alright...here it goes..
my mother in law wanted my husband to get married to her niece( my mother in law's sister's daughter)
yes i know we marry in cousins..no rude comments
but my husband did not want to marry her as she is his first cousin and it would be gross..........so he married me...me and him are not related..
the problem is that my mother in law's sisters and brothers (the whole family) is upset that her son got married to me and not that other girl. and they are not talking to her. but she always babbles about how they used to be a "family" before me and always want to go to their place...........whenever she gets a chance (when her sister invites her just for formality) she goes and drags me along with her..........i mean if they said it on her face that "we did not like that decision ur son made and we do not like u"
why does she not have any self-respect and GO THERE EVERY TIME? WHY DOES SHE DRAGS ME TOO? WHAT CAN I DO TO STOP HER?
2007-08-27 14:26:40 · 7 answers · asked by Just another gal 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is an adult capable of making her own decisions. If she wants to go there and get emotionally beat up, then that is her prerogative, but you are also a free thinking adult and if you don't want to go, then don't go.
2007-08-27 14:38:24 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to bring your husband into this discussion. Drag you ? We always have a choice. You have the choice to work on this relationship with the both of them. It sounds like you need to put a line in the sand saying.. NO MORE. The choice has been made. (this is what your husband needs to say). Don't go anymore, if they don't respect you.. don't go. She needs to deal with this not you. If she can't then it becomes your husband's issue to intercede. Sometimes things work out best if we do nothing at all. Try it. Good luck!
2007-08-27 21:42:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain!!! I had a mother-in-law from hell !!! I wasn't good enough for her son. I got pregnant before we married and 1 month after I found out I miscarried and the butt made comments like that's what you get so I do understand. From now on don't go near the woman. Or if you have to take a stand!!! What does your husband say? It's called being bithchy but in a nice way don't take it!!! Stay away!!!! Hon, I feel for you and you will be in my prayers.
2007-08-27 21:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a hard time understanding how she can drag you there. You can not stop her from going but, you can say no
you are not going and don't go. Where is your husband during all this drama? Why are you going to family parties with out him.
2007-08-29 13:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats some real jerry springer material there. Besides from marrying your cousin probally isnt legally binding, its morally wrong. The mother in law and her harpies are just going to have to accept that he chose you as his wife, he wasnt forced into it and that he & you are grown concenting adults who are free to do whatever.
You probally dont need to say it in so many words, but i think it somewhat needs to be implyed
2007-08-27 21:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say she 'drags' you like she has ALL the power in the relationship?
isnt it time you bit the bullet and stopped being dragged?
if people are NOT supportive of your marriage then i would minimise contact with them - it is your husbands relatives not yours after all so why cant he sort it himself instead?
2007-08-27 21:38:10 · answer #6 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop going with her.
2007-08-27 21:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋