to tell her to be more of a girl. Trust me. People did this to me, and now I've got a real thing about the fact that I look masculine (apprantly I don't, but I'm convinced I do), and I've got a hnag up that nobody will find me attractive. Now that could be due to being ugly, or it could be due to people all those years ago telling me I should be 'more like a girl.' Your daughter is who she is, and it's a phase. You're better off letting her grow out of it, and learning for herself what she likes and who she wants to be. Hope that helps, and sorry if I was a bit rude to you!

Answer 4

My daughter is 10 as well, and just this past month or so has completely changed her "style". She has always been tom-boyish, and now (completely on her own) she has decided to wear skorts & skirts nearly every day! She was told that once in middle school, the girls dress much differently. She loves her new look (and so do I). Point is, it's likely a phase that she'll outgrow....just be happy that she is happy! It's great that she is close to her dad!

Answer 5

Don't worry. I don't think that this will last long. I was in a class with a tomboy, and she eventually started dressing like a girl by the end of the school year. It was because her friends were dressing very girly like and she just decided that it was more fun to be a girl than a boy.

Answer 6

GO FOR IT! They can't keep her off the team when I was in HS we had a girl on our football team. Just talk to her about the precautions and what not because with pads and a helmet on those boy on the other teams may not notice that shes a girl and may be just a rough as they would with any of the guys. Just make sure she knows what shes getting into, but if she is confident that thats what she wants to do then by all means help her follow her dreams!

Answer 7

It's just her style. Although, I was never like that when I was 10. I LOVED all things pink and girly. I'm still sort of a girly-girl, but I do like to go hiking and have campfires. As for the lady who called your daughter a boy, all I want to say to her is, "GET WITH THE TIMES! Girls can do anything boys can do now!"

Answer 8

Just let her be, I'm 14 and my mom lets me dress however I want as long as itsn ot offending or slutt-y. I'm a tomboy but also a goth/punk. Let her see what she wants to do. My grandmother trys to force me to wear flowery crap and lots of dresses etc, I like dress don't get me wrong, they offer nice refreshing breezes, she just doesn't like what I pick out. We usually end shopping with an argument and clothes I'll never wear, or nothing at all.But thats the way grandmother's are, shes old fashioned and thinks girls need to be girly and wear pink etc. Just let her be. Thats what my mom did, she actually wishes she was young because she wants to dress more like me but shes almost 50 and it'd look a bit strange :-p.But so like I said, let her be and choose how she wants to dress

Answer 9

You shouldn't change your daughter! I'm 14 and I'm still kinda that way. I love to hunt and do things outside and wear camo. It was worse when I was that age, trust me she'll grow out of it like I did, but it probably wont totally go away.

Answer 10

This is what's wrong with today's society. Let her act like that. Don't force her to play with dolls and wear make up and stuff. If she likes the outdoors then let her go. She is still a girl physically and mentally. For God's sake just leave her alone.

CHRIST^up