2007-08-27 14:09:02 · 26 answers · asked by 2see 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get out while you can. It only gets worse.
2007-08-27 14:11:25 · answer #1 · answered by cowboy_fan 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He has a problem and you need to get help for the both of you and/or leave. Abusers nearly always apologize, that's usually why their partners take them back. You're not stupid or anything for doing so, it can be very complicated when it involves someone you love and it's rarely as easy as just walking away. That's why you need to find help and counseling to make it easier and safer for you to do so.
Most abusers also escalate in violence, as shoving turns to hitting and punching which can turn deadly. Cases where wives and girlfriends end up murdered almost always started with shoving and apologies from their abusive partners. Be careful, get help, and stay safe.
2007-08-27 21:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by Ahni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They always apologize, it is a continous cycle. Unless your husband takes an anger management class, there is no way he will change. If that is totally out of the question, the only other alternative is to end the relationship, although you need to be very careful as that is when violence escalates. Is there a reason why you have not gotten a restraining order? Call the shelter for battered wives, see what advice they can give.
2007-08-27 21:16:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then u believe he loves u? I dont think we can stay with someone who does not love us. Yes, if u leave him u will be left slone for sometime, which is good. You find yourself, what u want to do. Tell your husband you need a break from him and leave him. Then you think about everything what has happened, why he behaved like that. If it's worth leaving him (Divorce), then do it. Leave a better life. Life is only one time dear, make the best use of it. Never get upset with ups n down, try to come out of it. All the best and make your best decision. Because u only know how he is to you.
2007-08-27 22:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At some point he will hurt you. It's hard to confront the fact that some one you love might go too far in an argument and cause you an injury. He needs some type of anger management program before it goes too far.
Call a women's shelter for advise. Look in the phone book. Just get some information to start. There are women there who have been in the same situation. Nip this in the bud. You can save your marriage and help him be a better man.
2007-08-27 21:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by Big Red 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He has a problem and even though he says he's sorry, he will still do it again. You let him get away with it again and again and the first hit was the hardest for him to do. After that its just easier for him to do it again, and again, until he eventually kills you or paralyzes you, then will you forgive him when your in a wheel chair? Get out now and find a real man that cares for you and takes care of you, not one that beats you and cares nothing about you. You are creating a definition of love that is very wrong and you need to know that, that is not the way love is. Love feels good and you want more and more. Love doesn't hurt and frighten you. Please get out now...
2007-08-27 21:17:29 · answer #6 · answered by ░▒▓► Aqua Fires 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is your question? Do you need someone to tell you that hitting you is wrong? Or that you should get out because he doesn't really love you? YOU have to realize that yourself. I think that people that stay in an abusive relationship have really low self-esteems. You do not have to put up with this. You deserve better. It doesn't matter how mad he gets, or even if you do something wrong, no one deserves to be abused. I hope there aren't children involved. If there are I really hope that you are not letting them see him hit you. Stop forgiving him.
2007-08-27 21:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was really sorry he wouldn't have done it in the first place. The violence will only get worse and if you have kids it will soon be directed at them. get out while you still can. The longer you wait the harder it will be. Call 911 if you are in immediate danger or cell information for the number to your nearest battered woman's shelter. Get out now or he will seriously hurt you or even kill. No man that loves you will ever hit you.
2007-08-27 21:20:15 · answer #8 · answered by kerijeanbean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will keep doing it you need to get out of that marriage. He isint sorry if he keeps doing it. When your truely sorry about something you dont do it again and you know you made a mistake. He has problems and you need to get away from him. One of these times you might not be so lucky to just get shoved around he can end up really doing something that will really hurt you. His apoligies are empty. GET OUT!!
2007-08-27 21:18:37 · answer #9 · answered by pinky112203 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T FORGIVE, GET OUT. before it's too late and you become another statistic. He WILL kill you one day if you don't get out . he will kill your spirit and your emotions because that's what abusive husbands do best. there is NO EXCUSE for any woman to be abused by any man. no matter how sorry he says he is. GET OUT NOW!
2007-08-27 21:16:44 · answer #10 · answered by gone! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one has the right to do that to you. Do not keep forgiving him. Best advice is for him to take an anger management class.
Best of luck!!
2007-08-27 21:16:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋