I JUST found out i have a 4 year old son. Am i responsible for back support?

Question

I JUST found out i have a 4 year old son. I was sent court ordered papers to have a DNA test, and it is my son! I am paying child support each month now. But they say i owe 10,000 dollars back child support, and i cant afford to apy all of that right now. I though a man was only charged back child support if he knew he had a child, and refused to pay. But i never knew i had a child until now. How am i responsible for somthing i didnt know about? They tell me i have 30 days to pay off the back child suppport, or it will go ony my recond, and i wont be able to get any car/home loas, etc. How the hell can i pay 10,000 in 30 days!? That is not fair. Its not like i knew i had a kid or anything, the mother just now waited to tell me, because she needs money,

Answer 1

If you can, contact and hire a lawyer immediately. Some states have laws pertaining to child support where arrears can only be accumulated from the day the DNA was proven.

Answer 2

well you could go before the court and make a payment plan.

you know gotta think about this stuff before you have a kid - not after - if you enter into a sexual relationship - be responsible.

the mother came up with a lot more then 10k in those four yrs for the child.

do you feel any responsibility? do you know that child was created due to your actions - i am sure you do.

i hope you get over being freaked and enjoy your child for your sake and the child's sake.

i think it is a very positive sign that you are accepting responsibility from the time you found out - some scum bags would say they were tricked - like they were not even there.

Answer 3

I know how you must be feeling but at the end of the day you have to look at this situation as someone else,who is not emotionally involved would...A 14 year old left in care of a baby and toddler...and it is undoubtedly Wrong!. That's without considering the fact of the text messages,the fact that he was afraid,and like you say,God forbid anything happen while he is left in charge,your son would have to live with something that really wouldn't be 'his' fault for the rest of his life!. I understand you dont want to stop your son from seeing his father and rightly so if they were spendin quality time together, but have you thought of it this way?....You allow your son to go see his father and spend time with him,Right?..Yet all that happens is his father and new partner go out,leaving him AND there own children,spending NO time with any of them!!. Personally,I would discuss this with your son firstly and if he feels a little uncomfortable talking about it,(be that his father's doing or not),I would explain how you feel it is wrong that this onus is put on his shoulders and that his father should be spending time with him when he goes to visit,not taking his girlfriend out!,,The very least he could do is go out all together. After this,if the situation does not improve then I would defintely spak to your ex about it.Obviously he will be defensive if he ''see's no problem'' with his 14 year old looking after a baby and toddler,but calmly explain that if this 'babysitting' arrangement doesen't stop you will be forced to stop the visits in the best interests of ALL the children involved.Basically ecan react how he wants to,their isen't a court on earth that would disagree with you!. I wish you the best of luck and hope you can sort this out! xx

Answer 4

In many states support begins when paternity is established. Talk to someone who is familar with the child support laws in your state. Sometimes you can research that online .

Answer 5

You need a lawyer.
Yes, you'll have to pay.. but a lawyer can help you show you have just so much income to spare and will help get the payments spread out.

Answer 6

You should counter sue for four years loss of visitation rights. Get some leverage and go for a settlement. Also sue for custody on the grounds that she is unfit and cant support the kid.

Answer 7

yes you are responsible. please please please do what you can to pay off the back child support. I think 30 days is unreasonble. Please petition the courts to have the arrears added to your current child support payments. Meaning....lets say you pay $50/wk in child support. Ask them to take out $75 a week and put the $25 to the arrears. It happens all the time. Don't let the child support office kid you. If they are not willing to work with you (CALL THEM TOMORROW AND ASK FOR A HEARING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) then call your local legal aid office and ask for an attorney to assist you. You have a local legal aid office to, either it's local or county.

Good luck! Please continue to be financially responsible for that child.

Answer 8

Yes, you own. Now here's the crazy part, if you knew about the baby before it was born and you wanted the baby, there is not one thing you could have done to save that baby's life if the mother wanted to abort it. How's that for fair?

ps, congratulations!

Answer 9

For Christ sake, IT IS YOUR CHILD!!!
Try to negotiate the installments with child's mother and get in touch and stay in touch with your child.

There is not a treasure which can substitute being a parent or having a child.

Talk to them, please...

Answer 10

man that is some s**t! if possible, get full custody from that lying *****! also, you can sue the hell out of her for emtional distress and if you can't get full custody, sue for back visitation rights! hehe
if she can go there so can you!

get a lawyer now!!!