2007-08-27 14:36:30 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
because she is a control freak.
2007-08-27 14:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by cowboy_fan 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I knew this couple where the wife was always trying to tell her husband what to do. He would say ok to please her but then not do what she asked just to feel like he had control. Stupid games. She would just get mad and more demanding and he would continue and not do what she asked. I asked him if what she wanted him to do was something uncalled for or out of the ordinary, and when he thought about it he said no. I told him that if he would actually do what he agreed to do in the first place she would not be so demanding. It worked. He even started helping out with out having to be asked and that made him feel better and she wasn't nagging and treated him with a lot more respect. Marriage is give and take. You get out of it what you put into it. If you have to be asked all the time to do something - thats what a 6 year old is like. A real husband helps without having to be asked.
2007-08-27 14:53:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What she is doing is abuse. If your working keep some money out for lunch for yourself. Don't give her all your money. She has no right to do that married or not. People like her rarely change unless they have some kind of counseling. Unless she is willing to work on her attitude and change I would leave. Hell that's like living in a prison, and your right about taking the argument in the other room away from the child. Only thing she is teaching him is how to be like her. It's a viscous cycle and when he's grown he will repeat it and it will just keep going and going. If she starts yelling just look at her and walk away or go for a drive. Don't give in to her no matter what she does. Do your own thing, your a grown man. If you want to open a window open it, if you give in she will just keep controlling you. Like I said if she won't work with you on changing I would get out. Life is to short to live like that. And nobody deserve that kind of treatment. Good luck.
2016-04-02 02:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to expand on this, I think. I know that if I get into an argument with my husband, he always thinks I'm trying to control things. It's unfortunate, because it's not true, and the accusation leads to extrmely hurt feelings. You may begin to distrust your spouse (it goes both ways, I know).
I am on the flip side, where I am the wife who gets accused of this. It is the beginning of a very viscious circle. I recommend not to actually "believe" your partner is intentionally harming you, because then you get resentful of them. Instead, think about where else they may be coming from. Maybe they're defensive because of something that was said the night before (women tend to remember the bad :)) Are they trying to assert themselves because they feel they are being undermined themselves? Do they feel they need to be "bossy" in order to get you to do something around the house (i.e. cleaning)?
Your wife maybe has a reason like this, and I recommend probing her further. Then, she will feel like you care. Chances are, that's what she's looking for.
Women and men both have different responses to different things, but one thing is always going to be the same: they will never be on the same page:)
Good luck!
2007-08-27 14:53:34 · answer #4 · answered by wawas7 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does she have mental issues ? A loss ? lots of people try to control everything around them because they can not control their own feelings and emotions... Find the source, there are plenty of resources out there to help. Good luck!
2007-08-27 14:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would be able to answer better if i knew the age of your wife but if she is young (25 or under) it may just be immaturity. My guess though, regardless of age is insecurity. If she feels she has control of you and your doings she feels more secure. I doubt she is doing it to be mean or be a b*+ch, but more out of other feelings she is unsure of how to express. Now, however, if you have proven in the past reasons for her to not trust you that may be why she is doing it too.
2007-08-27 14:44:03 · answer #6 · answered by Peppy Lover Gal 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because we all have a little secret when we get married,and some time it gets out when we get married.Sit down with her and talk about it.Maybe she doesn't no she does it,if you don't tell her who Noyce what could happen.Some time we have to go and see a therapist for that if you want your marriage to stay in full bloom.
2007-08-27 15:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK well I'm not even close to being at the age for marriage, but honestly isn't that the woman's job in the marriage?
Haha I'm just joking, but seriously you should have known you were marrying a Type A before you got married.
2007-08-27 14:44:50 · answer #8 · answered by Nathaly 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She may need treatment for anxiety. If she has this brain disorder then she has to feel in control all of the time. Ask her to see the family doctor and ask for a prescription to help her. Best of luck to you!!
2007-08-27 14:44:54 · answer #9 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because some women are insecure. She thinks that if you're thinking for yourself and doing things on your own, you're instantly going to seek out other women.
Talk seriously to your wife about this problem, because if it doesn't get taken care of, it will drive you apart. If necessary, seek couples counseling.
2007-08-27 14:43:42 · answer #10 · answered by Nightlight 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because you are a reflection of her. And perhaps she's one of those many insecure people who only feel better trying to control everyone.
2007-08-27 14:41:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋