We've been together nearly three years, somewhat turbulant but overall okay. Two months ago, she left over an infatuation with another guy, which amounted to nearly nothing. Then she began seeing another guy named DJ, which shortly there after they decided to be just friends. She has since moved home, but talks to DJ on the phone for hours at a time usually late at night, and says that my prior jealousy issues about other men make it akward for her to have these conversations with me in earshot, so she goes to rooms that I won't be in when she talks with him. They spend time together, on average once or twice a week, seeing movies, having a drink as friends. Should I be angry about this, or am I paranoid because of what has happened? I am not too very angry about her little relationships over the past two months, more hurt than anything, but I am committed to working things out, and she says she is too.
2007-08-27 14:58:24 · 16 answers · asked by b.kgrove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
put your foot down stop it.... i bet he makes her understand things better and they talk about your marriage also he is trying to help..... or runnnnnn
2007-08-27 15:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you had a recent head trauma? Or you just a plain idiot?
Sorry, but you are not from this planet!!!!!
Send that HO HO packing, how dare you put up with this s...
I would have no kind of respect for you as a man neither does she that is why she walks all over your azz. Forgive my language but I am so upset , I hope your mom doesn't know of this she would not claim you.
OK BUDDY time to step up to the plate you are a man (hopefully) now act like one sex ain't that great not with that trash so take out the trash if possible now.
Don't leave my hanging get with it.
Hopeful in GA
2007-08-27 23:01:55 · answer #2 · answered by maria s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she`were truly committed to your marriage, she would do anything to help it. I think you should talk to your wife about these issues and try different solutions. Ask her if she is open to the idea of only meeting DJ once every 2 weeks. Tell her to talk with you in the room and promise to not say anthing about the conversation she his having w/ him.
I feel you should be pissed about this and me personally would not have let her back in. I cant tell you what to do, but be very cautious w/ her.
2007-08-27 22:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by DRIVER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's using you...HELLO!! I got ticked when you say she left, came back & continued her bull RIGHT UNDER YOUR NOSE!! "Prior jealously issues" which you had every right to be jealous, then she takes the phone to another room?!?!? Movies, drinks, are so NOT appropriate with the ex's. She knows better than that. You're so twisted around her 2.5 carat finger, you can't see that you're being played, in the WORST way. Open your eyes and quit being so stupid! Why are you letting her control you this way. She's demeaning you, NO RESPECT for you or your lovely home. Kick her slut @$$ out!
2007-08-27 23:49:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should have more respect for you and not be seeing as much of this guy as she is.
You have a right to have an issue with it due to the past!
For the both of you to work it out she needs to cease all contact with her past flings for now.
Personally i think that you are probably better moving on, she sounds like she has no respect for you!
You are not a doormat....stand up for what is yours!.....your wife!!!!Tell the other guy to rack off!
2007-08-27 22:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me, young man. What is wrong with you? When two people are in a committed relationship such as marriage, one of them does not do what your wife is doing. This is inexcusable...you allowing her to do what she is doing to you and to your marriage. You both need some serious counseling. Please get your wife and yourself to a good counselor right away. You have self-esteem issues because no man would allow a woman to do what she is doing to you. You deserve better. She has issues with self esteem as well. She feels she has to have all these different relationships to feel good about herself. GO SEE A COUNSELOR IF YOU ALL ARE COMMITTED TO SAVING YOUR MARRIAGE!!!!!
2007-08-27 22:06:12 · answer #6 · answered by Perez Helton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your wife moved home so she could continue to be unfaithful? I am surprised at your acceptance of this behavior. Move her out and get on with your life. She obviously has not changed. You do not and should not approve of what is going on. Get angry and get a divorce. AT the least move her out and get on with your life. She has no desire to work anything out with you. If she was committed she would not continue to be unfaithful and in your face with it.
2007-08-27 22:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife is wanting to work things out, she needs to spend her time trying to create emotional ties with you. If she is not talking to you and talking to some other guy she is forming an emotional affair, if not a physical affair, with this other guy. If she has to be secretive, then she doesn't need this relationship. Not sure she is really wanting to work things out. She wants her cake and eat it too, so to speak.
2007-08-27 22:06:25 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man Up...... and quit being a doormat. She's not "just friends" with these guys and as much as she says she wants your marriage to work... she's not working too hard at it. She's just using you as her security blanket that she can run home to. Toss her out and don't take her back. Let's see if her "friends" take care of her
2007-08-27 22:23:51 · answer #9 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you are the one having problems if you are letting your wife has affairs/relationships or whatever you want to call it with other men. Sorry bud, but its time to leave this women, she will just continue to mess around on you and blame you. especially since you don't seem to concerned or upset about it.
2007-08-27 22:08:44 · answer #10 · answered by leo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly if I were you I would have filed for divorce on grounds of abandoment the first time she took off. You've brought all of this on yourself by allowing her to keep on returning to the marriage so no you have no right to be angry.
2007-08-27 23:26:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋