Is it o.k to get married because you are in love and get divorced because you are not in love ?

Question

If the answer is yes, why does the law not recognize this as a ground for divorce ?

Why do you have to prove "fault" to get a divorce, is it not sufficient for the law that you dont love your spouse anymore ?

Why is there no law that says only people in love should get married ?

Does the law care if people are in love or not when they get married ?

This is a rehtorical question, put for debate, please dont make me the subject here. I am not asking for advice, please express your opinion without getting personal.

This question is purely for the purpose of debate, it has no connection with any one. Please feel free to express your views but dont kill the messenger because you dont like the message.

Answer 1

Love is something you have to cherish and it is a choice. When you get married, you establish a covenant with your spouse. Day to day stresses can make you feel like you do not love them. Hollywood has made the euphoria of new relationship and lust what people think love is. When they do not feel that euphoric feeling, they do not love their spouse. You have to foster love.
Do you have mother, father, brothers or sisters? At times, you probably felt like you hated them at one time or another, but they are family and you have created a bond.

Love changes as you face the day to day life. A more mature love is developed, one that should see you through sickness, financial difficulties and other stresses of life. But it is easier to cut and run when life get's tough and say your are no longer in love. Usually it is the person is not willing to work on improving or spicing up their marriage.

If you do not want to work at your marriage, then I guess geting a divorce because you no longer love your spouse is ok. I think they call it irreconsilable differences or a no fault divorce.

Answer 2

Love usually is life long else its called infactuation!!

In India people, society, Judicary, Police and the Law'Order Machinery are spineless and would look at only from the Ladies angle of them being used and being made 2nd hand so if as a guy you think of a divorce all you stand is to loose.

And the basic funda or arranged marriage in the Indian Society and the Mentality is the cause the Law of the country is the way it is!!

Answer 3

I will not say that its ok to get married when u r in love.
Reason:-Marriage is something which requires something additional to love that is understanding,respect for each other and sacrifice. I m not saying that love is not necessary yes it is but still.
One shld not take divorce just because there is no love..Apart frm love one has lead a part of life together which consist of various small moments which they hav shared,all that they hav done for each other n their family is also attached with them n a lot depend on their relation.I will not agree until n unless there is any diff prob is also there along with this for divorce.

The law do not recognise this as a ground for divorce coz many people are attached to the marriage.Indian marriage is not just the marriage of two but the bond of two families n our culture teaches us the bonding.

As I already wrote....Love shld not be the only base for divorce.Indian culture do not support this.

Answer 4

Good idea! But just tell how one can prove with which piece of evidence that there is 'love' or 'no love'. How you can show to the satisfaction of the court that there exist no more love between the couple & they should be granted decree of divorce? Love is sentiment which no one can prove by any means or evidence not even by words but only be expressed & felt by each other actions. Rather then having this ground added in the various other grounds for divorce why not add 'irretrievably broken marriage' as a ground that was to be added long back on the recommendation of the Supreme Court of India & the Law Commission of India but missed its place due to some reasons. This ground is also taken in consideration by the various courts in the divorce cases coupled with other grounds such as cruelty or desertion etc. This ground finds its place in the various divorce provisions around the world in case of divorce because of fault. Let me cite here the words of the Supreme Court of India in Sanghamitra Ghosh V/s Kajal Kumar Ghosh Transfer Petition (civil) 228 of 2004 “Moreover, the essence of marriage is a
sharing of common life, a sharing of all the happiness that life has to offer and all the misery that has to be faced in life, an experience of the joy that comes from enjoying, in common, things of the matter and of the spirit and from showering love and affection on one's offspring. Living together is a symbol of such sharing in all its aspects. Living apart is a symbol indicating the negation of such sharing. It is indicative of a disruption of the essence of marriage --"breakdown"- and if it continues for a fairly long period, it would indicate destruction of the essence of marriage "irretrievable breakdown"."

Answer 5

Love is the chemistry of two working in tune . and they get closer, they share each other, physically, emotionally , then the question of making this JOY of Love comes into mind to make it a permanent feature of getting physical joy and emotional joy.. and MARRIAGE comes into mind..

But as the nature has it .. Mind takes swings . and Familiarity (one gets to know the topography of each other)Breeds Contempt.. Too Much (LOVE)of Any Thing Bores..
So mind finds some excuse to get away and fight or try to get new Fields.. So other becomes a Hindrance for the Craving of Newness.. This other who was a Love object turns into Hate Object.. and continued finest results into Divorce..

If and IF,Here if one gets married for love and
divorced due to Not in Love.. the Society will be continuously in one jamboree where every one is in Que for getting Married and Divorced.

for stability of Society, Law is against the Divorce

Answer 6

No, marriage is a committement, there is no need of love.
There is no need to get divorced because u are not in love, keep your committement. The girl is not a doll that u love and marry and suddenly u find a better doll and u throw the old doll away. The girl has life, feelings and needs love, care and a future. U have promised her in marriage and committed, and it is time to keep the committement, keep the promise till the end of life, yours or hers. Don't back out.

Answer 7

The rule is not what you say. In marriage tie it is always mutual understanding as friends and not bossing. Always try to adjust each other. Merely by sex satisfaction either spouse is not happy. Be generous so that all family members may enjoy.

Answer 8

Of course getting married is because you enjoy hanging out with them, and enjoy their personality. Not only is that but it is the person who you will be with having fun and involving a person who you really care about into your life. Though getting married is not only because you like the girls apperenace but because you enjoy her personality

And getting divorced is because you dont enjoy your life with them because tey are not the one you can tell by when you look into her eyes when you tell her something.

Answer 9

no man is perfect..

people not always taking right decision.. and especially in this case of love and marriage even nobody knows tat what is the right decision.. god only deciding..
but in my point.. if one start spell the word divorse from their mouth.. there is no meaning of speaking about love after tat.. love is also sacrificing our needs for the beloved one..
why divorse coming means we are thinking about our remaining 30 or 40 years life..
So before marry anybody better we should try to understand them,, if we feel a little bit doubt tat we can go wit them smoothly, simply leave them, so tat nobody get hurted and it is also love.
and in this world there is no such word as divorse..

Answer 10

yes it is better to love the one you marry, and divorce if you not in love, reason being, when you love the one your with things are easier on you, it is easier to help your partner if you love them, there-for you will stay with them , and be honest to them in everything that may come up in a marriage, you will also be true to them and be with only them. if you are not in love with your partner things will only get worse, you will not wish to help them in any matter, and you will cheat on them with someone-else.....listen to your heart.....not everybody-else,